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>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
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Ask them out.
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Ask them out.
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>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
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Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon and frog posters
Boys, my boyfriend is struggling with his porn "addiction". When we'd have sex, half the time he has a problem with going soft and having to work himself up again. The worst though, is when he doesn't want to have sex at all, even though he has a regular sex drive when he feels healthy and "away from porn". He shared with me that he's had a problem and how it seems to be a male-only problem where he watches porn, then it escalates into more extreme stuff for him to get off... trannies. Then he's unable to even get an erection and so, avoids sex because it won't work anyway. I told him it's okay if he's bisexual and he can sleep with a trap or whatever, and that it isn't a bad thing to be bisexual... He tells me he is straight and is struggling with this porn thing, and that he reads about a lot of guys having similar sexual dysfunctions... Currently, he is trying to stay off porn, told me to give him a few weeks for his dick to work again.
What do you think about this? How can I help? Do you reckon he is most certainly bisexual for getting off to traps, and sissy caption shit? He also likes dressing up in girly stuff in private, he doesn't do it ever, but he did buy stuff online for himself. I miss sex with him and we broke up to take a break to fix our own problem but we still hang out as if we are together. During our relationship, I thought maybe he was unattracted to me, so I said he could fuck his hot ex, and later traps once I found out and then he started having dick problems.
Girls, how much should a guy talk to you before he becomes clingy?
I went to a first date with someone. She's supposed to let me know when she's free for a second one and it's been a week. No contact from her and no message. I figured she's changed her mind or something and that's fine. I can't shake the feeling that I'm messing it up by not sending her messages to just chat, but at the same time I don't want to start harassing her in the hope that she likes me.
Same happened with another girl who suddenly barely sends anything. She once started a conversation only to reply with single words messages. Nothing from her since. I sent a message around Valentines day to get some news from her and she barely answered. I consider it lost cause but of course I wonder if maybe I should talk to her more.
Basically i'm not losing any sleep over this, and I'm fine. i just don't want to lose on something because I kept my distances for fear of being clingy.
Did you experience increased libido after starting working out? My wife recently started trying to get into shape, and it seems to me that she's more interested in sex now. Just wondering if there's a corelation.
Maybe she's gotten more confident about her body and wants to show it off to you?
Awful. I'm a traditional feminist (think Emma, not Anita) and they make us all look like harpies.
Annoying as fuck because they ruin men's perception of normal girls. Now men think we're all feminazis and it pains me when I'm talking to a guy and he has to say "not being sexist but..." or something.
I enjoy being girly. I like that men are completely different to us, stronger and bigger and "manlier". It's okay to think that we should be equal in job opportunities and shit, but these feminists need to shut the fuck up. If you feel the need to call yourself a feminist, you're a radical.
Yeah, don't know the exact explanation but something to do with hormones and shit released when you work out.
Makes you feel more "alive". Also when you're healthier, you tend to be hornier.
Just use the term feminists--there's no difference at this point, unless you're uninformed. First and second-wave were arguably great, we got the vote etc. But if you're living in the west, and you're a third wave feminist spouting on about the wage gap myth or over-inflated rape statistics, you're cancer.
Yes, I do. Working out releases endorphins. It makes me feel confident. Which makes me feel sexier. Which makes me feel like having sex more often.
It really disgusts me. Gender equality is not something I make a big deal of. If someone actually is sexist, then oh well? I'm just gonna avoid that person and not run around like a chicken with her head cut off. Other than being teased by boys when I was little and being cat called occasionally on the street, being a woman hasn't really hindered me in any way. I chose a career with mostly females because it's what I like to do, I don't want to fight the patriarchy in a STEM career just because there aren't enough women. I'm actually more on the pro-life side even though I'm not religious, but I'm not disgusted with planned parenthood nor am I convincing women to abort either. I don't think men are out to get me and make me feel like less of a human.
I know a few girls that are radical feminists and it's really discomforting to be around them. They're really vocal tumblrinas that take offense to everything. They are really hypocritical though. I just grit my teeth and endure it all if I ever have to be around them.
My long term boyfriend is 5'5/5'6. I'm 100% completely sexually and romantically attracted to him. I literally don't care. I'm 5'1 and almost everyone is tall to me. Plus, tall people are rare in the area I live in. My boyfriend is on the shorter side, but I don't even know many females that have dated guys over 5'10 because there just aren't any around here.
>is there even such a thing as a "Nice girl"?
Depends on what you mean by nice girl. For my boyfriend, I'm a total caring, bake you some cookies, give you a massage, pick you up when you're drunk, you need some money? it's alright here, etc. person.
But he's also the first person I will talk shit with about our annoying coworkers, family members, make fun of random people at walmart, etc.
I'm not that nice to people in general. But I like kids (work with them) and I like being a good girlfriend and that's the only time I'll be sweet.
I prefer trimming. Completely shaved is fine, but what I can't stand is the prickly stubble over the next few days. Most sex positions hurt if you have stubbly pubic hair jabbing my clitoris.
No. I mean, I won't throw rotten eggs at you, but you have literally no chance with me. I'm 168 and I need a guy who is at least 180 cm. For practical reasons, cause who will reach stuff from high supermarket shelves? I also don't want to have short kids, short genes on my side are enogh
I already personally denounce them, am not one myself, don't associate with them, and vote against them.
If I'm ever a mother, I'll make sure to teach good values they all seem to be lacking.
>I'd let a fit amazonian tier woman turn my dick into a prune any time.
What does that have to do with fat unpleasant tumblr droppings who scream that you're just intimidated when you're turned off by the fungus growing under their boobs?
This is more aimed at girls but any advice would be great. Is being yourself genuinely the way to go or is it just bullshit designed to make you feel better about yourself? I don't want to have to go out of my way to impress a girl that most likely wouldn't give a shit about me, no girl has ever shown interest in me and idk what I'm doing wrong or what the fuck to do about it. I've failed twice and never had a gf and now I'm becoming a cringy whiney bitch about it, but I just have no idea how to find someone that genuinely cares about me. Is there hope for a 19y/o loser like me that moans about his life on an imageboard like a hormonal teenage girl?
Just do you, boo boo. Find better motivation than girls. And find better girls to go after. Sounds really shitty, but I built up a lot of self confidence by going on a lot of dates with really low self esteem girls. Thats where I learned how to be more open and talkative in relationships. Everyone has their way of coping. Just fund one that works for you.
When people say "be yourself", what they actually mean is "don't pretend to be someone else because that's fake and obvious".
You're only 19! Not even a true adult yet. You have plenty of time. Don't worry about girls so much. Take time to improve yourself (self-improvement is a lifetime process that you should always be working on). This will make you happier with the bonus of making you a more attractive partner option.
Also, don't expect girls to show interest or make the first moves. Get to know someone and ask them out if you like them.
lots of pet names, baby honey daddy things like that. Guys don't get any affection from anyone else so small things mean more.
Something a girl used to do for me was show me her outfit every day. Which of course let to me telling her how hot she was. Ask what he's into.
desu I don't get it either
"Myself" is the person no one wants to be around, but trying to change is "trying too hard"
Even if I did "get my life together" then people would only like the mask I've put on, not ME
Some people are just meant to be alone, and I'm not just talking about sex but also friendship here.
That's pretty much how it feels, but I'm not planning on spending the rest of my life like that, I won't be happy if I live my life like that. I have a few friends who genuinely give a shit, but never had a gf or even had a girl approach me. I can't open up because all I have is negativity and it's understandably undesirable to be with someone who is cynical and chronically pessimistic. I hate that I can't be positive about life and it fucks with me that nothing seems to go my way and I watch everyone else live good lives. I don't care if I'm "meant to be alone" or not, because I sure as hell ain't living my life alone.
