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>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon and frog posters
do you want to be peed on or do you want to be the pee-er?
if it's the former you might be able to negotiate if the girl really likes you
doubt you'll have much luck with the latter in any case
Girls: What kind of /fit/ should a
>177.5cm (5feet 10inches)
>rather broad shoulders,
>thick brown hair
>sortof ok jaw
>practically no potential for facial hair
kinda guy ideally be? I'm working towards something but I don't know what yet.
(I'l reply with picture of the kind of hair I have)
I'm not really looking to appeal to any of you specifically I just wanna look good so I have better chances of finding someone who can like me back.
Wow I had the exact same experience. I tried it on the way to school though. Careless of me.
So i'm interested in a girl who has broken up with her boyfriend about 3 weeks. I'm interested in her and have told her after which she has told me she is still wants to get back with her ex.
If they get back together I'll obviously be disappointed but i'll force myself get over it, however if this doesn't happen - how long should I try before moving on? Basically, how much time should I "give" her to get over her ex?
Not this handsome but similar cheekbone and jawline atm (should get better).
My hair is a bit darker.
>What a stupid question
Guess I'm stupid for asking then. I don't see the problem in looking nice for someone though. I'm gonna work my way through this for my own sake at least and it's nice to have a goal. Confidence is lacking, hopefully this helps that too.
gf wants to pierce upper half of the ear, i don't like it, i don't find earrings in upper half and find that it looks trashy. She keeps bringing it up, what do? i don't want to boss her or whatever, but i don't want to feel like a cuck for her not listening to me either
Girls have you ever been turned off by a guy backing down from a fight, or something else that made him look like a pussy? Is there an ultimate social supplication that would write a guy off for you?
I never been loved, Girls.
Desired? Yeah. I've been with many girls, had many affairs. I don't complain about those, I had fun...
I only had one serious relationship, and it wasn't with the right person. Not even the ones that considered her a "friend" talk to her now. Everyone pretty much aggrees she's such a frivolous, empty person.
But why she dated me? I talked with her ex-bestfriend a few hours ago. She told me "She's a materialistic, self drived bitch that could only be with herself. I remember her complaining a lot last christmas because she had to put effort on gifting you something. She actually said "Now I have to gift him something...". I think, anon, she just let herself go and went with the flow with you..."
I don't know how to feel. I keep thinking I deserve to be loved, that's one thing I'm growing from all this pain and contradictory feelings. I'm just not sure if I ever been loved. Or if I ever will
The reason I'm asking is because I've never had to care about my appearance because I didn't care about girls. Now I do and it's very clear I'm not cutting it in that department. Since I've never cared I don't really have a preference. And of the bodytypes listed are fine as a goal. Except spiderman and probably bodybuilder.
I have no idea what to go for but I can just ignore that for the next 6 months I guess.
I understand that any type of fit is better than unfit but I'd like a goal to compare to for motivation, and I can't pick myself.
Depends on the situation and his reasoning. There's choosing not to fight or argue with a drunk hobo and there's having no respect for yourself.
Not wanting to create a situation where the police get involved or you get a black eye is understandable. I'd rather see my guy back down then need to take him to an emergency dentist or deal with cops.
You were probably infatuated with her, it is clouding what your love really is. She sounds sociopathic, it's not your fault it didn't work out.
Do you need to feel loved to love yourself? That's not a good way to be.
Yes but there's generally desired figures. At least among men. What I see when I attempt to find men who are considered handsome generally is that they're not really a consistent type or it's very clear that their distinct faces make them. Only thing I know is that generally fat isn't appealing. So yeah that's suggesting I should pick something. But I can't really. I'l go find other opinions.
Women have broader ranges for preferences, at least from what I've experienced. Like I know girls who like the groomed ottermode office suit types, while I like the more gruff/ broad shouldered construction worker/ uniformed type men and dislike the polished city boy look. Male models are kind of a turn off to me for that reason, but some girls love it.
Guys what do you think about a chick who is into being pet like a kitten? I don't know if there's a word for it but the idea of it turns me on and I feel kind of embarrassed. I basically wanna ask my boyfriend but don't know a good way to describe it besides "massage without pressure"
Its easy to know you havent talked about this with other girls at all. Almost all women prefer a gentle touch rather than pressure. Men go vice versa. Its normal, just ask him to be more delicate.
If you actually want to be treated as a cat its called petplay.
Really? Isn't that like bdsm? I'm not trying to be his pet I just want that kind of affection like tummy rubbing and hair stroking. I feel weird just typing that but I really wanna express to my bf without being embarrassed
>Isn't that something that generally doesn't come up early on?
It varies. Theres a difference between talking about where you want to be in the future, and talking about a future with that person specifically.
You can talk about stuff like that early. If they don't agree then clearly you're out. If they do it's no big deal and you've agreed on something. Right? As long as you present the question correctly.
at least maybe 2 years ago someone posted a photo of a shirt he (possibly) made. Looked all over for it on the internet and found nothing so I assumed he made it. So i thought i should make them in different versions and sell them to friends and then to the public if that many people want them. Is this a bad idea? It wouldn't be the same "design", it would just be a few different versions of it. I wouldn't really call it a design because he just printed it off another product
>inb4 come up with your own ideas
im not a fashion designer i just think the shirts would be cool
Mentioning you went through a breakup more than once during a private conversation, are you hinting? or am I overthinking it?
I have good chemistry with a girl from my study group and she said this while we were having coffee a few days ago.
I think my early work was a bit too chaotic. But when I added Battlestar, I really came into my own; comically and artistically. My whole body of literature has a clear, crisp message, and a new sheen of consummate professionalism that really gives this board a big boost.
Anyone i think
gf is nervous about receiving oral but i really want to please her thanks to this
how can i ease things ? And... any tips about eating a girl ? Only had dicks so far.
I asked a woman once if she was seeing anybody (obviously indicating that I was interested) and she told me she had a boyfriend, but we still run into each other often enough and do some trite, personal exchanges. I figure if I can't have her love, I'd at least like to try for a platonic relationship.
Would it be weird to ask to her to lunch considering the past? We met in a class but she occasionally comes into my place of work for assistance.
