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Should I try and get back with my old girlfriend?
I ended things with her 4 years ago. I broke up with her as she was giving me a birthday present... Yeah pretty bad. But I'm sure I could fix it.
Is going back to where you've been always bad, or not?
So my social circle is something like 60/40 women/guy gender split. The women I know often say shit like how sweet I am or they don't understand how I'm single. Considering I've had particularly bad luck with women, it's starting to become extremely annoying. Is there a socially acceptable way to tell them to screw off with those comments?
Nigga read my other thread, props
I wasn't very confident in the bedroom, also that issue the above anon pointed out, also I had another insecurity about who I was - her social group was a bit different to mine.
BASICALLY I was a fucking idiot.
Do you reckon asking out an old girlfriend is sometimes a good idea, or never a good idea?
I would say 95% of the time it's a bad idea. You guys broke up for a reason. Being away from her for so long can make those reasons seem small and insignificant, but when you broke up with her they were big enough reasons to make you miserable.
You're single because girls aren't after "sweet" guys anon.
Polite, yes, and funny, yes. But "sweet" is girl speak for "you're attractive but you're not confident enough for me to want to go out with you"
Basically you need to be more confident in yourself. Ask out a girl, just that act in itself is bold and chicks dig that. Also, hang out with your guy friends more because that's where every dude learns everything he needs to know about life.
I'm not asking why I'm single. I have some issues I need to work on and I'm a bit abnormal as a person off the top of my head.
I'm asking how to get them to drop the topic because its irritating.
Nah stop, all you can do is stop being a bitter bitch about it.
Same thing kinda happened with me. I'm attractive and considered a catch by a lot of my friends (some of whom have hinted at, even outright said they'd totally have date me if we were both single, and tried to set me up with their friends). But I've had a pretty shitty streak of luck in dating women. Every time I met someone where I thought we might have potential, some sort of catastrophe would happen to fuck up any chance (like no exaggeration... in some cases... people would literally die). Didn't have my first girlfriend 'til 26.
Is what it is. Just shrug your shoulders, stop taking those things so seriously (or alternatively, tell them how you feel about them saying shit like that to you), and continue to truck on in your life.
Anyway it's a bit of a moot point right now because I'm currently NEET... as I said, I am a stupid person.
Once I get my life back on track though I have thought I might ask her out. In fact I probably will, if she isn't seeing anyone. I think I should reach out at least.
The thing is, the problems were MY insecurities. If I can just grow the fuck up, which I think I have done to some extent, then things would be peachy(er).
Hey guys what is a flirty way of asking you to pleasure me?
Usually I just say "can you do me a favor and..." or "can you touch me please" but that doesn't sound flirty or very sexy I think... I wanna say something that will inspire him to be my bedroom hero when I need it.
Now see, we're something called "human". We don't react the same to a comment. Depending on the girl, I would just try and tell them that it's becoming redundant in a calm manner if at all possible. I can tell they're just trying to be nice, so maybe say something along the lines of "I know you're trying to be nice and I appreciate that, but can you tone it down a bit?"
Then again, I'm not the best with chit-chat. Not to mention, like I said before, we don't all react the same to a comment. It depends on the girl and her personality.
From last bread
>A person of average looks, high level of intelligence and aptitude for deep conversation, works hard to afford the lifestyle they want, knows what they prefer in a SO and is able to communicate that clearly, has close friends and can handle interpersonal relations (not socially awkward in normal situations), and is fun in the sack.
Someone who is basically effortless to be around, but at the same time makes me feel excited.
Someone who makes good times greater, and bad times more bearable.
Someone who helps me be the kind of person that I want to be.
Someone I can rely on and trust.
Someone for whom I do all that for as well.
Okay I'll try a serious answer now
Just come out and say it, it doesn't matter how. Most guys will do it because then you start moaning and shit and that's hot as fuck. Then everyone's a winner.
Well it doesn't necessarily have to stem from abuse. Religious and even slut-shaming society can impress you as well and make you like that.
You COULD be a true asexual but I really doubt it.
not a chance
but there are some who would, i suppose
also asexuality is not real. it is a cop out for those that are no longer attracted to their partners or those who are afraid to be examined by a physician/psychologist. it is not natural for a sexually reproducing species to not experience sexual urges. what you are experiencing is either mental illness or a physiological complication. i suggest you see a doctor, anon.