I hooked up with a girl from fetlife on thursday and she left yesterday. We're both into bondage and more rough sex. I know that she fantasizes about rape and she is into bruises and being taken advantage of.
I want to surprise her next time we're here with something she might fantasize about (Not going to rape her ofc. but we talked about rape-roleplay and we both find it really akward to have everything settled as just a game)
how should go about it?
this pretty much >>16830979
Except I'm a mom with a daughter and I'm also instilling rational morals about gender. I'm just teaching her to be an empathetic and strong human. Because I feel like the world needs that more. My aunt would always tell me "Compassionate and weak is not a good combination. Compassionate and strong? That's where you want to be." And that's what I show my daughter.
so, i got huge boobs. i'm talking about E cups. and i want to try going braless. i actually have a week off from work, so i figured this would be my opportunity since i don't have to go to work with my bouncy boobs and piercing nipples...
now my question: would you notice? what would you think if you noticed? what assumptions would you make about a girl with big boobs and no bra?
also, my boobs aren't perfectly perky due to their size, so i'm rather selfcoscious about the way they look without the shaping aid of a bra.
they are in the pic related saggy range,,,
>that you want attention
i understand, but it sucks. i just HATE bras. and yes, i wear the right size. they are as comfy as it gets, but i just can't stand them. it feels so unfair that small boobed girls can get away with going braless... i mean, i always have to go to those really expensive stores to get bras in my size. and then the ones that fit aren't the cute lacy ones. i hate it.
>our hands to become the bras instead
oh well, didn't look at it that way...
>And its healthy for men to look at women's breasts anyways
agreed. i just dont get why so many people would link braless to "slutty"? why is this?
Shoulder-neck pain and such. I've heard boobs your size can get sorta "uncomfortable"?
>what if i'd be dressed down and modestly, let's say, no to minimal make-up, just sneakers, jeans, shirt and a zipper hoodie?
Honestly, I wouldn't care all that much, might notice in passing but if you didn't go all bombshell and just feel more comfortable that way, oh well, more power to you.
I'm sure lots of guys would "misunderstand" it though.
>Shoulder-neck pain and such. I've heard boobs your size can get sorta "uncomfortable"?
ah, i totally missunderstood that.
na, i work out and got pretty good back-strength. never had any problems in that area. they do get "uncomfortable", but only in a "god damn none of these clothes really fit me what the fuck"-way.
Ah okay, yeah I kinda get that. My boobs are pretty much in between sizes so it's always either B or C with nothing ever fitting quite right, so I love to just go braless as well, though it feels sort of "lewd" to me. Silly Catholic upbringing.
Girls, how do I bring up telling you that I have a mental illness? Do I bring it up at all? Should I explain before persuing a friendship or relationship? Or is it more suitable to explain it after some time?
Are you that guy on that one pic where a bunch of Feminists yell at some guy on a street that some random anon made a 4chan banner out of?
Or just another guy who likes to be Dominated by Tumblrina Gothliat?
I'm a guy that likes relationships based on love and equality and can't stand useless, vain princess types.
So apparently questions about cuddling in friendships are frowned upon but I feel like I need to give this a go.
Does platonic cuddling even exist? I'm asking because I've been friends with this girl for a little over a year now and although we are definitely not each others type at all (she's described her perfect guy to me and I fit none of the bill) I feel like there's been a fair bit of healthy sexual tension. We're good friends but not great friends but we're pretty open and trusting with each other, and last night she texted me asking if I wanted to come over and cuddle. I was asleep so I didn't get a chance to respond, but everyone I've talked to has said this is basically an invitation for sex, which I would definitely take. But even though we've both kinda teased the idea of hooking up and probably almost have several times I don't really feel like she wants that. Any ideas?
Surprised no one has replied to this, but as a guy who's struggling with some of the same stuff he is I'm pretty sure he's not bisexual. In my case, and I'm pretty sure with his too, the fetish comes from a completely separate place than actually wanting to do anything sexual with a man and he definitely doesn't want to do anything romantic with a man. He definitely has a problem, but he doesn't actually wanna fuck a dude or suck a dick.
Guy here and kissed my first girl over the summer. She was way more experienced than me and I had no clue what to do. It was a little awkward at first but honestly the trick is to just not be self-conscious about it. As soon as I just sort of let things happen it got better. And your partner probably won a judge you for it because if you're at the point where you're kissing someone they either like you enough or think you're attractive enough to look past a lack of skill.
>Damn, I should seriously stop browsing /r9k/
Just stop taking them seriously. It's where negative people go to be more negative.
>can't stand useless, vain princess types.
>still thinks they're hot
So this girl barely texts me and her hints scream "just friend", right? But then she goes on a vacation trip and she's all over me digitally. Like, 24/7 communication where she's flirty, eager to show me everything she's doing and even more eager to know what I'm doing. All week now.
I don't get it
Should I get something
Something I've been thinking about lately. Assume men court for X, Y and Z. How do women pick a 'great' guy out of a lot of meh or just good ones?
Is it even possible to find a great guy? What makes a great guy 'great'? And why?
Different girls look for different things, and different girls place varying levels of importance on different things. Chemistry is also a big factor. My boyfriend's not perfect, but he's perfect for me.
Girls, do you like it when a man wears whatever outfit they are wearing with confidence? Wither it be something decent or something a bit goofy?
I personally like wearing 80's biker fashion, but wanted to know if my confidence in it meant anything
How do I deal with rejection? An ex started working the same job a few months ago and I thought she was sending signals after a while; I address things and get turned down. She thought I was joking at first, then goes onto an apology and asks how much space I need.
Its been a couple weeks but I still feel worked up over this. We'll greet each other now but thats about it.
Whats the healthiest thing for me to do? I'm done trying to win her over despite some angst still hanging around. Ive definitely valued our friendship in the past but I dont see a platonic friendship happening anytime soon.
If you have a crush on your cousin (male),what would you do if he approaches you?
Let's talk in abstract terms. Being great is something intangible. This sort of marginal superiority that exudes from your guy more than from anyone else (not to be confused with perfection).
Why would you choose your boyfriend over anyone else before you developed feelings for him? Do you think he's great and why? What makes him great?
I work as a violinist in a restaurant. I work every day around 6-8 hours, I'm a fulltime employee. I play during late lunch and dinner service. I've been doing this for four years.
A few days ago, someone from the Toronto Symphony Orchestra heard me play and offered me a job. The pay is $82,000 a year vs. the $27,000 I make now. My hours would become shorter and I'm guaranteed income for the next ten years via contract.
The caveat is that I need to move to Toronto. I live in Alberta (I'm not sure exactly but like an eight hour flight away). My girlfriend owns a company here and cannot relocate (we've discussed it before but unrelated to this new job).
Do I leave my girlfriend to pursue an extremely lucrative career? We've been together for five years. I haven't talked to her about it yet but I know with absolutely certainty she wouldn't be able to come with me. Neither of us could handle a LDR or anything. I wanted to marry this woman but this has been my dream for literally my entire life. I could die a happy man if I had this job.
What the fuck are you doing. Take the godamm job. You don't know how happy you will be but i guarantee you will be happier than playing in a fucking restaurant where no one will appreciate you playing prokofiev and everyone talks over your music. Think about it. You will be surrounded by other people with passion for music.
i can't talk aboutt your gf, but you already said you wanted to marry her, past tense, and i think you know what you will have to do.