Ok first date went well. She laughed a lot. We talked more on the way though, and a bit awkward when having meal but and all not bad.
How long should I wait before I ask her out again?
Shortly before my gf came over today, she messaged me 'leaving my house now', we didn't set a time so to clarify I asked 'are you coming to mine now' (so I would know to start getting ready) she replied 'omg I said I was'. I called her out for being snappy, she said she wasn't being snappy/or annoyed. I didn't push it/ask for an apology because I did want to see her today and couldn't be bothered dealing with the drama over something so petty.
Was what she said snappy? Should have I called her out more for it or did I do the right thing (by just dropping it)?
My good female friend recently told me that she wants to try dating me. I've always had feelings for her and she revealed to me a couple years back that she liked me (but I didn't catch on). We're suppose to get dinner together later this week. Do you think there is a chance of this actually working? I've always heard stories about things like this not working out (I really want it to work out though).
Ok, let's be honest here.
How bad is mild acne on an adult?
I'm old enough now that I have to accept that this shit is never going to go away.
Every so often I get a zit or two on my face.
It's not enough to get accutane or an equivalent, but it's still fucking there.
I have a good job. I go to the gym.
But whenever there's a zit, I feel like fucking scum.
What do you girls think?
It's always killed by self-confidence
It can work fine.
But also be aware that she isn't physically attracted to you.
Otherwise, she would have never have been your friend and just dated from the start.
Hit the gym, flabby.
Oh so you're one of those types.
Yeah go for it, I guess.
But still, there's a reason why she's only dating you know.
Be wary of that.
Don't get too invested until you know that she wants you more than you want her.
I feel like a wreck. There is a girl at work I've been talking with a ton over the past 4 months. We've became close over this time period, and I've developed feelings for her. But there is a problem. She currently has a boyfriend.. Her boyfriend treats her like shit, and she CONSTANTLY complains about him. I don't know why the hell she is still with him, but I don't know what to do or say. I am crushing on this girl hard. I've opened myself up to her, and she did the same with me. When we need to vent, we go to each other. Or when we need to be cheered up. We cheer each other up. She's great! Just, the whole boyfriend thing. It's like a mindfuck to me. I don't understand. I want to let her know how I feel. But I don't want to fuck up our friendship.
What do I do?
opened a thread but didnt get an answer so asking here.
So I've had couple local relationships with chicks and the way I started it was, I'd ask "X" out, and she'd accept and then everything would just build up, without really talking about feelings, but I cant really do that online.
I have a decent life atm, got job, studying, I spend my free time on gaming, so I was wondering how am I supposed to start long distance relationship?
Oh I'm just drunk and angry.
I forget about having a face like Yellowstone Park when I'm sober.
Just when I get to a mirror at the end of the day, I feel like such an ass walking around like I was like everyone else when I'm almost 30 and still have teenage acne.
I can't help but retroactively feel that every girl is thinking "Is this nigga serious?"
The thing is that the serious acne treatment essentially rolling a dice on fucking up your liver.
So they don't prescribe that shit unless you have more craters than the moon.
But like one or two floating zits?
Yeah, not worth it they say.
Sure I have some topical cream, but that's like closing the stable doors after the horses have run out.
And you best not tell me that fucking pillow trick. I've heard them all.
>I never been loved,
>Desired? Yeah. I've been with many girls, [...] I'm just not sure if I ever been loved. Or if I ever will
You do realize how angsty and melodramatic that all makes you sound right? You're letting random outside shit dictate what you feel.
I want kids, so kind of. My girlfriend is on the fence about kids, but I figure that's something we figure out when it becomes a more pressing issue.
>Guys what do you think about a chick who is into being pet like a kitten?
Like, being caressed and stroked? My girlfriend really enjoys it when I do it, and I know another female friend who likes it too. Don't think it's that uncommon.
well, the girl I like is in a long distance so I'd love to give it a try.
she's from the same country where im gonna go in a year or so.. so thought I'd love to give it a try, problem is I dont know how.. its not like real life.. at least for me.
I'm moving away soon to get a fresh start
I really hate myself and think I should "fake it till I make it"
So I guess the question is what is confident behavior. My fear is that at any stress I'll crack and be back to my usual little bitch self, I want to stay consistent you know
I know it may seem like, by opening up to each other, you've grown 'closer', but chances are she sees you as emotional support. This is a problem, because girls tend to put guys into categories, and 'emotional support' is as far from 'boyfriend material' as possible.
Think about it this way; you're very valuable to her. You've proven that you can be reliable, someone she can always come to for emotional support. She won't risk what she has built with you by trying to become an item.
Personally--because I just spent the worst year of my life trying to salvage a relationship (on different continents). Long distance takes perseverance, determination, and stubbornness. It sucks. It's miserable. It's horrible. few survive.
it's a bitch. I'm not even in a LDR. But this Italian girl I'm friends with is killing me... We talk constantly and skype.
She sent me this gif when I woke up saying "I want to wake you up like this one day ;)"
Fuck me. This sucks
If she wants you, she finds you.
What she did was lowkey tell you to fuck off.
If you were sick and into a girl, would you tell her that you'd contact her later?
It's done, move on.
No, but might be difficult for you to know how to interact and how to treat the person you're dating.
I'm currently seeing a 27 year old guy, and he told me he had only one girlfriend before me. I honestly think he may have been lying about that considering he doesn't really know how to get to know someone, and seems to be damn terrified initiating at any physical contact. Also, I met a friend of his, and he said as long as he's known the guy I've been seeing (about 7 years), he doesn't remember a single time he's had a girlfriend.
Honestly, you aren't a lost cause. People start dating at different ages for different reasons. Just put yourself out there. You can do it, and don't beat yourself up if things don't work out.
I've asked once in December. And once about a month ago, she said she is not looking for any relationship right now. And especially since we've only met once. She doesn't want to jump into something. Even though we have constant communication. I will be meeting her again this summer, so "maybe" it could happen. But I don't know.
I'm just trying to enjoy what we have now...