Definitely not. Even if I was given a pass to sleep with other people, I'd still be uncomfortable with the situation. I'm sure there are other men who are comfortable with something like that though.
If you want a 100% monogamous relationship though, you're pretty much fucked unless you date another asexual though.
A bit thick or sometimes even chubby. Reliable, calm, nurturing. Preferably a bit of an introvert.
certainly. good luck, and remember this thread when you have your first orgasm. remember to scream out my name... "OH ANON! OH GOD OH YES LJSGBOSUYVFSDLJKBHSPIG" or something to that effect
So I've been with my gf for 2 and a half months now (we're both 18), and we've gotten pretty serious. We regularly talk about marriage, kids, our future together, etc. We both acknowledged that obviously something could go wrong in our relationship and neither of us would hold it against the other if we left. But, as a man, I've always been told that marriage is a trap, don't fall into the relationship too quickly, etc.
However, I really do love her. I believe this to be my true first love, I mean I really do see myself marrying her one day like that's how serious I'm taking this. How do I know if this is love? Do I just give it time? Should I downplay the marriage talk and stuff on my end or would that drive her away from me?
TLDR: I think I'm in love, how do I know? Also any general 'young and in love' advice is welcome.
I'm currently on course to get an associates in Liberal Arts from a community college. But there is a store that is the 'family business' and I work there, would definitely like to take over someday. She's just graduating high school, planning to attend community college as well.
The marriage thing was meant for down the line in our lives, like our mid 20s. Sorry didn't make that clear.
Possibly you're paying too much attention to what someone else is doing, so get a life as in get your OWN life, and stop worrying over theirs.
If that sounds off, need more context.
Top kek. To answer your question, it's because you did fuck all all weekend. I get that it's your prerogative to spend your weekend how you want to, but like she did, others can judge you for it.
>asexuality is not real
I actually know someone who's disgusted by the idea of a kiss, let alone a relationship. Am I saying it's normal? Not in the slightest. In fact I do admit her reasoning is a bit off. I will say it does exist though.
Doing more than just sitting and watching TV for 48 hours. Getting chores done, working on hobbies, maybe being a little social and spending time with friends and family. You know, well balanced things
Typically I just stay at home. I'll workout while I watch TV though. Just from watching Cops and the politics on the news and working out at the same time. I'm starting to get pretty fit. I see my friends maybe once a month because they live in a different city. So there really isn't much to do. I live in a heavy corporate/government area.
Basically, time will tell.
You have to wait until you're older, and maybe live together. The whole "in love" part can fade, since that's the honeymoon phase. You have to love the person, not just be in love.
Love is the hard one. It takes dedication, respect, compromise.
Being in love is the whole butterflies in tummy, head over heels, crazy about someone.
You can have both, and you can keep some of the "in love" parts of your relationship. But most people think it's over once the honeymoon phase wears off. Sometimes it is over, because sometimes the people really aren't compatible.But sometimes people really regret breaking up because they "love someone but just aren't in love anymore." Because time apart makes them want to be with that person again.
I think it's something with oxytocin, your brain gets used to releasing however much around the person you love, you become tolerant to it, then when you break up you go through withdrawal. But I don't know brain science enough to confirm that part.
>Ask them out.
I tried this. Didn't work as intended, and things got really awkward between us.
Of course. But I at least wish we had stayed close. We were really close, sometimes texting each other till two am in high school. I felt exhausted in the morning, but it was worth it. I almost wish I just hadn't said anything.
>a guarantee that you'll get an answer
Not really. They could easily "Maybe, I'll think about it." but it seems to me, that maybe pretty much always means no. So I guess youre still right. Never had a girl say "i'll think about it" and then say yes
What should be my goals when I talk to a girl? Should i try to get her phone number or something?
Also, for the first time I try to talk to a girl, what are ways that I can know that she might like me?
What are some good ways to make conversation?
Question for straight guys working in female dominated jobs.
Is it difficult? Are you treated fairly? Tell me about any workplace issues or incidents that have been directly caused by your sex.
I'm asking because I'll be working in an industry that's 99% female.
Sure. I'm finishing off my weight loss plans, and I don't think they're that big of a deal.