Dude it sounds like you're already doing it. There's no guidebook to this, you just wait it out. Take your time doing other things so your mind is off of it, but otherwise you really just have to wait. Sorry bro.
Just because you're confident doesn't automatically mean that a chick will like it, but a chick that likes it will like it more because you are confident in it. Not everything is looks and not everything is confidence. It's always a mixture of willy-nilly weirdness.
Question for females... if you were a 16 years old muslim girl, how would you feel if the weeb friend you've been occasionally exchanging emails with for a year (who lives thousands miles away from you and you'll probably never meet irl), told you that he's 10 years older than you? nothing else but just the age, would it make you feel different about him? he didn't lie because there was never a chance to talk about age in the first place, but you know that he knows your age because you mentioned about school different times in your messages. Your current relationship is just pen friends, he gave you emotional support once when you were in a tough situation and talked about anime/manga most of the time since you're both genuine weebs. What would your reaction be like? (negative/indifferent/whatever).
This assumes that courting is just a catalogue of people. While sometimes it is, you don't want a girl that'll look at a lot of guys and think objectively. You want a little bit of sentiment mixed in.
"Great" is subjective. Personally I think a great guy is one that has your back and supports you in a struggle, doesn't let people talk shit about you and will call you out on your bullshit when you're being a bullshit person. But I also think those factors are great in a woman - albeit more rare.
My advice would be to be everything you want to be bragged about. You know, you have a girl that says "He's such a great friend too and I always feel like I can count on him to be there but give it to me straight when I fuck up", or "He's so fucking hot and he does XYZ in bed", yadayadayada. So basically be the dude you want to be known for being, rather than trying to fit into what some chick wants you to be. That doesn't work.
You do you, and then someone will come along that likes who you are, and then you can do each other.
I am perfectly comfortable with that. I grew up with three sisters and went to an all-girls school, and we had group showers after volleyball and some such things, I was actually surprised to find out people in America do not bathe together.
It depends on how liberal a Muslim she is. Lebanese, for instance, are generally very liberal and metropolitan about that kind of thing, where a Pakistani Muslim would take a lot of heat for that kind of interaction.
Personally age isn't a problem (no matter my personal culture) as long as the person doesn't beat me over the head with it. You're not better than me or more deserving of respect because you're older, you deserve respect because you earned it - and so on.
So basically that's one thing to look out for, because it's annoying as fuck.
The only other relevant thing is the girl's age. I'm not completely knowledgeable about the age of consent in all other countries, but it's good that the relationship hasn't been anything other than pen-palling and support. If she lives in an area where she hasn't reached the age of consent, the dude could get in trouble if it ever became sexual/romantic.
Well, at home we either had showers (for cleaning, and "solo" use) or a big whirlpool for relaxation, which me and my sisters used together, we didn't have bathtubs since that seemed like a mix of shower and whirlpool, not really for cleaning and not really for bathing.
This is up to culture and countries. I'd say I'm completely uncomfortable with it, but I'm in America and culturally speaking, nudity is sort of a no-no between parents and children past the age where the kid can bathe themselves.
As for siblings, that's up to the individuals themselves.
t-thanks.. I'm that guy, I was just worried she'd feel betrayed/uncomfortable if she found out my age by chance, it's probably irrelevant to the stuff we usually talk about, but still. AoC is 16 in my country but I didn't really plan on going further than friends, for her good indeed.
Girls: how often is "maybe things will work out between us in the future" actually serious?
How? I've spent enough time on Tumblr to know these people won't listen to reason, no matter the circumstances. My friend, who is an MRA supporter, spends time arguing with them, debunking their statements, but it doesn't seem to have any effect at all.
Well since she's the one that could be a minor, it's her country's AoC that matters.
But since you said that you only want to be her friend so it's fine. Whether she feels betrayed or uncomfortable is 100% up to her as a person and can't exactly be predicted by her country and/or religion. Just keep an eye on how she talks to you and you'll be able to tell.
I think it really depends on your culture, country and upbringing, you probably can't generalise it.
I've heard of guys being completely comfortable being naked around each other, sexually and non-sexually (going to an all-girls school, there were lots of "rumors" about what guys get up to in the boys school) and I've heard of guys showering in swimming trunks to save themselves from the absolute horror of seeing another guys penis.
Ah. I remember something relevant to this, some sort of chart that talked about how uncomfortable people are with being touched in certain areas by either gender based on who they are.
Both men and women are typically more uncomfortable being seen/touched (even in friendly ways) by men - if it's not a relationship in which that already happens, such as friends or romantic entanglements.
Women are typically more comfortable being naked or having intimate knowledge (bra sizes, how they look naked, etc) regarding each other, though.
Sisters are probably cool, best friends are usually cool, mothers... depends on the pair. I can't generalise there.
A few years back this girl liked me, but I was too stupid to catch on. We became good friends since. However recently I can tell if she wants something more. We have drunkenly made out a few times and her friends keep saying stuff to me like "Wow you go for gross girls you should date *this girls name*" and other things about me dating her. However a few months back this got said while she was there and she responded with "I could never date him." Yet we hook up and she always makes fun of the girls I go for? Help?
>are more comfortable in such non-sexual
well, i don't mind being around ther girls naked aslong as everybody keep to themselfs. i work as a teacher and we have sport two times a week and all the teachers change in the same room. i don't feel awkward doing so at all. i also do take showers with my sister once in a blue moon cause it's just comfy and we are really close, we just do it cause we like to get things like washing our hair and shaving done while we can talk. i also go to the sauna/spa with my mom, that's no prob. and seeing friends naked is no biggie either.
i don't know if and why guys are more reserved in this department. i guess it has to do with the fact that girls can be more touchy-feely with each other before being labeled as gay? i mean, i can hug my female friends, and even give them a peck if i want to. i can comment on their butt and boobs without somebody finding it strange. double standarts i guess
soo, my bf get's diamonds and cums in seconds when i play with his anus. but he always stops me if i'm actually going IN.
what do? i think he would really enjoy having my finger up his butt. i don't know what's holding him back. any ideas? (yes, i will ask him next time, just wanted to brainstorm some possibilities).
Just ask. It's fucking rude of her friends to say that unless they're just talking about how she's not a prim and proper "fart jokes are never funny" kind of chick, then that's a plus.
By "hook up" I guess you mean fuck. Talk about mixed signals.
When she said "I could never date him" she either meant it or she's trying to throw off suspicion. Like boys can tease girls and pretend they're icky. Adults do this too unfortunately.
My advice would be to just ask. Say that you didn't catch on in the past and ask if she still cares about you that way. Try not to be too delicate in it, and just present it in a way like "because I could go for that but I don't want to make it weird to hang our with you".
>that might feel "gay" or threaten their concept of masculinity
how could i get him over this? my concept regarding this is, that no sexual act involving two straight persons can possibly be labeled as homosexual. and that's a shame to not experiment with your body to the fullest
Shame or hesitation. Delicate area for dudes, but also there's that list of shit that "makes you gay" that some people have.
Just approach it matter-of-factly. You just want to give him more pleasure, so just tell him that. Make sure to make it clear that there's nothing wrong with it and that if you weren't supposed to do it, it wouldn't feel good.
I agree 100% with that, but I'm neither a guy nor hetero so I'm probably not the best person to give advice here, but just try to explain it to him that way, that you want to make the experience pleasurable for him, that you think he would enjoy it, etc.
While you can have this frame of mind, he might not, and you may never get him out of that. Pushing it could risk making him freak, so just make it clear that there's nothing gay about a dude and a chick going at it, no matter what they friggin' do.