I suppose it isn't fair, but think about it like this - She values your company so much, she's afraid that entering into a relationship would ruin what the two of you have. If you're adamant enough about it, it's possible to persuade her, I suppose. But, there's still a risk she will simply alienate you, which is the worst outcome (You lose her entirely).
Typical college autism post
>talk to qt3.14 in my piano class
>tell her we should practice playing for each other so we're used to the nerves for recitals
>she somehow accepts this pretense
>play with her a few days ago, didn't touch her or flirt cause im a pussy
>get her number
>saw her again today, she told me when she's free to play again (thurs)
>didn't seem flirty or anything, seemed pretty innocuous
>last time I'll see her before recitals and the pretense will be gone
>gotta somehow engage and escalate and gauge interest in a brief window
What do I do? At this rate we'll be strangers soon
Things have already changed and she can't take it back. She can either choose to have a relationship with you or find another best friend, because it will be awkward and you two will grow apart.
How do I get positive experiences with women?
I have a ton of female acquaintances but we don't really connect and it seems like the issue is on both sides rather than just me avoiding them
I've been to therapy and stuff, but I think the fact that my personal experiences with women are either very negative or really shallow is preventing me from functioning properly in society and stuff
Cis les here btw
Well, if you really fancy her, this isn't the time to simply accept her word and roll over. Be adamant about it. Show up in person and tell her what she means to you. Be passionate, be serious. If she still rejects you, there's officially no chance. Showing her you're confident in you ability for making you both happy in a relationship means a lot, even if she's on the fence.
Meet her physically and talk to her.
Have a serious talk. Shit has changed either way now, man. Make sure whatever you do, stay friends, get together, cut contact, you both agree.
Because that shit is fucked.
Can you piano four hands? It would get you close to her. But, if you haven't done any effort so far to make your interest noted, it would be a terrible idea to suddenly shower her with it.
I guess this is all for the best, but I just feel like shit I would have honestly dated her. I think it's time for me to invest in a face transplant or a lot of alcohol guys.
We're beginners so we can't really play real 4 hand pieces, but we were practicing on the same piano at once in that fashion
Basically I need to somehow ramp up my kino tomorrow and then after class ask if she wants to do some thing on the weekend? Cause it's gonna seem weird if I text her about it when I could have asked her
In person > texting, always. It shows confidence.
You can ask her out for sure, but it does depend on how 'tame' your sessions have been. If it has been strictly business, so to speak, I don't know. You're the better judge of your chances. Either way, taking chances and asking her, if nothing else, shows you've go confidence and that's always a plus for you.
Is it possible that this boyfriend actually has some good qualities which makes her inclined to stay with him but because she uses you to vent you have a skewed perspective on what he's actually like? Especially if you've never met or interacted with him before, it's quite possible you aren't being given the full story.
As for the rest, unless she leaves him of her own accord you probably don't stand a chance. You honestly don't really want a girl who will dump her boyfriend to get with another dude anyways, if she does it for you she will (likely) do it to.
Find some other qt.
Or fucking talk to her. She's interested in you, but she's scared. Find out why. Discuss together if that fear is reasonable.
She can't make the feelings you both have disappear, which is what it sounds like she wishes could happen.
I had plans to chill and grab lunch/study with a girl in one of my college classes for last Thursday. She texted me 3 hours before we had planned to actually meet up saying "Hey, I'm so sorry to cancel today but my parents are bringing my car up this afternoon! :("
I didn't respond initially and she sent another text an hour later saying "I feel awful I'm so sorry"
On a side note she wrecked her car a few weeks ago and I'm pretty sure she did actually get her car that day. Was this her lowkey way of telling me to fuck off since she didn't offer an alternative after cancelling our plans? Or should I try to ask one more time?
First of all, don't even bother thinking of the myriad of reasons she flunked on you, it's a waste of time and only makes you confused and upset.
There is a legitimate chance that something else came up, and if you cannot verify it, there's no point in trying to mull it over. Accept her word, and do another date as soon as possible. If she continues to make excuses, or doesn't show up, she's not interested. This will be your cue to move on.
So if I'm to ask her out tomorrow for say Saturday at a specific time, if she says she can't then for reason X and doesn't offer anything else, I should just take it as a no correct?
Shotgun it. Make conversation with tons of random girls. Just practice it. They won't think anything of the conversation down the line.
My interactions with girls have been good because I'm generally friendly and smiley and kind to a fault.
I've also given up on a lot of caring.
Being happy is not a necessity for being smiley. I have depression. But I smile at people and watch my body language.
Generally you just need to practice and see what works for you.
I intend to practice a lot at the lesbian bar on my 21st.
You haven't really given us much to work with so there's not much I can say.
Question for both genders.
Whenever I eat a girl out, the saliva in my mouth builds up too quickly and I can't swallow it down fast enough, making it a very very very messy business. My gf doesn't like receiving just because it becomes so messy. Any tips?
Which would a woman rather have. A guy who doesnt look at porn and fap and has amazing 7x5 erection, or a guy with a larger penis 8x6 erection.
Because my dick is shrinking from no fap and Im wondering if its worth it.
>eating girls out
This is the most beta thing. She probably doesnt like receiving so she doesnt have to deal with a beta cuck. Do you know what you are licking. That vaginal residue is filth with left over sperm in it. How can you degrade yourself so far.
No tips from me, but honestly, the messier and wetter, the better! Never experienced that problem, so it sounds odd to me. Might be an excuse because she doesn't enjoy oral sex?
Also, if she sucks at sucking dick, tell her how to improve, girls don't have a dick and we have no idea what you enjoy (and different guys enjoy different things), communicate and guide her. Life's too short for shitty blowjobs.
it is naturally messy, however, if that's what's stopping her from wanting it you probably just don't know what you're doing. my personal tip is to hum the abc's quietly but enough to vibrate your lips, which should be lightly suctioned around her clit, while drawing each letter of the alphabet on her clit with your tongue, generally draw the letters fast and hum a little slower because you'll end up humming through the whole song a couple of times before you finish drawing them out.
This is probably going to sound dumb, but I'm socially retarded so might as well ask.