She was basically saying you did nothing substantial with your free time. I enjoy throwing back and vegging out on games all day now and then, but it's the exception rather than the norm.
>They could easily "Maybe, I'll think about it." but it seems to me, that maybe pretty much always means no
Pretty much. Its mostly to avoid any conflict at that moment. I treat anything other than excitement as a soft no at the very least.
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So my gf is so shy when it comes to ass play. I don't want to fuck her in the ass, I just would like to rub it and lick it.
Any tips on how i can convey that I just like her butthole and want to play with it, not insert anything?
>She was basically saying you did nothing substantial with your free time. I enjoy throwing back and vegging out on games all day now and then, but it's the exception rather than the norm
So what should I do instead? Apperently I have no life
Try living together for a few months.
if you cant make that commitment, youre not ready to be married.
If you cant stand her after a year, you werent ready to be married.
If after a year, youre financially sound and tolerate and love each other, youre meant to be. Maybe. Might wait longer if you want.
Never get married until youve lived with them.
>So what should I do instead? Apperently I have no life
Honestly that's up to you. I mean just think about it, is sitting around and watching cops all you want to do with your life? I like to throw time away with my friends and occasionally helping out fundraisers and the like. But you may be a very different person.
There's not like, this magic catchphrase you can use on her. If you're in a relationship you should communicate fetishes and whatever else.
We all know it's going to be Year of the Trump
Oh God I just realized I forgot to take the tag off my gfs valentines flowers. It was really nice colorful but damn how bad did I fuck up
I feel bad cause it doesnt feel as special knowing it's on there and her knowing where I got it now. I mean it wasn't cheap it cost me $80 with vase but still I shouldve taken the stupid tag off.
And the place I picked where we had dinner valentines night is bothering me too it felt really cheap and fast foodish. I had never eaten there but I read the food was good online and I knew she'd like the type of food there.
I know she loves me and all and usually don't let petty shit like this bother me but I just feel like I let her down for some reason. Our night didn't really stand out at all. Am I being dumb
>honestly that's up to you. I mean just think about it, is sitting around and watching cops all you want to do with your life
I really don't know what to do. I feel very unmotivated. Sure, I have a job and I make a comfortable salary and I'm 26 and live in my moms basement because I can't justify a reason to move out. But don't really have any goals or anything to strive for.
Lets dispel this notion that Marco Rubio doesn't know what he's doing. He knows exactly what he's doing. He's systematically repeating the same establishment talking points without variance.
Status quo pls go
>But don't really have any goals or anything to strive for.
Well that's part of developing your life. I don't have any solutions since that's something you need to decide on your own, but the problem (lack of goals, stagnant life) seems pretty clear cut.
Praise be to the toupee
Honestly the fact that you picked it because "the food was good and they had the kind of food she likes" is the best thing you could've done. You made her night, anon.
If your girl hates fish dont take her to red lobster, y'know? More expensive =/= better
I texted this girl for a few months, i had hooked up with her and knew she liked me. We didn't see each other very often but we texted a lot and it was interesting.
After a while i started texting her less hoping she would be able to talk to me in real life but we never really met up much. I think i really confused her by being pretty boring to text and shutting her down one late night when she seemed horny.
Eventually she ended up ignoring one of my boring texts asking her if she wanted to do anything. She snapped me about a week later saying she was sorry and we sent a few snaps. The next day i asked pretty much the same thing and she ignored that.
It's been like a month and i still think shes a really cool girl and i want to tell her that and explain. preferably to her face but i never see her so i'm thinking of sending her a snap saying i liked talking to her and try to get her again. Do you think it's worth it or will i come off lame.
it's bugging me so any advice would help
I would concern yourself over this issue when you actually start to feel bad over everything in your life. Some bitchy co-worker said your life isn't up to her standards, but why do you care? You said you feel you are making gains with your workouts, so something feels positive in your life. That's good! You don't have to have a full set of goals right now, but be brave and pursue the things that do excite you. No matter how far off they seem, it's the only way to keep your head on in this world.
Just what she said made me think. like, I literally have no reason to be here. There isn't very much that excites me. So why even exist and hold a position at my job that maybe somebody else could use? I am just taking up space.