By "hook up"I meant like made out and she gave me a hand job one time lol. And I guess they mean it as a serious "Hey you should date her" not in the sense that they are trying to make fun of her.
>Just approach it matter-of-factly
yup, got that.
it seems like the majority of responses are saying that he might think/feel it would be a "gay" thing to do (whyever that would be a bad thing, but meh).
how do i approach this to make him get over that mindset? i just want him to relax and focus on sensations instead of labels. god damnit
>Pushing it could risk making him freak
oh, no-no! I don't want to make him do stuff he doesn't want. if he's not down for butt-stuff i'm alright with that too. i would just like him to open up to this. but if he's serious about this then i'll leave it at that.
>Annoying as fuck because they ruin men's perception of normal girls
I think you're mistaken. They provide a different perspective of the differences between men and women.
>"not being sexist but..."
This isn't caused by feminism. Feminism is caused by this. "Political incorrectness" is obviously meant to be different from literal correctness of a statement. The general idea that some things aren't supposed to be said is the problem here. You'll find it's more commonly found in normal people than in feminists, they are just the people who feel invincible because they can never be criticized.
This problem is much bigger than feminism. People being afraid of saying or hearing certain things is the problem. Removing words from people's vocabulary limits what they allow themselves to think, and more importantly it means that their children will be raised without ever having heard them.
If you think it's bad now, wait for the next generation of boys raised from day one being told that all women are princesses and men are not allowed to ever say anything to upset them. The level of entitlement from women and rebellion from men is going to be off the fucking charts. Currently a lot of boys who perform poorly in school end up medicated, but I could easily see entire schools of boys put on some kind of medication to keep their "behavior" in check. If school officials insist that their students are out of line, upcoming parents are just going to be scared and confused.
It's going to get a lot worse before it gets better.
It's a bad thing for men because they have a lot more to lose socially. Guys who aren't homophobic still tend to not want to be seen as gay when they're not. Guys have a reputation that follows them and they're judged on their sexual desirability a lot more. That's why teenage dudes will lie about the chicks they've been with and teenage girls will lie about a guy that's in love with them and devoted to them. They have different social values.
Accept that you may not be able to get him over it. That shit is only up to him in the end and you forcing it won't make him get over it any faster.
So just focus on the sensations when you talk to him. And take your time in that sense. Talking about it too much will push him away from it. For now, let it go as a conversation topic, keep doing what you do, and then bring it up another time.
Ladies how do you feel when dealing with a man with too much sexual stamina?
I can go 2-3 hours or more and it's becoming an issue because my girl says I ruin her sleep schedule due to my actions. (we only meet up late due to her work) it's becoming an issue and I don't know what to do due to my high sex drive whenever I'm near her I just want to fuck her brains out.
Also is there any way to reduce sexual stamina?
>For now, let it go as a conversation topic, keep doing what you do
if anything i would just bring it up low key, nt actually sit him down and talk about me sticking fingers up his butt
well, the goal here is to actually give him a prostata-massage one day. but i'm happy with just playing with his anus. i'll keep it at this for a while
nah, i don't think sex is something you should do "trades". that's actually quiet horrible. i want him to do stuff because he WANT'S to, not because he want's a bargain out of it.
no, don't get me wrong. it sounds like this when written out, i agree. but actually i'm not forcing this on him. i only tried twice. i waited a couple weeks after the first time he told me "wait" (he didn't say stop, just wait). then i tried again and he told me "no, wait" again, so i took that as a "i don't want this, don't do this". the first time i brshed it off as "no, not right now". i'm not planning on going that far again without first asking him if it's ok. cause, y'know, that would be pretty bad
>Ladies how do you feel when dealing with a man with too much sexual stamina?
I don't know, I never met one.
because i like to play with his body?
because i like to try new things and experiment.
because i want to see if it would feel different for him to cum form a prostata-massage.
because why not
>me me me me me
That's pretty selfish of you.
>because why not
No, the question is "why?"
Consider how you or most women in general would react to something like this suddenly being forced on you. Now consider that the hypothetical man is also planning to take it further without asking you and talking to his friends about how best to trick you into this. He said no and your solution is to take it further? What the fuck?
That would require me to masturbate at least 40 minutes before hand even then I sometimes just keep going. I started to just have her give me oral after sex and then she used to take a long time so I fap while groping her then have her blow me, still a long process
Most don't and get a bit freaked out when they have to throw in the towel and I'm still going
Then you need to continue taking this as a "not right now". Initially it sounded a lot worse, but I think you could be worrying too much.
If you guys haven't talked about it before, then keep waiting on it.
Either it's the "no dass gay" thing or it's just too much stimulation for him to actually say "I want more". There is such a thing as over-stimulation and it's actually a bit uncomfortable.
Keep playing with his ass the way you were and ask sometime about more. It COULD be that he doesn't have a "dass gay" thing and it could just be that it's a delicate area and he needs time to get used to it. Worry not.
Thanks for not calling me beta. I turned her down once before we dated briefly. Perhaps when we arent at the same job in the future. Some friends / coworkers suggested ignoring her is rude but I dont think so. Like I think you said. I must occupy other things and keep moving. Maybe some pussc will help =_=
>That's pretty selfish of you.
that's because i can only speak for myself.
i listed a few other reasons
>suddenly being forced on you
that's a LOT of assuming you have going on there.
>take it further without asking you and talking to his friends about how best to trick you into this
the plan is to back away and go back to the zone he was still comfortable with. i tried to understand WHAT made him uncomfy so i can be more empathic. it's just sex. i won't force anything on him. it's not that important to me. he just always encouraged me to try new stuff on/with him and told me that he's down for trying out everything atleast once so i thought - cool, let's do this.
Dude, chill. While what you're saying is correct in sentiment I think it's overboard. "I like to play with his body" =/= "He exists for my pleasure".
She seems really concerned with how he feels and how she can go about this without making him uncomfortable because there's a higher goal: more pleasure for him. Isn't it better that she says this shit to us and we iron it out to "these are the areas of caution" and "you need to approach this in such-and-such way", rather than skeeving him out?
I mean, I get it. But I think the concern is how he feels and his pleasure here. She doesn't exactly get anything more than that out of this situation.
>still a long process
so, your problem isn't actually stamina but not having troubles cumming? or am i assuming too much here?
i mean, stamina means that you can hold back and go further for HER sake. but your situation sound more like you struggling to get to the point of no return
Nah, man. Calling you a beta wouldn't actually help and that's what you need, so - you know.
Ignoring her could be rude based on how you do it. If it's pointed, yeah, but - worst case, tell her you're taking the space she offered.
Pussy could help, yeah.
He explicitly refused and she's planning to go forward with it anyway. I'm not upset because of the sexual context, I'm upset at the sentiment alone. There is no reason to believe he wants this other than her opinion.
It's not fair to anyone to advance this cause.
based answer anon.
it could be that it's also an over-stimulation thing. that's why you guys are the best to brainstorm beforehand.
he's a tiny bit concerned about the amount of time he "lasts" and i know that if i put a finger on his anus he'll cum in a matter of moments. so maybe thats a reason too.
i'll definitely keep that in mind. thanks anon
I know premature orgasming is an issue for guys, but how would you react to a girl orgasming too quickly? I'm talking three times in five minutes and then getting too sensitive to keep going.
I've been told it's "cute" or "endearing" but I feel like I'm robbing my guy of a lot of potential pleasure from going on.
I thought the term was one in the same I always took long to cum from the beginning. It feels good and I enjoy it but I just lose track of time and keep going.