Let's say you're at a party, and at least two guys are obviously interested in you. Which one has the best "chances" between the one who's constantly with you, and the one who occasionally comes to see you while still talking to everyone?
I was at a party yesterday, and noticed a girl that I was into right away. I was the one who socialized with everybody else and came to see her maybe twice. And she had this guy who was always following her, and I know they met that night so he seemed quite interested too.
bottom line, when she left, she came to say goodbye to me and said yes to my proposition to contact her and see her again. I just wonder if that guy might still be in the picture, and thus which kind of behavior is "more favored" between his and mine generally.
As I said, probably a dumb question but I'd rather ask.
Spending as much time as possible with the girl seems obvious but no one wants to be suffocated.
The one with the best chances is the one who seems more genuinely interested, meaning the one who makes the first move/s. This is assuming that both guys are equally good looking and have nice personalities.
Girls: A girl I recently started dating texted me freaking out about school, what's the ideal way to react? is it a less is more situation where I say that I'm sorry and that it's a shitty situation she's in? or do I try and motivate her and make her feel good about herself?
This is really fucking pathetic but if she liked a post about relationships on facebook right after she got home from hanging out with me and she NEVER likes shit on facebook does that mean anything? am i actually being lead on or am i retarded
probably coincidence. But she may be trying to give a subtle hint to you. Or that may be what she wants. Or she just randomly found the post amusing
If you like this girl spend more time with her, and if you feel something ask her out you fucking pussy
- When i say she never likes posts, i mean seriously never seen her like a post
- It was a post from November 2015 about 'relationship goals'
- She told me not to ask her out, because she would prefer to ask me out instead.
I know that last point is weird, i can expand on it if you want
Brace yourself for some pretty weird shit.
We met about 2 weeks ago and talked once. I didnt know anyone on campus so i found her on facebook and admitted that i have 0 friends. She pretty much opened up to me and asked me to come hang out with her.
So we did that last thursday
Then she invites me over Friday night. We smoke weed (first time for both of us) and then i crash at her house (in her bed because i guess she just doesnt give a fuck). No sexual stuff, just playing around, sortoff flirting but shes not really flirty
On saturday she invited me over to dinner and then we watched Deadpool with her friend. They were pretty wasted and she wasnt acting herself.
Now shes sick (she says its because of the weed and alchahol) and we're somehow pretty much best friends after seeing eachother on like 3-4 different occasions
Everyone thinks we're dating and my 1 other mate at this school always gives me looks as if to say "You're in" sortoff thing.
Other misc notes - she admitted im attractive to her, she says people ask if we're dating, she loves having me around and im pretty much the only person she hangs out with.
I dont think i've been friendzoned, I thinkshe has a thing for me but she just doesnt want to date yet. Maybe she's scared of dating me without knowing me very well
Ah you fucking moron. Then she likes you, yes.
Just let it develop for a little more. You're not friendzoned, trust me.
That story reminds me so much of the way I was with my boyfriend, who I've been with for 3 years now, so good luck to you :]
Girls: Why are you so gullible when you're young?
Backpacking around dangerous countries, hell, some of you even do porn these days for the sake of it.
Virtually all girls who do this sort of thing go on to regret it. But why is it so hard to impress upon you, even if we're your fathers and brothers, that we're not trying to "control" you, we just don't want you to be exploited by predatory men.
I have a ridiculously empathetic outlook towards women close to me, and I care about them a lot. That's why I'm so protective, because I know what other men are like. The lengths they'll go to for sex, the lies they'll tell, or in some countries the fact they'll just rape you.
Furthermore, why do so many white women hate white men?
No. I have nothing against either anime or video games, but monomania isn't attractive.
Also since I'm only casually interested in anime/vidya at best, it wouldn't allow for any conversation.
And if by all his time you mean he's a NEET then even more no.
>r9k try and raid
Kek, are you getting a tad toasty, roastie?
Everyone's an idiot when they're 15, it just shows up in different ways. And nobody listens to their parents at that age because they're idiots. However it sounds like you may be overly cautious since most people who backpack do it in Europe, which is very safe.
>Furthermore, why do so many white women hate white men?
What the fuck are you talking about?
>watching a documentary about porn
>the general opinion is "girls are being manipulated/forced into it"
>those girls start out claiming to be stars in the making or just in it because "hihi sex is fun"
>end up having health issues and feeling dirty
>they complain as if they weren't aware of the risks
I just ended up losing the small compassion I had for them.
Girls and guys
Is it possible for 2 people to love each other but not be in a relationship?
There is a girl who lives overseas who I have feelings for. She has feelings for me. I've talked to her about a relationship, but she doesn't think she could do one. I understand why. Her reasoning is there is a lot she wants to accomplish in her life. she wants to do great things and travel the world. We will be meeting for a 2nd time this summer for 2 weeks which will be fantastic. But the next year she will be traveling to another country with her friends as a group trip (year 2017). She then plans to visit the US where I live in (2018). so we will see each other again this summer. But it might be a whole year before we meet again. and I think she just doesn't want the emotional stress of a relationship with that kind of distance. I understand her feelings on this. I respect it because it is a rational thought. Right now, we are just going day by day. I think I'm in love with this girl. We talk every single day, and skype a lot. She is so important to me. and I know I'm important to her. We are just enjoying what we have.
I'm just curious if this is good and If what we have is a good choice.
>What the fuck are you talking about?
Just in general conversation, the use of the term "white male" seems to be derogatory in of itself these days. "Dude white ppl lmao" tier humor. Saying black/asian men are better (you see the latter here on 4chan a lot because of the weeb presence). White women always siding with "PoC".
>most people who backpack do it in Europe, which is very safe.
Europe's fine. No way I'd let her do Asia or any non-white country though, with the exception of Japan.
I don't think being gullible is a gendered thing. Young people don't like being told by people that are older than them to not do something. Sometimes people have to make their own mistakes to really learn their lesson.
No. Video games and anime are fine, but you need to do other things, like have a job, and not be fat.
Having a chance with a girl is not a numerical thing. Behaviors being "more favored" is not a numerical thing. If she's into you, she's into you, and she's not going to know why.