The only reason I workout while watching TV is out of boredom Tbh
There's a funny secret about societal evolution. Boredom led to civilization as we know it. If mankind didn't figure out farming, we would all still be occupied with hunting and gathering. Know that you, like everyone, have potential. Also know that you, like everyone, have to figure out what that is and how you are going to realize it. People will tell you to get an education, a better job, more money, a relationship, but all of that is for not if you aren't excited by the version of each of those you get. The only advice that I think is worth passing on is to pursue experience. Try anything and everything that intrigues you; it's the only way you are going to find the needle in the haystack that makes it all worth it.
If you want to cash out, I've got no call to stop you. I just hope that if you go that way, it's bigger and more profound than an off-handed comment from a coworker. Some bitch that belittles her co-workers doesn't deserve that kind of power. Good luck.
Sounds like giving her some distance isn't working, it looks like you're going to have to risk being lame and getting rejected depending on how much that would affect you and how much you like her
>steal her phone
>text myself from her phone
>prank text her
>tell her its me
>shes 100% okay with it
So women do I have a shot. This was by far one of the creepiest things Ive done to a girl and she wasnt even phased by it.
Question for any gender really: would you date someone who is agoraphobic?
e.g. Physically loses balance even while standing in public, uncomfortable even in enclosed front porch, groceries delivered, visited twice a week by someone from support group.
Yes, every relationship takes effort, but if you feel like you have to fight for every single moment from the get go, you have bigger issues that can probably be resolved.
Your partner is someone who you feel contributes to and betters your life, not takes away and drains from.
>Would you stay with an asexual person?
I'm not sure... I like sex... a lot... I'm not sure if i'd be cool with satisfying my urges elsewhere while in a relationship either.
I'll say that my best friend is similar in that she really friken HATES being touched in any way whatsoever. Unless she initiates it, or she's insanely comfortable with you
My girlfriend is a similar way too to an extent (there was a pretty long period before we ever held hands--but at the same time her sex drive--actually both thier sex drives--is almost as high as mine)
If you're like them, sure? Otherwise *shrug*. But not everyone's the same.
>Would you date a girl that used to be fat and now has stretch marks?
Sure, don't really give too much of a fuck.
>would you date someone who is agoraphobic?
Would be a tough sell to be honest. I'm a pretty major introvert, but losing the ability to go to the movies or going anywhere outside on a date would be pretty shitty.
Have you made improvement over the years?
Girls, if you feel like crap and have a lot on your plate, what's the best thing a guy can do to make you feel better?
Not talking about sex. I'm looking to plan a day out with this girl, get her away from all the shit being flung at her for just one day. Thing is, I don't know what because we've done most of the OP stuff in the area, she's unable to do most physical activities, and she's mentally exhausted so museum/smart things are probably off-limits too.
girl I've been texting everyday for the past 3 months hasn't been the same as she normally is. She doesn't seem as excited as before. we used to talk everyday, all day. And she used to always send tons of emojis and just seem excited. But not lately. Should I give her some space? I texted her good night last night. She read that text 4 hours ago. And just texted me saying "hi". I don't know if I should just wait a while before I text her or what. I wish we could talk like we used to because it was so fun and interesting. But if I try to bring up something fun I just get simple responses.
Should I just give her space? I don't know what it is that's going on. I asked and she said "I'm fine" before
So this girl goes on a trip in two days. I want to ask her out and make my romantic intentions clear. With two days left and a lot of packing left to do on her end, it seems kind of hard and last-minute.
What's the best thing I can do here?
>have you improved
somewhat. I can be outside for short periods of time. short drives in a car as long as it's not far from home and I don't have to get out. though I started having an anxiety attack last time and he took me straight back. they told me finding someone to spend time with would help motivate me to get out more, but it's like you said. people like to places for a date, not just stay home
Ladies: picture this scenario:
You are in a relationship with a guy you love dearly, but you are not sexually attracted to him. You don't want sex with him, he doesn't want sex with you. That's fine. You are both ok with that. But you still like sex in general, so you decide to step out of your relationship for an occasional, safe, good time. Hey, you are only human, right?
You browse craigslist and you notice an ad by a married man that is ranting about his sexless marriage, how he loves his wife dearly and how he'll never do anything to hurt her, but how he needs release or someone in general to talk to, someone who knows what he is going through.