I enjoy the whole process and I love to feel everything I can pound away non stop.
I think the only time I have a semi normal time is when I'm sick or absolutely drained.
>He explicitly refused and she's planning to go forward with it anyway
he said "wait", not "stop". so i took that as "maybe another time". i don't think this is a huge missinterpretation, right?
and as i already stated, i won't push any further untill i have his consent.
and i'm only speaking for myslef cause everyting else would be assumtions. we haven't talked about assplay explicitely so i can't tell you how he feels about it. we just messed around. i haven't had an ellaborated interview about his feelings regarding stuff entering his ass (yet).
If he's concerned about lasting, make sure that assplay is only in situations where you're trying to focus on him and make it clear you're not expecting him to be able to bounce back from him. I think it'd be a nice and acceptable gesture to say something like "I want to focus on you" if he protests with that reason. And you could mention that you like to make him feel good and that you get something out of it - feeling that you can give him something. Which seems to be the reasoning behind it anyway.
One, I'm jealous of you. Two, I'd ask him about it. This is more on personal preference and we can't give you a huge 100% correct answer, but like you said premature orgasms are more of a problem with guys and you have an advantage of being able to actually talk about it. He may feel flattered.
oh, i do that. i actually like to gently play with his anus whilst he's fucking me and when i feell that he's getting there i'll tell him to cum inside me. so i guess it's pretty clear that the focus is on him having an orgasm atm.
now that i think about it, the last time i really tried to insert a finger was when i gave him a bj/hj, so it can't really be a stamina thing. hmmm
>One, I'm jealous of you.
I've gotten that from a friend too, but honestly I feel jealous of "normal" girls, having sensual, passionate sex for half an hour or even more sounds dreamy. I suppose each has it's advantages.
And I've tried to talk to him about it, he just tells me it's cute or "okay" and that he doesn't mind it being over too quickly but I feel as if it does annoy him a bit. Sometimes when we're having sex there's this short flicker of disappointment in his face, as if he was really looking forward to sleeping with me and I "ruined" it barely five minutes after we got started.
Yeah that's pretty much what we do, but foreplay is still "just" foreplay and he really prefers penetrative sex, and either way giving him oral for some time really gets me going so it's even "worse".
>he said "wait", not "stop"
You're reading into it too much. It is very difficult to produce words matching your intended meaning in the moment like that. Just assume he meant a general "no," not something specific. It sounds like you're trying to find a way to get what you want out of what he said.
>Just assume he meant a general "no," not something specific
well, the second time this happened i clearly got that he meant "stop" when saying "wait". but the first time i just took him by his words. which is kind of a normal thing to do.
i think you are trying to convince me that i'm a horrible person that can't respect boundaries, which is not true at all.
Yeah, just that really. I can orgasm from clitoral stimulation really quickly as well but penetrative sex with him just makes me fly in a minute, I think it's a mental thing mostly, like I feel as if I very nearly cum just from blowing him because I know he is about to cum, sort of? It's hard to put into words.
We've tried different positions, though it didn't change much. Cowgirl still works best because I have more control and can try to hold back more but it still doesn't take me long.
I'm trying to convince you to stop pursuing this. You're plotting. Stop that. You're fantasizing about things you know he does not want. This wouldn't be all that bad but you're very clearly setting the expectation that he will eventually cave and allow you to do all of this. That's where I'm drawing the line. You're coming at this from the angle that he will eventually agree to this.
>nearly cum just from blowing him because I know he is about to cum, sort of?
i actually totally know what you are talking about. maybe you need to do what guys do in situations like this: think of something extremely unsexy? think of your cat vomiting on the carpet or something?
I've been trying that, like solving algebra in my head or reciting Blake poems or some such thing, but then I hear him grunt or grab my hips or just smell this whole musky sex thing and yeaaah. That's all she wrote.
The brush end? Nope nope nope nope.
Holding the handle against it? Yespleasemoreofthat.
>You're fantasizing about things you know he does not want.
ok, slow with the wild horses anon.
what do you even mean with stopping pursuing this? if i back down and stick to the level of ass-play he was comfortbale with, this isn't pushing at all.
and i don't "set the expectation that he'll cave "... wft dude. i just think it would be nice so i tried to figure out what's going on. i also clearly stated that it wouldn't be a big deal if he DOESN'T want this for whatever reason.
Don't ever do that shit. It does work, but it works too well. Attempting to block an orgasm with thoughts of disgust will eventually associate orgasms with them. It might be subtle but it is part of the way human memory works.
At the bare minimum you may find yourself naturally remembering cats vomiting every time you think of sex with this guy.
my bf is rather - tense? sometimes he cums too fast, because he's nervous. other times he can't cum at all because he can't relax.
i mean, are you focused on the SENSATIONS that whole time? i doubt it. does your mind wander or you feel like you are just going trough the movements, maybe you are even spending time worrying about your performance or her pleasure? then you might need to shift your focus to the sensation again. i'm a girl, but i have a fucking hard time having an orgasm. the main tool that helps me "get there" is to imagine that's i'm "all nerve-endings". so that i register every touch. i try to get into that state where every touch sends shivers down my spine. everything else is futile
>I hear him grunt or grab my hips or just smell this whole musky sex thing
you stop now anon. shit's not cool, my bf's out of town.
on a serious note, what if he makes you cum, then you wait a moment till you aren't uber -sensitive anymore and go at it again?
>you stop now anon. shit's not cool, my bf's out of town.
I can relate, though it's me being out of town. Hng.
>what if he makes you cum, then you wait a moment till you aren't uber -sensitive anymore and go at it again?
We've tried, but this start-stop-start-stop thing is really rather unsatisfying for either him or me unfortunately.
what if he get's you off orally or with a hj first?
i mean, is it just you being uber horny the moment you two have sex or doesn it not matter how long ago your orgasm was? gosh, i'm wording this very confusing. what i want to ask is if you "last longer" if you had an orgasm recently, like a few hours prior or if it doesn't change things
No, it's quite the opposite really, my first orgasm is usually the one that takes the longest, the next two or three are basically rapid-fire.
First orgasm is warming-up, in a way. I get really horny in anticipation of sleeping with him or even meeting him already so I always try to keep that bottled up else I cum even quicker.
>the next two or three are basically rapid-fir
i just recently found out that i can have multiple orgasms if i just keep going after the first one. but it's a whole other story if i stop. then i get all sensitive and the hornyness is sucked out of my body. i'm up to 3 now, but i haven't tried to get to a higher count yet.
as it seems, the focus should probably be on making HIM cm faster since it seems rather impossible to make you last longer.
can you think of anything to do so?
there's no way to word it to lessen the blow. either she feels the same or she doesn't. no way to back out of this easily if she doesn't. but that's what feelings are all about. they make you vulnerable and are a leap of faith. that's also why owning up to them will make you a really brave guy. JUST.DO.IT
I know. But no, that is a horrible plan. It will not work. She ought to find a better way to get him off after she's compromised. There is only one convenient method I can think of that he would not quickly tire of, but maybe it's a little too obvious.
>the next two or three are basically rapid-fire.
This is a fairly well-documented phenomenon, multiple orgasms.
>i just recently found out that i can have multiple orgasms if i just keep going after the first one
I've always orgasmed multiple times since it felt "natural" to just keep going and I oftentimes felt a new surge of horniness after my first orgasm, and until recently thought it's that way for most girls.
I can actually keep going for quite some time by myself, switching from vaginal to clitoral stimulation back and forth sort of, but when sleeping with my boyfriend it's just all so overwhelming and sensitive that I can't help but cum super fast/hard.