How old are you? 12? Do grown ass adults seriously get this worked up over social media?
She just wants her problem to be heard. Generally, "Dang, that sucks, is there anything I can do?" is the right thing to say.
Don't put your life on hold for her. It's pretty clear that you have different life goals which make you incompatible.
Yeah but see unlike /r9k/, I can't hate these women.
I take the notion that women are more childish and gullible seriously, and don't use it to assume that means women are "inferior" or "trash" or whatever. I just think it means we, as the men in their lives, need to be more protective.
As a question to the femanons on this note: What can a dad do to make sure his daughter doesn't turn into some sort of porn whore? I've thought getting her involved in proper hobbies that take her away from a computer at a young age would be a good idea.
General question: my friend openly mentioned to me he was interested in a girl at our college and was pursuing her. He spoke to her for a good while, but I recently ended up spending a whole day with essentially just her and I. I won't fuck around, I also think she's hot, but obviously leaving it there on my honor I wouldn't go for it. However, this girl (asian american) mentioned that she prefers white guys, (I am) to me and was being flirty as fuck. He's half indian and looks it. What do?
Men will lie to you to the point they'll pretend to be in love for months for the purposes of sex.
Do you not understand why this means you need to be cautious as a girl? So few girls are aware of what men are actually like these days, hence all the sleazy "male feminists" who use it as a way of getting pussy.
>Would you date a guy who spends all his time playing video games and watching anime?
Even better if he is a NEET and can spend all his time with me. I find NEETs in general have more time to spend on their personal appearance, hygiene, and improving themselves with quality literature and culture.
Spending every hour of your life slaving to enrich your employer, when we could instead be living a little more frugally and spending our days with each other? I know which I'd choose!
I once dated a guy who spend most of his waking hours working, and it was soul destroying. He'd get home from work tired and wanting to sleep, and the only topic of conversation was his worries about his boss liking him enough to give him half a dollars raise.
>Men will lie to you to the point they'll pretend to be in love for months for the purposes of sex.
Some will, but most won't.
>So few girls are aware of what men are actually like these days,
Men are like they've always been
>hence all the sleazy "male feminists" who use it as a way of getting pussy.
Yeah but they're genuinely betas and don't pose a threat. They'll whine and complain to try to get sex but they're not going to rape you with a bottle
Being over protective of them isn't going to help. Everyone of any gender has to go through life and experience a few bad things with the opposite gender. get manipulated and hurt and so on. If my aunt had started protecting me from every girl who took or tried to take advantage of me i'd be very stupid today.
Same goes for them. At some point they're supposed to be old enough to make their choices. And you shouldn't intervene much unless it's a really bad situation, ie : threat to their health or well being.
Regardless of gender, anyone should be cautious when introducing someone new into their lives. You can't be too cautious, though, else you'll have no one in your life.
>what men are actually like these days
What exactly qualifies you to speak on behalf of "men these days"?
>Yeah but they're genuinely betas and don't pose a threat.
This is where you're wrong. You've created a false dichotomy where "bad men" can't get sex. You have no idea how easy it is for even a fat, ugly, balding man to groom a 13 or 14 year old girl. There are innumerable examples of various "sociology professors" teaching "gender studies" and fucking their students, just look it up.
>Men are like they've always been
There were vastly more rules of propriety on men on the past. Women sure as shit weren't called prudes for not putting out on the second date, similarly porn creep has led to a world where men expect stuff like anal.
>Some will, but most won't.
You have no idea.
I fear for your future daughter.
>Being over protective of them isn't going to help.
You say that as if every single experience in life is some sort of light learning experience, like having your 15 year old boyfriend be too forceful when you're making out and pushing him off, or realizing you should wear sun screen in hot weather after a particularly bad burn.
What if the "mistake" is hooking up with a guy 15 years her senior when she's 14?
>There were vastly more rules of propriety on men on the past. Women sure as shit weren't called prudes for not putting out on the second date,
And when was that exactly? Because that has always been an issue. Before people started having dates, they didn't because they got married right away and girls HAD tu put out. Marital duties and such. As for when dating started to become a thing, they had the same similar issues as we do today.
similarly porn creep has led to a world where men expect stuff like anal.
>anal didn't exist before
Surely you jest.
Hey everyone i went on vacation with my brother, and something i never thought about came to light.......
I think i'm attracted to him.
The first few days at the resort i couldn't get him off my mind.
The way he smiled at me, and how he would touch me on the head whenever he saw me made my heart melt.
Last night i masturbated to the thought of him and orgasm'd 3 times!
I really want to come onto him do you think i should bother or will it ruin our friendship?
What movie is that from? Remember watching that with my grandfather and that feeling of awkwardness as we both pretended I didn't see it.
I remember in high school we had some rough cunt come in and talk to us about sexual assault.
He talked about witnessing a passed out woman on the beach be sexually assaulted by multiple guys. Afterward, one of them filled a coke bottle with sand, pushed it up her vagina, and poured in in, with the intention of destroying DNA evidence. Dubbed "the hourglass".
Sorry for the fucked up story. But I thought you should know.
Less than 50% or more than 50%?
Yes, I need fucking numbers, I know how horrible everything really is, I know exactly what is real, and what was made by mankind.
You give me the fucking numbers.
why? because it looks good and it's confortable. And the black ones are easy to combine with a t-shirt or something else making a lazy but decent outfit
will it look good on a guy? no unless the guy is super extremely skinny and tries to look androginous in which case it wouldn't look good "as a guy", just maybe good ish in general
I never knew I had this fetish until now, thanks anon.
How do I deal with a really good friend who's adamantly opposed to my homosexuality? I thinks she might think I'd hit on her or something, which is obviously stupid, but I really don't want to lose her as a friend, we've been close since we were little kids.
Surely there must be a way to convince her I'm still the same person, and not suddenly a weirdo/deviant/pervert?
