How can you deal with a girlfriend that seems obsessed with Harry Potter?
It was cute at first and I'd read the books when I was younger and thought they were alright, but she seems to have literal ADD when it comes to reading anything other than YA and Harry Potter.
I'm sick of trying to get her to read more proper stuff and always get the "it's SUBJECTIVE, plus it's not like I learn anything with Thucydides or Borges that I couldn't just wikipedia for!!!".
It's incredibly frustrating that I can't share this big part of my life because of it.
I'm not insecure, reading is just a major past time of mine and I write and my friends all are major readers and such.
It's as if you were a chef and your girlfriend only liked eating at MacD's or mac and cheese out of the box.
dude how far gone are you? please break up with your gf. if ur not obsessing over her literature, why should she obsess over yours?
why do people think that their taste is the superior taste just because its THEIRS.
>it's SUBJECTIVE, plus it's not like I learn anything with Thucydides or Borges that I couldn't just wikipedia for!!!
I can spot the YA reader from all the way over here.
It was a bad idea to post this on /adv/ and not /lit/ I suppose.
Exactly and in that situation you can either get over it bc frankly it means absolutely nothing in life or you break up bc her taste in literature is obviously important, grow up
i really only read books on philosophy. i dont see the point in reading fiction as anythign good gets turned into a movie and is more enjoyable that way. i just dont think my opinions are the end all. the world doesn't revolve around me. doesnt revolve around you either.
I'm not saying I call her out on it constantly and so on, it's more of a problem of her calling what I read bad or boring in the first place and then me arguing that it isn't.
How it usually goes is I read something I really like, try to show her the book or the passage in particular and then she never reads it or says "yeah it's nice" but then if I ask her properly she admits she didn't read it and so on.
I'm just tired of not being able to share that kind of shit because she seems to be shut off to anything that isn't YA.
Meanwhile, I've gone with her to HP conventions and all sorts of stupid shit related to it.
Its possible but I think this is his defense mechanism. If he had any real confidence he wouldn't give a shit what books this girl prefers. Either way though she'll probably leave his ass anyway with the way he gets butt hurt over such nonsense
>I can't let things go and need people to understand my opinions even when they don't want to
>What's wrong with my girlfriend
thats great and all but you basically lead with
>HURR DURR GIRLFRIEND NO PATRICIAN ENOUGH
but maybe you should just back out? people disagree. even couples. i hate that I can't have pretentious conversations with my main squeeze about philosophy because the most i get in return is 'thats cool'.
but that doesnt make my boyfriends weird obsession with sharks, or casual interest in online comics plebeian compared to my own. if we find something we can enjoy together, we do. andif not, we enjoy it alone or with friends.
i dont mind that we sleep in a bed with 4 stuffed sharks sometimes. it doesnt make me resent him for not even reading a wikipedia article on existentialism.
you should grow a bit OP.
>hey, I just read this that I think is pretty cool and I want to share it with you
>yeah, that's nice
>WHY DON'T YOU LIKE THE THINGS I LIKE THE THINGS YOU LIKE ARE SHIT
OP is a fag, plain and simple
Well that's exactly what I'm asking on the OP. I'm not asking for advice on how to make my girlfriend more patrician, I'm asking as to how do other people deal with that kind of thing.
Your answer is the only one that touches on the subject so far instead of it being personal attacks on my supposed insecurity and or big ego, so thanks.
There's a lot of things we do enjoy together and I wouldn't break up over something like this, it's something that annoyed me today in particular because with friends she mentioned how I only read "boring, serious stuff and that she preferred to have fun with reading" and it frankly annoyed me that she would refer to it as boring and me as boring by extension.
asking how to deal wiht someone having an interest is like asking how to pick up a pencil. you just pick it up. you just deal with it.
if you honestly think theres some 12 step process for coming to terms with your girlfriends interests, then you are in for one hell of a horrible life.
we also gave you other advice. break up with her. if you are too immature to handle her, then dont bother. you know this is her interest. you know this is a large part of her life. either accept it or move on.