>can you think of anything to do so?
I don't know. He is in a pretty good shape and can keep going for quite some time, I've tried to make him cum quicker, and I really try to listen to what he likes and do what gets him off best but 20min is the best I've managed, and I always feel like he'd much rather enjoy it for longer, it makes me feel inappropriate kinda. Ugh.
Regular I don't squeeze much what way would fuck me over?
Noted the irony is my body is sensitive to touch it feels good and turns me on. I can feel amazing the entire process and when I cum it's obviously more intense but just having sex is enjoyable
>it makes me feel inappropriate kinda.
no, don't go there. man, i wish i'd be able to cum from penetration. can we switch some of our orgasm-abilities? we would create two bablanced orgasmers like that. i almost never cum. and if i cum it takes a fucking hour of oral to get there...
however, it sounds to me as if you migth be super sensitive all over. are you like that in other areas, for example smells, noises?
>my body is sensitive to touch it feels good and turns me on
yeah, that really sounds like my bf. i mean, if i touch the right spots in the right ways he get's goosebumps all over. and he's obviously enjoying himself even when it takes him a while to cum. but he's rather awkward and anxious in general, so i can imagine that it has something to do with that. i'd say it's mostly mental.
a wild guess, is it different when you had a few drinks?
>no, don't go there. man,
Yeah you're right. Horniness and sadness don't mix well.
>can we switch some of our orgasm-abilities?
Haha, sounds like if we combined our powers we would make a normal girl, yay.
>however, it sounds to me as if you migth be super sensitive all over. are you like that in other areas, for example smells, noises?
Well I am very sensitive regarding smells and sounds, but that's because I suffer from chronic migraines and any sounds/lights/smells that come on too strongly make it worse. I'm not sure it's a general oversensitivity or if it has any relation to my sexuality, honestly. Never thought about it before.
>there's bj's/hj's/boobjobs too.
The problem is that he will tire of these after a fashion. If you just do this every time there's going to be a problem. No, you got it right the first time. It's worth mentioning because it is a much closer to what he was originally doing. It's conveniently located and he won't have to miss a beat.
Put yourself in his shoes. Imagine that he finishes first every time and he has to finish you off some other way. This is the situation he's in here and your hands probably aren't going to cut it. Now I realize what I'm suggesting is pretty out there but it would probably help if he could just keep fucking you until he's done.
He's essentially blocked off from the one thing he will never tire of. I just can't imagine this being fulfilling in the long term if he always has to pull out early.
>sounds/lights/smells that come on too strongly make it worse
is this only when you have migraines or all the time? you might be hypersensitive in general. give it a check.
also, is this ALWAYS the cause or do you notice differences in relation to your menstrual cycle?
I have headaches pretty much constantly, but my sensitivity to lights/sounds etc gets worse when I have an actual migraine attack, yes.
And I've never even heard of hypersensitivity being a thing, I have to read up on that.
>also, is this ALWAYS the cause or do you notice differences in relation to your menstrual cycle?
You mean me orgasming too quickly? No it's been always a thing, regardless of menstruation. I am hornier or less horny depending on my cycle but how fast I cum when it's actually going on seems to be the same.
well well, you came to the right person with this. it took me a whopping 27 years to finally cum from something else than masturbation.
basically, it took a guy that i'm madly in love with and that reciprocates those feelings. it took me feeling very relaxed and comfortable around him. it took me being super horny and on peek fertility. it took me really zoning in on the sensations and then let go. there's this moment where my clit gets fucking sensitive and i used to stop there cause i thought this was just overstimulation and that i need a break. actually keep going and push trough this. and there you'll go. it get's easier with every orgasm. but the first one will requiere some dedication and stamina. oh, i got mine from oral. working on penetration now.
>I never drink and have sex I'll need to try that
just don't make it a habit. give it a try a few times. if it's easier that way then you know that it's just a matter of relaxing and lowered inhibitions. then you'll know what to work on.
>I have headaches pretty much constantly
i hope you get medical help with that. sound horrible...
>how fast I cum when it's actually going on seems to be the same
oh, ok. i thought it might be a hormonal thing.
do you also cum that quickly when masturbating?
>would you notice?
>what would you think if you noticed?
That you're hot, since i love big boobs
>what assumptions would you make about a girl with big boobs and no bra?
That she's probably trying to get comfy, bras when you have big boobs can be annoying to wear.
well, if i can make you cum in less than 5 minutes i'd be ultra proud of me and feel great about it !
But you'd have to make me cum too, either with penetration or sucking my dick like crazy
>i hope you get medical help with that. sound horrible...
I am, thank you. Well, trying anyway, lots of different meds and I feel a bit like a guinea pig but oh well, nevermind.
>do you also cum that quickly when masturbating?
Yeah, always have as long as I can remember. I know my first orgasm took me forever, I was 13 and spent all night desperately, frustratingly rubbing myself on a pillow, but somehow after that something clicked and ever since I cum super quickly. Beats me.
To anyone here, have you ever experienced something like this or can take a wild guess (I try to keep it very short):
Yesterday I got clear evidence that a girl kinda stalks me. She obviously checked my FB but we are no friends there and have no common friends either, so she must have actively searched for me.
I am very, very sure that there are no romantical feelings from her side (sadly) and that she just likes me.
But if you just like someone, do you stalk him online? Is this even stalking or just showing interest?
fucking tired of this meme. You cant read peoples minds. As much as you want to think you have everyone figured out, you dont. Sure, it might suggest something, but it's not universal fucking truth. You should just grow a pair and put how you feel about her out there if she's being flirty.
>well, if i can make you cum in less than 5 minutes i'd be ultra proud of me and feel great about it !
I can understand that, but what if it has nothing to do with you?
I mean I love my boyfriend to death, I really do. But I cum just as quickly when I'm masturbating, it's nothing to do with his "skill".
>You'd be noticed, but why not?
i don't want people to notice my boobs. but when i have a bra on, they are so pushed up and forward, like IN YOUR FACE. i never wear stuff with cleavage or things that are too thight (which is hard cause everything is thight with e cups). i just want to be comfy and actually, if i could choose, i'd rather have a flat chest that nobody bothers to look at. they just feel like those blobs that are proped on my chest and don't actually belong to me.
>i feel myself closest during finger penetration
then go for that! everybody is different. what really made a difference was my mindset. i just sayd to myself "fuck it. either i'm cumming or not. who cares. i'm just going to enjoy the sensations without pressuring myself." i have always thought that i can't possibly expect a guy to actually go down on me long enough to get me there. cause it's fucking exhausting to make me orgasm. and i don't like to make such a fuss over my orgasms. it's pretty tricky actually. if i'm falling out of the mood, that's it. i will try to cum to make HIM feel good, and it's impossible to cum with that mindset.
i just kind of let go and let him do his thing. he knew that he can stop anytime if he get's tired. i told him that i have a hard time cumming. i asked him to help me not put any pressure on myselfe to cum. i told him that i have very high expectations regarding me and my orgasming-abilities. and all this made a whole lot of a difference. i felt like he knew that all his work might not lead to me cumming, but that i still enjoy the ride immensely. and that kind of switched on something and made me finally be able to let go.
I'm in my first relationship.
I brought up something I wanted to do with my girl. She says she doesn't like it. But I really really want to.
Does "if you let me do X, I'll let you do Y" actually work in relationships or is that just something you see on TV.
When does "being nice" and "helping others" turn into "being used"?