First off, 50% is already a HUGE amount of women. 50% is hot movie star, hot rock star, president, world-famous CEO level. For even good looking guys with their shit together, 10~20% of women that they want actually reciprocating is pretty big. You're looking at about 1 in 10 if you play your cards right. Which are actually not terrible odds, considering. THIS is what people mean when they say it's a numbers game. It's not about getting some unrealistic high hit rate, it's about being aware of realistic odds and making sure your approach rate is high enough to pay off.
i don't want kids so it's actually a pre-req
smells like intellectual copyright infringement
watch lesbian porn, there's also a key & peele skit that's fairly accurate
don't stir the pot, you did fine
return the favor: make her hard by encasing her in concrete
send back, verbatim, "Nigga, things already changed"
if she's clean/childless then it's fine
Assuming you are female, better just forget it, this isn't gonna work out. It might be you just don't have anyone to be intimate with so you project your love onto someone you actually love, although not romantically.
In short you probably need a good dicking to set you straight.
My girlfriend and I are on a break from our 2 year relationship, we were engaged.
She has always thought to be bisexual and I am ok with that.
Why we are on a break is because recently she has been feeling like she might just be a lesbian.
She says she doesn't know who she is anymore but she still loves me and enjoys all the time we had together.
We are still hanging out and talking about this whole situation, I am giving her the space she needs. She is going to start talking to a therapists and a lesbian friend to try to find herself.
>My question is how can I help her through this situation?
>Also if she decides the she still likes men she will get back with me.
Thank you I definitely will be.
Even if she decides that she is a lesbian I think we will be friends for a long time
We truly are best friends
And when I feel that she might not get back with me I do feel really bad.
Size is nice but there's a point where it really does become a problem and it comes sooner than guys think. Also lmao do you think you're actually going to make a girl orgasm with just your dick? Your hands and how you approach are more important. Big dick is a turnon, but in actual sex it's not so important.
>Also lmao do you think you're actually going to make a girl orgasm with just your dick?
Gorillion times this.
Isn't the cervix a very sensitive part overall?
>Inb4 get used to it
>engaged with 2 years relationship
>with a lesbo
>on a "break" (lmao)
and the best part
>lesbian friend to try to "find herself."
hahahah i love that line!
C U C K
>Even if she decides that she is a lesbian
she is lesbian, retarded.
>And when I feel that she might not get back with me I do feel really bad.
spoile: she already broke up with you.
Foreplay should be mandatory by now.
I mean sex WITHOUT foreplay?
Not gonna happen.
30 minutes of foreplay minimum, two hours tops.
Premature ejaculation? Oh, does that automatically mean stop, we're done? Just lick/suck/clean it off, also the whole fucking point of foreplay in the first place.
I ain't fucking no woman without foreplay that is for fucking sure.
The best part is I told her to speak to her lesbian friend last night that she forgot about XD she lives in another state XD not cucked she literally is just calling her
>thanks for the trigger
>bisexual = gay ok
>I do feel bad about our break but I am hopeful that she will get back with me
forget about her and move on with your life, clearly she makes bad decisions and nothing you do will change that, she just likes venting to you and being friends with you. if you act too into it it will just make things harder for you. there is a chance, but it's pretty slim, jim
my girlfriend barely needs foreplay to get really wet, like maybe 10 minutes of kissing, foreplay to her is actually us having a meaningful conversation, that gets her wet faster than anything and we can bone after that.
by letting them do their thing without being paranoid?
but if you need to PROVE to somebody that you trust them then you either ahve already acted paranoid or thei have abused your trust. what's this question about, anon?
we should have some stuff in common. but it would be enough to share some nostalgia, or simliar (not necessarily the same, it would be more interesting to discover new shit thanks to you) music tastes, or both liking to cook, being into sport, whatever. you need to be able to talk about some stuff and do things together, right? but after that, it is more fun to discover the interests the other has. it broadens your horizont. you might start to get into stuff you never even considered before.
Depends , but for most it should be ok.
Start with something simple like cat ears, and play it as goofing around and see how it goes.
Keep tissues nearby.
For me I love my sister, not in a sibling easy either.
Its much deeper than that, but in the same time it's love devoid of lust.
You reassure yourself that he's with you, not her. That you're the one he wants to be with. Then you realize that it's perfectly okay to feel attracted to other people, and find them beautiful, without it ruining your relationship.
>Like girls with tattoos and pin-up vibes
>See they always date guys with tattoos and ear expansions
>Have none of those
Does the whole "Opposites attract" really exist, on your experience boys and girls?
I'm actually pretty confident about myself, and right now very happy (after a painful breakup) But thinking about it, I haven't date any girl who were into those things.
People who only date people who are into the same things they are are narcissistic anyways so dont feel too bad.
I bet you can find a cool tattoo/rockabilly girl who isn't like that though and appreciates you for you.
>I bet you can find a cool tattoo/rockabilly girl who isn't like that though and appreciates you for you.
That's really my thing in life, Anon, to find someone who appreciates me for who I am.
Honestly I was kinda afraid of exposing this desire because of fear of looking like I was objectifying that "feature" too much. You know it happens with this kind of things (tattoos and such)
But not in my case. I like tattoos and that stuff, but I don't see it as the sole reason to date someone. I'm also very into rockabilly and punk and rock, although I look nothing like the kind of people that frequent rockabilly joints... so that's where my worries come. I'm into a ""type"" but I look nothing like them
If you don't, you will spend your entire life wondering "what if I had", and that's not something you want in your life. Believe me, I am talking from personal experience. I knew a girl, she was absolutely incredible, I chickened out. Later on I found out she was in love with me. Countless dates and females after, shit still bothers me from time to time. DO NOT make the same mistake.
Is pegging normal or am I just nasty?
Also, how do I let a guy know I only date if I'm serious about them ?That I'm looking for a husband and not just a fling?
They usually think I'm shittesting them, or just trying to avoid them
I just want true love senpai
>I look nothing like them
That's to your advantage anon
They re so into their subculture, that somebody different is attracting and refreshing, plus they'll want to reel you in and show you what they love about it
I don't know what to say about the second thing. Maybe you just don't say such things, you just do them... you know?
About the first thing, that's pretty cool. Always been kinda interested in it, and just when I was about to subtlely propose my girlfriend to try it, she dumped me...