You decide one evening to send this married guy an email. You say that you understand everything he said, how you know the situation and you explain your own. You ask for advice or help in how to deal with the situation, without really revealing any details whatsoever.
You send your email, about an hour later you get a reply. This mail basically says "thanks for being so understanding about my situation, really refreshing to hear from someone in the same or similar boat", he goes on a bit with how he ended up in his own situation, and gives advice to you. You aren't married, you have a choice to leave your boyfriend, since he says sex is a big deal in a relationship if it is meant to last forever.
You read that email. What is now going through your mind?
I'm not looking for judgmental replies, I'm just so curious. I am the married guy in this scenario, and I received her email last friday with no response after mine. Was I out of line?
Mixed signals then. She said she slept around (why would she mention this?) and she knows I'm only 28. She's probably a lot older than me though. But yeah, it was probably on a whim. I should just forget about it.
Damn are you me because im dealing with the same shit. Like bitch, stop telling me this bullshit. If it were true, you wouldn't be saying it and i wouldn't be in this position baka
not asking is the best way
not a chance
means someone was mad at you and tried to insult you
my gf had problems too. i just go for it whenever i like. when she seems to be uncomfy with it i tell her to relax and enjoy it since i wont stop anyways
I don't know if you've ever read anything by Terry Pratchett, but basically someone like Captain Carrot. Simple, but not stupid, honest, caring, someone who believes everyone is a little bit better than they really are, but believes it so vehemently that everyone around him tries to actually *be* better, if only for a little while.
Someone who will listen to me and hold me and care for me, actually care and listen and but just wait until it's his turn to talk.
Is there any 'right' time to tell your boyfriend he's getting fat? I've been putting this off for months and I know exactly why he's getting fat and I can give him advice and help him, but I'm constantly like "Nooooo he's had a hard day this isn't fair to him". His overhanging belly was particularly bad this weekend and I feel I need to get it off my chest ASAP.
you sure about that?
then why are you so conserned about her "hints"?
i mean, i'm just going to assume that you either think she's cute and potential gf-material or you want to get laid. either way, the directs approach would be the best. just make a move
>get it off my chest ASAP
you should have said something the first time it crossed your mind. just take the next opportunity that it catches your attention. don't let stuff like this fester and rott. make sure to use the right wording.
i gave up shaving long ago. shit's a burden. switch to hair removal cream instead. single use gloves, smear cream evenly on all hairy areas (CAREFULL! NOT INTO YOU VAG OR ANUS!) wait as stated in describtino of product, step under shower, put on peeling-gloves, remove hairs with circular motions and rinse well with warm water. hydrate and enjoy your new-born-skin-genitals.
I completely lather the area with a good moisturizing soap and always use a new, sharp razor for my vag.
To shave closer to my labia, I pop one leg up, put my middle finger in between my lips to protect my clit and all the sensitive non-hairy skin of my vag, and my index finger to spread/straighten the area with hair. Then I shave in a motion from front to back. Then switch hands and repeat with the other lip.
Exactly this. There's also some sort of shaving cream that sort of removes hair but the one I've tried somehow really burned after a while.
Definitely stretch the skin as much as possible, that makes shaving around that area much much easier.
Worked in a creche, and accountancy (staff dominated by women), retail and such.
What industry are you heading into?. Most are just regular folk you can get along with at lunch, maybe make a good friend. Some have their quirks however.
You have the woman with an axe to grind against all men (pray she isn't in an authoritative position over you, one was determined to make my life difficult because I had a penis - yet also had a upstrung idealized view on "What a man should be", which essentially was a 60s man lifestyle, curious). Basically I was on her shit list, but she would be over the moon if I lifted, say a filing cabinet from A to B for half an hour, then proceed with her day-to-day snide comments about men, she was an odd and petty woman. I remember her first few words to me was about the fuck I was a Taurus and thus incompatible with her and we would not get along, crazy.
Accountancy was lovely, the typical daily grind and little drama. I was a Yuppie at the time so I was pretty inexperienced. The women working with me were nice, and so were the one's above me, however I had an unfortunate run in with the older boss, the office would go for drinks and the older boss would get very touchy feely whenever I was around. No joke said I was "Yummy", very uncomfortable, felt trapped in that position, started skipping office outings.