I don't mind doing favours for others and don't expect/want anything in return, but close friends/family get mad at me for it. They say the people I help are taking advantage of me.
It's no effort to me at all to do a little thing for them, so is it that big a deal?
Being a woman, is there any right way to be tinder messaged?
At this point I just want to say "hey" and be done with the awful opening line stage. But that's the shittiest way to open a conversation imaginable.
Hopefully this isn't too far out for a thread like this.
Is it possible to never have a period? Maybe due to a hormonal thing, genetics, I dunno. Would that make you infertile? Would this have an effect on how your body functions? I've been looking around the internet but I haven't gotten any straight answers.
I feel like I can only hold any girl's interest for a few close conversations at most. Even if we're great together she grows bored of me within a few days to weeks. It's like she's seen all there is to me, even though there's plenty I haven't told her yet.
How do I keep myself "fresh" so this doesn't happen?
My girlfriend has decided that her parents absolutely hate her, she doesn't want to go through with graduation, prom, or anything else during her senior year in HS (she's 18, I'm 18 but in college) all because it would actually make her parents proud of her. She doesn't want anything to do with them, and claims that they hate her.
After much talking I finally got her to agree to go through with graduating, but what I am supposed to do in this situation?
Femanons if you get like this how do you expect your boyfriend to help you in this moment? Have I already done all I can by telling her I love her and care for her wellbeing and stuff?
Ah, should've mentioned this before. No no, I'm asking because my gf is pretty irregular and it got me thinking, is all. I don't want to ask her if the knows anything about that stuff because it can be a touchy subject. Figured would just dig around the internet and eventually ask here. Sorry for the confusion.
Well if she stopped getting them it means she could be pregnant. If they've always been irregular than it's not a huge deal. Could be stress. Low BF% or certain kinds of drugs will also do it.
I am a girl and I can 100% confirm I stalk every-fucking-one, I just like to know things about people . Its not anything malicious since its just looking at things youve put online yourself right.
How do you know she checked your fb account tho?
Are you me? I can stay erected for more than two hours without ejaculation.
In my experience with 3 different girls, they all throw towel before me. And they get embarrassed because they couldn't make me cum despite all the handjob and blowjobs.
Also when I sleep with women, I can't stop playing with their lady bits thus they can't sleep. I ruin their sleep cycle.
Because after a few months of being with her, this is the first time she's shown anything like this. I've actually fallen for her too, I care more for her than I've ever cared for any other girl I've ever dated.
Do some activities with her. Whatever that entails. Cook together, go to theatre, cycle the town, discover around, go to holiday, even you can help her in her study/work/daily struggle. There will always be things to talk about.
We haven't talked in something like a month just because we've both been busy. We were somewhat close before then but not too much. I went to her apartment once (her family was there so yeah, not like anything would happen) and she's told me some secrets about herself like mental illness and stuff. I'm not exactly sure whether or not you could come to a conclusion with that information though
I've known this girls since junior high when I was around 14. I'm currently 21 and this girl and I fucked recently, seemingly just a ONS.
For the longest time she thought of me as an asshole, and it's only recently that she's changed her mind about me. When we hang out we can talk for hours on hours and I'd really like to see where it goes.
Problem is she lives about an hour away, and we are both really busy with studies.
I asked if she wanted to hang two weeks after we fucked because I had a weekend off, but she's way too busy then, and since I haven't done anything else.
Mostly because I am terrified of seeming needy or ending up rejected on a relationship front. What do?
How do you get over intimate feelings over a good friend that you see in person daily to do work/academic reasons without shutting them out.
We've recently discussed this and we know how each other feel about this and it seems to have greatly improve our friendship. While I am happy that I have finally gotten some clarity and no longer have to worry about what they think about me, I still am feeling sad and feel as if I've lost the only chance to be something more than friends with someone I consider perfect for me.
To the women:
My social circle right now is basically 60/40 women/guy gender split. The girls I know often say shit like how sweet I am or they don't understand how I'm single. Considering I've had particularly bad luck with women, it's starting to become extremely annoying. Sometimes, they even pretend i'm their boyfriend and they "will" fight over me. Just last week, one of them posted a snapchat of me and her with the caption "sorry girls taken by me" or some shit.
How do i get this to stop since this doesn't happen to any of the other guys in our group and they are the ones getting pussy on the regular and i've been dry all my life?
>How? I've spent enough time on Tumblr to know these people won't listen to reason, no matter the circumstances.
Simple, take back the term. When Todd Akin said women can shut down their reproduction systems during rape, I had to make it abundantly clear that man does not represent my views as a conservative.
If you don't want to take back the term, use a different one such as egalitarian. By turning a blind eye to them, moderates give extremists a level of authority they wouldn't have otherwise. Which is why we have shit like Anita being taken semi seriously by the mainstream media.
Let's say you've been talking with a guy who you are interested in for just a few weeks. If you found out that he hasn't had sex in 5 years, would that negatively effect your view of him?
Ok I need a bit of help. I haven't been in a serious relationship in years, but it feels amazing knowing someone loves you. The problem is that I can't find it in myself, I love hookups and end up getting with different girls every weekend whenever me and my boys go to house parties or clubbing. Every time I take girls on date's I end up getting bored with them or just turning them into FWBs.
Is there something wrong with me?
Reason I ask is because I'm talking to this girl I really really like. And I'm just worried I'm going to preform shitty when we have sex. Her enjoyment is more important than mine, but I'm concerned I'm going to do shit.
5 years ago (the last time I've been with a girl) I met up with some girl. Before her, there was another 2 year gap between sex. So she was the first in 2 years. Anyways, I never told her that. We were at her house making out, and I pushed her down onto the couch and got ontop of her. After about 5 minutes she said into my ear while I was kissing her neck "are you a virgin?" It startled me she asked, I wasn't but I don't understand why she asked. I said "no" and kept going and she said "how long has it been?". "A while" I said. She gently pushed me off of her and looked me in the eyes and said "how long?" I sheepishly said "2 years" she got this HUGE shit eating grin and then laughed. She laughed at me saying "omg that's so horrible" blah blah. Anyways, the sex fucking sucked. She didn't cum. I didn't cum. I was frustrated and left.
That slut didn't mean anything to me. But the girl I'm talking to how does. and it's 3 years longer than of no sex than my last experience. So I'm really really worried I'm going to do even worse. The fact she was able to detect that it was a long time for me bothered me
Sounds like that last girl is just a bitch, honestly. If you have performance anxiety just try to get to know her well before diving into anything sexual, then you won't be so scared of fucking it up, or just talk it out with her.
That being said, oral sex really isn't rocket science anyway. Give her the ol' lickaroo and after 10 minutes she won't care about you not having had sex in some time.
It differs from girl to girl but overall I have a lot of friends that are girls who have had my back even when my guy friends didn't. Girls are human and some girls suck and others are great. Same can be said for guys
To girls, but guys can answer too whatever.
>Going out with girl
>Liking her a lot
>Decide to be exclusive
>She wants to be "Facebook" official
>I don't like putting too many details of my personal life on my Facebook, I mostly just use it to stay in touch with people
>Tell her I'd rather not
>She puts herself as "in a relationship" on Facebook, but doesn't list with whom.
>Fine with me
Is this okay? I feel like I'm making a big deal out of nothing, especially since she doesn't seem upset that I didn't want to put it, but I don't want to seem like I'm hiding her. The way I see it, it's just not everyone's business if I'm in a relationship and with whom. Thoughts?
stand up for yourself. they're doing that shit to dissuade other women from going after you so they can have the emotional support
a lot of acquaintances, a few romantic partners, no female friends friends. once you take sex out of the relationship, there's not much reason to have any involvement past the superficial level.