Well she missed the chance! This ass is now reserved for the one who will truly love me <3
I frequent punk rock shows too but I look very plain. My partner is in a band and dresses punk with studded jackets and stuff but I wear sweat pants and plain shirts, plain hair. We still connect on what we like though. Style isn't everything thats for sure. If you connect with a person you'll do fine.
Thanks for saying that, Anon. Sometimes you start thinking and thinking and thinking about nonsense, and you almost forget that the best you have is... who you are. Not that I'm saying I was about to start acting like a poser just to attract this kind of girls. That would never happen.
The same way I'm talking about this, do you know there's people that actually "won't date" someone with tattoos? I never understood it. Not only from my perspective, as some fella who loves tattoos and stuff, but also because why would someone be so """"selective"""" about this kind of stuff? At the beginning I thought it was just that, being selective. Even some people even got to told me "you have no standars"... but fuck that. I don't get that. "Standars"?? nah. I'm just open and I don't have many deal breakers. I don't get why people are so judgemental
Thanks for your post, too. You just reminded me that after all, it's about connection. It's so wonderful when you connect with someone
I'll try not saying it, it just scares me a bit that I can't tell if they are serious. Like I'm a fucking a prude and the way guys are, I don't want them thinking I'm not having sex just to seem proper. It's for my future husband you know?
Sorry to hear about your gf! Why did she leave?
Your bum shall be worshipped by someone worthy anon, lets hope you find her soon
Fuck you too you stupid fucking whore
Yeah, it's a complicated situation really. The way I see it, this kind of things should just happen. No words, no contracts. Two people start together because they keep seeing each other and they love themselves so it just happens... Or maybe I'm being too idealistic?
I would say, just keep doing stuff with him. Drop a few hints here and there about you and him being serious. I would have the same concerns as you do when it comes to being official and serious with someone, I wouldn't want that person I'm dating to thing I'm not holding any intentions of being with her seriously. But it's just... if you like someone, you keep seeing them and enjoying time with them. You could always tell him this way, Anon: I like you, I enjoy time with you, that's why we're still seeing each other, having dinner and doing stuff, instead of "our" thing ending as a simple one night stand
>Why did she leave?
In very short: She didn't love me.
I seriously try not to be the kind that talks about the ex in a negative light, but thing is I have very few things to say about my ex, so I'll rather not say anything. Does that put me on a bad light? It really concerns me to end up being that kind of guy. I mean, it's your ex, she dated you, she doesn't have to be that bad. That's what I think about when I hear someone talking shit abput someone they dated on the past. So I'll either not say much about her...
>"Your bum shall be worshipped by someone worthy anon"
Hell fucking yeah. I'm already committed in bed because that's my thing, i love to make people feel good in bed, that's my turn on. But i'm saving my ass only for that special someone <3
By the way, you ever tried pegging someone? how was it?
lol. Depends? Maybe?
Kind of weird. I used to be hyper clean cut, proper, and shy. Neat collared shits buttoned all the way up, crew cut, super polite, had a girl once tell me I was like a boy scout.
Back then I used to get the type of girls you mentioned.
Now I still wear collared shirts, but instead of neat it's more sharp now, with them being more fitted with rolled up sleeves with buttons undone , and a close cropped beard that follows exact lines and shaved cheeks. I also have a shit ton of confidence now
I've been told I seem kind of intense, sharp, and hyper masculine.
I now especially attract quieter shier girls.
Why do you think You attracted the kind you attracted back then, and why do you think you attract the kind you attract right now?
You sort of remind me or myself. I had a more cleaner look back then, with blazers and clean line shirts. Now I wear more casual jackets (Harrington and Leather Biker) over Shirts and tees. It got weirdly more warmer now than back then
if you can pull it off. iow if you are handsome and confident.
Back then I was pretty quiet and cute. I'm baby faced and considerate by nature, and I can only guess they got some kind of, oh hey, this guy is super sweet and nice vibe off me that appealed to them.
But it could also be that I hung around of metal concerts and was hyper fit from years of martial arts.
Now I ooze an air of confidence and intensity. I'm still baby faced, but the beard suits me well and is immaculately maintained, and it's still obvious that I'm one of the nicest guys around, but it's also obvious you don't fuck with me or anyone i'm with. I guess my confidence is more attractive to girls who are less sure of themselves to begin with.
As a whole, I'm a lot more attractive in general, so I guess it's more accurate to say I still attract the rockabilly type to a degree, but I now also attract the other types a lot more.
It might also be the age thing since I'm talking about to periods in my life that are literally a decade a part.
I seem like a really sweet girl. I'm petite, blond/blue eyes, have baby-face, work with disabled kids, and so on. But really i'm rather nasty. I have VERY dark humor. And you don't want to see my browser history after a fap-session. I'm also into reading up about obscure shit like serialkillers and stuff. How much of a red flag/turnoff is this?
Well, my bf has dark humor too. But i'm afraid that the darkness of mine outnumbers his by far.
As for kinky stuff, i GUESS i can see some potential. But it's really too soon to tell.
We have talked about the serialkiller/horrormovies/gore thing briefly. He's interested in that too, but not to the same extend i fear.
I need help...
My boyfriend of only 2 years cheated on me with someone he met at a bar he had been going to after work, we talked about things and even got help and now things are fine, I fully trust him and our relationship is stronger, but there's one little problem...
I can't have sex with him, I try and I try to get in the mood, but I just can't with him anymore, the second I even become slightly horny around him I remember "He fucked someone else while we were together" and then my sex drive is gone, it's been like this for a few months now, and I can tell he's getting annoyed that we don't have sex anymore, and I fully understand that, a relationship without ANY kind of sex will always be a dull one, but I don't know what to do
How do I forget about him cheating, how do I get my sex drive back with him? I have no problems getting off on my own, but if he's involved there's just no way in hell it can happen, we've talked about it and I've told him, and it just makes him feel bad, at this point there's nothing he can do about it, I feel it's a problem only I can fix, but I don't know how...
Would you say most of your friends would think the same or are you some weird exception?