Its overall positive with random assholes that ruin it from time to time, just don't get involved in the drama gossip, just even being associated in the conversation or being witness is enough to cause office drama the likes you've never seen, low-intensity bitchyness between staff members is a sight to behold.
My gf wont do doggy in the day time/when lights are on (however its never an issue in the dark). She always says something like 'no i'm too tired' (but perfectly happy for any other position). I realize this is an excuse and she must be insecure about her ass or something (I love her ass). I like the visuals of sex too and would like 'that angle' in the light. Any suggestions on how to get it to happen?
Say I really, really like this chick; I have no idea how to read her and she's really shy around other humans.
I really dig this chick's brain, but I'm used to literally just striking conversations with Stacies and basic bitches who obviously like getting dicked down, but for this one I'm not even sure what to do since she avoids physical contact but talks my ear off.
Do any of you high functioning folk have any Idea how I should go about approaching this situation?
been spending time alone smoking weed and chilling with this girl recently, she's already slept in my bed w/ me in a kush induced coma but she was clothed and nothing intimate happened
is it "better" to physically make a move i.e. to go for a kiss, than it is to just say you like her in more than a friend way? i'm finding it really hard to judge the vibe when we hang out and i'd feel much more comfortable/less forced just talking before acting
Yup, definitely insecure. Maybe she has some pimples or is selfconscious about her asshole/hairs down there. You need to make her feel that you get turned on by her ass, even when it doesn't look flawless. For example, take a shower together, whatever. Get her to let her guard down around you and feel chance comfy in your presence. Make her feel beautiful
>Matched with a girl on Tinder yesterday
>was honest to boot
>we didn't click, both had shit to deal with
>didn't feel bad nor shitty nor depressed from the rejection
Woah woah woah, wait what the fuck?
Why am I not feeling like shit?
My biggest concern with this is your ability to function successfully as an adult.
If you can make a living by yourself somehow and have some kind of future established for yourself despite your problems, then it really wouldn't be that much of an issue.
Lots of girls I know say "they like chubby guys," or they like guys with "bad hair" or something like that.
But when they get to REALLY discussing hot guys it's always the same few celebrities.
It's a strange day when I turn to 4chan for help. My fiancé has changed a lot since we met and I'm trying to figure out what happened.
She used to be a big dirty talking slut who cheated on most of her boyfriends, slept with like 8 people over the course of a year and always talked dirty to people or sent pictures to anyone who asked.
When we met we fucked like rabbits for the first 6 months and after a year she has lost her libido. She's never in the mood, she thinks it weird when I talk nasty, she doesn't think
Anything sexual is hot, it's making me insane. I get laid maybe once a month if I'm lucky and I miss the old her. We've been together for 3 years now. Anyone know what could be going on with her?
It usually doesn't mean they *prefer* guys with bad hair, but they don't mind it.I mean, if you could choose, you'd probably have a gf that looked like Jennifer Connelly or whoever, but you're still perfectly fine with your gf having short legs. Or whatever.
I'm a guy who lost over 100 pounds in weight, now I'm about 5' 10, 155 pounds. Problem is I still look kind of "thick" - broad chest (39')/very broad shoulders, but soft/flabby chest (i.e. tits when I sit) and a belly that I suck in. I also have love handles. I try to dress well and I'm exercising and eating well and I am still getting into shape. Am I still a lost cause as far as dating is concerned? I lost so much weight but I still feel fat/fucked up
why do some girls act stupid when in actuality they are intelligent? It annoys the fk out of me because if they didn't act stupid I would find them much more attractive and go out of my way to hang out with them and get to know them
Is there a specific scenario you can think of?
I really don't want this to sound like bragging or me thinking I'm smart, but sometimes I don't operate at 100% intelligence level or scientific talking mode because I don't want to risk the guy feeling dumb. I've been in a scenario where the guy made me feel dumb, and I didn't really want to spend much time around him after a while
Also had a similar problem. The problem with losing 100 lbs is, you are left with a bit of excess skin. It gets better after a long time, but for a while you're gonna think you have a belly when in fact all you have is the cavity left by your hard work.
Still a bit unsightly, but not a deal breaker in most cases.