Happiest times of my life are when I'm with a girl. It feels great to have a partner in life even though it's temporary. What I don't like about women is how fickle, distant and indirect they can be. As soon as a relationship loses steam, It seems like the girl just get on with the first guy who sweet talks her. If there's a problem in a relationship, I'm expected to read her mind.
Most girls ive dated or were romantic interests usually have odd interests, and come from broken homes.
Do girls mind being approached when they are in a group?
I see them talking, and when you go to one of them and say something close to "Can I buy you a drink?", she either laughs you out, or everyone giggles and she says yes, but later. What's the deal there?
How do I tell a guy I'm really interested in him and want to get a little more serious? I've known him for like 5 months, there was a 3 month period where we didnt talk much because I was underway a lot. We've hung out like 5 or 6 times I can't remember.
Well, weird. Most of the girls I have met (between 16-20 years) have told me that they don't masturbate (whaaaa?) and they don't really feel horny or the need to fuck someone.
That felt weird to me when I was 16 (and charged up) and it feels weird to me now. If you don't wanna fuck, why do they dress in mini skirts designed to arouse guys??!!
Well, then have you maybe considered the possibility that she's really looking forward to it because she hasn't had any sex in some time as well?
>have told me that they don't masturbate (whaaaa?) and they don't really feel horny or the need to fuck someone.
As someone growing up with three sisters and going to an all-girls school, thats a big fat lie and I have absolutely no idea why it keeps being repeated by either girls or guys.
Yes, girls like orgasms. Who'd have thought.
Well, in that case this is just weird. The lies never seem to stop. Do they say that simply because they don't want the complications of a boyfriend? (They are single, which is why I have been even asking this!)
>Well, then have you maybe considered the possibility that she's really looking forward to it because she hasn't had any sex in some time as well?
Honestly I doubt that. I think it's just because she likes me. We are just friends. And she talks about sex a ton. So I really would not be at all surprised if she's been getting it in the past few months..
I think it's more of a social thing, like society expects us to be these innocent asexual beings right until the moment we have to turn into sluts to be "fun", and nothing in between.
Plus it's still a sorta private topic, and a lot of girls are simply embarrassed to talk about it, more so with guys I'm sure. I remember having to bug my best friend for weeks until she admitted to doing it "maybe once or twice a week", to which I said I'm surprised she doesn't go crazy, and just then she admitted to actually doing it more.
So, yeah. It's weird and sort of embarrassing to talk about if you're not really good friends, I suppose.
Or maybe they think you're trying to hit on them and "I have no interest in sex" is code for "I have no interest in sex with you", I dunno.
Might be, but girls as well as guys can be a lot of bark with not quite a lot of bite. I talk about sexuality excessively and constantly with my friends (or even people I just met) because I am incredibly fascinated with sexuality, and I'm not having a lot of sex at all.
>Might be, but girls as well as guys can be a lot of bark with not quite a lot of bite. I talk about sexuality excessively and constantly with my friends (or even people I just met) because I am incredibly fascinated with sexuality, and I'm not having a lot of sex at all.
maybe you're right. But she talks about it so much. In a sense, it intimidates me..
Oh and remember something from that 1 slut I fucked. Before I got ontop of her she had her hand on my chest while we were making out and said "oh my god, your heart is beating so fast!!!" And laughed at me about that too. If I'm showing signs of nervousness then with a girl I didn't care about. I'm really worried it'll be even worse with a girl I like.
Yeah probably. Even girls who seem interested, and went on dates with and stuff, act the same way. It's like a fucking groups thing. Everyone says the same thing and thus, the confusion! Nice reply though (y)
>But she talks about it so much
Well, she's enthusiastic about sex, that's a good thing!
That's easily said of course but you shouldn't worry so much about it, if she really likes you and you do have sex sometime she won't bite your head off if you can't make her cum the first time. Plenty of time to improve yourselves through practice together.
It's part of the hivemind sorta, yeah. It's retarded but somehow we got stuck with Victorian pretend-morals along the way.
But once you get close with any girls, say a relationship, or God forbid a noisy roommate, you'll soon notice that it's all bullshit, trust me. Girls like sex just as much as guys, and masturbation is probably way, way more fun for us than you.
I guess. I'm just worried I'm going to fuck up. The biggest thing I'm worried about is I'm going to act weird or something. Because I'm not used to being naked around people.. At all.. Or physical contact. Like I said. It's been 5 years since I've touched a girl..
Like I said, then if you do sleep with her maybe the first time will be shit, so what, that happens. Most first times are shit in fact. If she's into you that won't be a deal-breaker. Relax!
If you've never seen your wife have an orgasm, you both have my most heartfelt condolences.
Where do I find a woman who doesn't obsess over height and penis size, isn't constantly on the hunt for a "better opportunity" man, doesn't think watching television qualifies as a hobby, doesn't forsake cooking and cleaning as things they're "too good for," doesn't have some degenerate tattoo, doesn't buy into pretty much whatever mass media tells her, doesn't replace personal advancement with drugs and doesn't gain fifty pounds after entering a relationship because she knows she doesn't have to impress anyone anymore?
I just don't want it to be shit.. She doesn't live close to me, and will be in the area for just a few days so we are going to spend 2 of those days together. I just want to make a good memory. all of my pervious sexual experiences are all bad memories. Every single one. I don't this to be included amongst that list
Honestly, don't rush it. If she's just over there two days, why not get to know her better instead of focusing on having to sleep with her as quickly as possible, and having it be awesome right away? Take it slow, having sex shouldn't be about making cuts into your bed post, it should be about enjoying a shared experience. You don't need to hurry with that, it'll just make you more nervous and the sex worse.
Also, I'm really sorry but it's nearly half past 5am and my body needs sleep. If you want to continue this either wait for the next OG thread or drop me a message at the throwaway email.
Good luck in any case Anon.
What are the chances of me getting with a girl that I didn't get with over a year ago even when I liked her and noticed she liked me?
I've seen in her one of my classes lately, and I'm getting weird signs from her. For instance, when I tried to talk with her again, she seemed distance and not interested. But then another day, I caught her staring at me from across the classroom.
Girl I'm hanging out with is very open about sex and sexuality, is touchy, but last time I tried initiating even a basic touch after getting what I think were positive flags popping up telling me "do it", I got rejected, harshly.I wouldn't mind being friends, but I told this to one female friend and she thinks that I have a chance, at least for a casual encounter.
What do you guys think?
This is more for girls, but if there are any health-buff guys that know about these kinds of things, by all means, feel free to reply.
Over the past few weeks, I've had little to no appetite, my period has not happened at all this month, and can not stomach a lot of what I eat. Besides that, and lack of sleep from school, I've been feeling alright I guess. My parents told me they see me losing weight in my face. I do exercise when I have the chance, but lately, school gets in the way.
Re-Reading what I wrote, it could allude to that pregnancy sickness, but I am a virgin. Never had sex or done anything physical with anyone. But anyway, is it just stress from college? Or, could it be something else?
Thanks for reading
Your hormones can be out of whack due to stress from school, lack of eating, and also lack of sleep. Periods can be thrown off by a lot of stuff and you should try looking at your diet and try getting more sleep. Those are some general tips but I really think the best thing to do is to get a physical from a doctor to run some tests just to make sure there isn't anything more serious than what was stated above. A doctor can tell you more than a guy trying to guess at some symptoms. Also just try to keep hydrated and eat healthy whenever you can bear it.