Meh, it's not THAT bad, but bad enough for normie standarts. Surely some femdom/bdsm/cbt, age play, deformed, forced stuff/not enyoing it, mutilation, bestiality. I try to keep it legal.
I seriously thought this girl was in to me.
But as we continue to talk I get the impression that if I stopped initiating she might not ever contact me.
Should I cut contact for a bit to test, or just ask her out and stop being a pussy?
I am in a long term relationship. My best friend is dating a really awesome guy since July. We share a lot of interests and get along really well.
He asked me to go to the cinema together, just me and him, to see a movie my best friend and my boyfriend don't like.
Should I go or it'd make them feel uncomfortable/get mad?
Ah, no. I don't really need to act out those fantasies. I'm happy with my weird porn. I just don't want to feel like i need to hide shit. This is what gets me off, so i want to be able to be honest about it. It just seems like a leap of faith.
You must be 18 to post here.
Ask them out in person. Exchange pleasantries before asking.
I'm gonna go with probably not. I've met some people in person that I originally met online and there's a real disconnect there.
This >>16844489 But I generally don't prefer long hair.
It's in bad taste to go alone with him. If you can add a person or two more, then it could be fine, but you really ought to talk to the people in your life about it rather than anons.
Yeah i know. But it's not the kinks that bother me. They're pretty normal i guess. It's the whole thing. As if i'm some split personality. Is it normal that the gap between your public you and your privat you is that big?
>but you really ought to talk to the people in your life about it rather than anons.
I'd obviously mention it to my boyfriend (who is generally fine with me going out with other guys) and my best friend (who can be very jealous), but I was wondering if it was inappropriate in general, then I wouldn't even bother asking.
Ok, i don't want my standarts to be THAT low...
I mean for some middleclass social adapted white european people?
Today i had to pretend that i didn't find a racist rape joke funny af at work. I mean, the other girls SERIOUSLY thought it was offensive and not funny in the least. Made me think that i might be more degenerated than i'm aware
>intellectual copyright infringement
Im more worried about the backlash. making one and just wearing it wouldnt be an issue but if i start making money off it.. im worried about what people would think once they found out it wasn't actually my idea in the first place. as stupid as the design is..it could get really popular. it wasn't my idea and i dont know how big of a deal they would make it. if it was slightly different i could maybe pass it off as a coincidence
Depends on the people involved.
I wouldn't give a fuck if my GF started hanging out with my best friend (which I guess is slightly different b/c she's gay, and a girl.. but eh... my gf's bi too? so *shrug*?). I'm also cool with her hanging out with her own male friends in general.
I've also hung out tons with my other best friends (ex)girlfriend without him (ex because he was becoming a fuck-up, not because of anyone being jelly). Nothings ever happened between us, and it's never bugged him (nor has my gf, except maybe at the start of us dating before she met them).
All of this really comes down to two factors:
1.) You're opposite gender. and some people get jealous about opposite gender friendships. Some are cool with it.
2.) You're invading social circles, which some people are ok with, but others try to keep separate because of a need for privacy and worry over potential break-up fall out.
Talk to people.
If you don't know if your boyfriend would be cool with that, you guys need to have more serious discussions anyway, if you don't know if your best friend would be cool with that, ask (if you can't, I question your "best friend" status).
If everyone involved is cool with all that, no harm.
Yeah no, she asked me if she missed the joke. So i explained it to her, then she said, ah, no then i've gotten it right and it's really not funny.
I'm very good at keeping my "edges" to myself. But i don't want to put up a show for my bf. That's why i've asked. We've only started dating recently, so he doesn't know me THAT good yet. I just wondered if my "innocent air" might have led him on and he'd be shocked to find out the truth
There's a difference between having a dark sense of humor, and a dark personality. I really don't give a shit, but I'm also biased because people like Stanhope are some of my favorite comedians. On the same token I'm indifferent about the porn as long as everyone is consenting, as long as you don't expect me to necessarily go with those fetishes.
The serial killer bit is kind of weird though.
>Is pegging normal or am I just nasty?
It's kind of abnormal but I've seen way worse.
>Also, how do I let a guy know I only date if I'm serious about them ?That I'm looking for a husband and not just a fling?
Just be clear you're looking for something serious, not casual.
Some differences are nice, but there also has to be some common ground too. People seem to treat it as an all or nothing thing.
My boyfriend would be cool with it, I have a couple of close male friends and he never acted jealous in 7+ years.
My best friend, on the other hand, is a quite jealous person in general and she overreacts often. I know she doesn't really like any of her bf's female friends, but I don't know if it would be different, with me, since I'm her best friend, I'm in a long term and all. She also often hangs out with my boyfriend alone, but I never had a problem with that and I've always told them that I was really happy that they were close.
I'm also concerned about the "invading social circles" thing. She is very "protective" of my relationship with her (we've been friends for 20+ years, her parents died, etc) and she often acts like she feels threatened if I get close to someone in her life, as if she didn't want me to like someone more than her. I really like her new boyfriend, but of course nothing will ever compare to my relationship with her.
I don't know, I don't want people to get hurt. Maybe I'm overthinking this.
actually your fetish puts you strictly in the definition of "abnormal"
you can take it in the pejorative, or you can realize it's simply a label tool used to help humans categorize. if you're this sensitive about 1 word you will have trouble finding your pee women.
To be honest, when it comes to your own crazy, there is always a little bit of a buffer you have to give people when you first meet, but everyone has their own brand of crazy, and everyone does it to a degree. It's not at all about being deceitful, it's about showing that you're not a total sperg and know how to function and be subtle in the real world.
For example, I once went on a coffee date with a girl where after the first 15 minutes she asks, "So what's your star sign and ethnicity", "Oh, really? I've never been with either of those yet. What color is your dick?" "is it big?".
THAT is an example of just being inappropriately socially inept. Whether I was interested in that kind thing or not, she jumped the gun by miles, and it set of red flags of total instability.
It sounds like you guys like each other enough that you're starting to get comfortable, and are getting in to the safe zone to ease each other in to one another's crazy. Don't feel like you have to hide it like it's a dirty secret, but don't feel like it's something that you have to show him right away, reveal it when it's relevant and appropriate to what's going on.