From my perspective, I found others to be boring. But to say that and place myself as a beacon of correctness as in ''This is the correct way you should be, like me, not like you are'' (like OP is doing) is foolish. In reality, as I said, the other side of the coin tells me the truth: that I find them boring because they are unable to make a connection with me and I am unable to connect with them. And this happens for no other reason that I am boring/despicable from their perspective.
People pretend to be something they aren't to gain the approval of themselves and/or others. If you're paying attention, it's pretty blatant. And if you consider the arrogance of most, it's a knock against the ego. So we play games to gloss over this situation like being "witty" or "funny" or entertaining each other in other ways.
Or, like the first reply, we get so terribly insecure and project our own faults onto whoever we can.
It all seems to be a protection mechanism of the ego.
>>16849497 Being in love sucks. You end up wanting to go out of your way for someone who isn't worth the massive amount of time you'll end up spending thinking about them, and if you think they are worth it, then clearly you're just blinded by infatuation and I hope you at least get some decent sex out of it.
As for people being boring? Only stupid people get bored. There is something interesting about every thing and every person. If you can't see that, then I guess you're just too dumb to open your eyes and learn about something new.
People don't fall in love, they just think they do. Still, if you plan on marrying someone, don't do it for love. Virtually none of your ancestors did it for that. Do it because he/she will help you and really cares for you.
You also have to realize that there is a massive difference between being loved and loving someone.
Loving someone is valuing their happiness and safety above your own. Being loved is being on the other side of that.
I guess I just contradicted myself, but the point I'm trying to make is that love isn't something magical and cosmic. It's simply caring about someone very deeply and having them care about you just as much.
>>16849658 Quit talking out of your ass like you are some kind of philosopher. Trying way too hard to sound intelligent, but you just come off as an assclown that just finished his first semester at community college.
It is relevant in the sense that when you are going to make such claims, like OP did, it is valuable to take into consideration that ''Oh wait, maybe I am not as great as I think I am'' and, in my opinion, people like OP should be confronted that way because, otherwise, they stay on this state of ''They are wrong, I am right, nothing to see here, moving on''.
As I said, but forgot to add, those who preach the sins of others know they are sinner themselves but TRY their hardest to stay away from such reality, so they can preach this and that with the pretension of living a clean life.
In other words, theres levels in the self absotion of man. When one goes in there for all the wrong reasons, shit goes wrong. And you never know if people like OP have ever considered for more than a second that maybe, just maybe, its not the others who stink.
>>16849750 Just not entirely sure why OP's post got turned into philosophical bullshit. Talking about projection like you just read babby's first psychology text. You have an air of arrogance about you. Even though you only display entry level knowledge. Basically you are saying a slightly more sophisticated version of "I know you are, but what am I?"
I am glad I caught your attention when I referred to your intellectual might. I was kind of hoping you were going to refer me to your academic background, maybe talk about your degree in X or Y, but that may come later isnt it?
Instead you decide to take a smarter approach in an attempt to hurt me, you decide to refer to my knowledge as ''entry level'', while also putting the word ''Arrogance'' on the sentence before.
This to illustrate your superiority above me.
Your post is the exact example of what I was talking about and that is that Yes. My post reeks of arrogance. And so does yours.
You see, I am aware of that fromt he very first moment I started writting that (and this) post.
Which is what I was referencing when we are talking about OPs situation.
I wonder tho whats next. What parts of this post are you going to pick apart and direct them towards me?
>Just not entirely sure why OP's post got turned into philosophical bullshit
I dont know either. I guess the topic seems inviting to discussing such things.
>>16849800 Are you implying such knowledge is stuff you find in a dissertation? My degree doesn't matter. I come here to be anonymous. We are all equal in that regard. Except those damnable tripfags. People like OP are irritating because they do not acknowledge that they are the problem and this causes them to stifle their own growth as a person. I was hoping to get him to look at his own faults. As we all should. Personally I would never complain that people are too boring. I make my own entertainment. If you can be there for people and know how to bring out the best in them you can make them really fun to be around.
You find the one person you don't find boring or despicable, and if they meet your physical standards for attraction, you fall in love. Thats it. Jesus Christ you people go on and on about all this edgy nonsense and show off how much of a beta /r9k/uck you all are.
My problem is similiar, although I don't think of people as boring or dispicable at all, I just don't feel attracted to anyone beyond being friends. Does anybody have advice for this? Similiar experiences? Does it fix itself over time?
Forget everything you ever learned about love. It's a stupid word that has over 10,000 definitions. Instead of looking for love, think of relationships as business partnership.
Your business is going to fail, if all she brings to the table is boobs.
It's going to fail if you are unsupportive of each other.
If either of you cheats, it's bad for business, but probably not something you need to bankrupt the company over, and throw it all away. You can still work together even if you agree that she is going to split her 50shares with someone else.
You do your job, she does her job. If one of you is slacking, the other has a right to bring it up at the board meeting. Crying isn't going to fix the problem, and name-calling will not be tolerated in the workplace.
Honey, you've gained 30 lbs this quarter, here are some weight loss projections based on removing the chair from your office. More time on your feet will give you more exercise. Oh darling that's a wonderful idea, I was getting a little lazy wasn't I.
Instead of that marriage bullshit where she thinks she gets half after she gets bored and fucks jamal, you each have your own subsidiaries of the company that are wholly owned by the individual partners. It's in your best interest to work together and be supportive of the other's departments. If you're in charge of manufacturing, and she's handling distribution or marketing, you both need to do your best to keep the wheels rolling. Never hold each other back. If manufacturing isn't keeping up with marketing's demand, it's best to work together to get on track, but you can outsource if necessary. nothing to get butthurt over. no unrealistic expectations about that a man's job, or that's woman's work. it's all spelled out right there in your employment manual that you received when you incorporated, and periodically updated at board meetings over he years.
think long and hard about who you want to partner with before you invest everything.
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