I wouldn't have a MFF threesome regardless of the circumstances or the qualities in the guy. Even though I think some chicks are pretty enough to make out with, I would never willingly share my guy.
Guys - How did you HONESTLY take it when you found out about your girlfriends past sexual exploits?
Or havent you? Do you make a point not to?
And lastly is it weird to feel negative after hearing these kinds of things despite it not meaning anything any more?
That's a really personal decision so my opinion will not be worth much really, but personally I dislike the idea of sharing my partner.
Generally I don't much like the idea of threesomes with whoever but having a romantic relationship with someone and then just randomly letting another girl have a go at him, the idea makes my skin crawl, jealousy and all that.
I'd say that's fine. Being in person would make me feel more pressured to say yes even if I didn't want to. But I'm socially awkward and I really prefer texting to personal interactions so I don't go potato on anybody
>How did you HONESTLY take it when you found out about your girlfriends past sexual exploits?
No fucks given. It's not like I don't have my own past.
>And lastly is it weird to feel negative after hearing these kinds of things despite it not meaning anything any more?
Dunno. I guess? Everyone takes things differently. As long as you can take it in stride and not let it overrun you, whatever.
What are your thoughts on how misogynistic western society has become? I realize that there a lot of men who aren't misogynistic, but the majority are, especially the ones in power and am curious how much it affects you, if you yourself see it or are oblivious to it.
Haters gonna hate. They're everywhere on all sides. It's not like there aren't a ton of feminists raging across the world.
All one side raging against the other does is create more polarization.
Equality and understanding is where it's at.
Also, "the majority are". rofl. Sure buddy... sure...
I never was insecure until I met her, she told me some stuff and then I snooped her shit when I thought she was cheating. She told me hoe many guys she slept with and while snooping I found a lot of sexting and nudes sent to probably like 20 other people. She's also told a friend I was terrible in bed which is news to me. She was too lazy to tell me how she liked things and is super sensitive for some reason so she doesn't like anything I used to do with other girls.
Talking with my ex gf
>hey it's okay we were both stupid, I forgive you for everything in the past
Omg anon I'm so sorry, I cheated with guy A and guy B.
Im trying to be gracious here and this is what I fucking get.
At least I have no desire to get back with her again now.
has become ? we WERE ultra misogynistic back in the 50's, but now i pretty much think that we're not misogynistic at all, of course some of us tend to be but not the majority.
But i probably live in europe so maybe it's different over here.
Today I was on a second date with a girl. Everything went but due to my nervousness and inexperience I didn't kiss her when I had the chance. In the end we did sort of a weird "kiss on the cheek but with the sides of our lips meeting".
It's a bad thing when you don't kiss her on the second date, right?
Alright, if I were to ask you out and your response was negative would that mean that you're not interested at all? Or could there be like a situation where you just don't feel ready for a date or whatever? I feel like if I send her a message and she says no I'm done for in terms of trying to get her.
>meet female co-worker's friend at a party
>talk to her a bit but go about my business as drunken usual
>fast forward a few months to last week
>coworker texts me and ask me if I'd want to 'talk' to her
>"ya sure idc"
>start texting her for a few days and invites me over to her house on Friday for a drugs and drinks literally the day we started texting
If I'm to assume correctly, I'd say this is a blatant please for the D. But from the way she texts she doesn't give off that slut vibe that you can usually distinguish by reading between the lines. So what are my odds of getting my dick wet as opposed to me misinterpreting everything.
Why can't I get any matches, how much of a faggoty mcfaggots am I?
Women how do nice guys get a chance.
I used to be one. Had no success with women so I said fuck it. But now Im older and am tired of playing games. But Im not about to go back to being a doormat.
Is there a place for me.
To me personally no. The best description I'd have for the situations where I use winky face is when I'm just being cheeky. It doesn't mean that I want your dick but it probably means I'm comfortable talking to you. Overall yeah it's a good thing but not a blinking sign that says "fuck me"
Well, the ones I have with a face don't have the personality in it, I could only get the one at the end. ı find selfies repulsive so didn't put mine. Do you think thats the issue?
I guess I was awkward about it. Context was I asked if she has plans on Valentine's Day, she said she did and asked why I wanted to know, so I told her straight up I was going to ask her out. That's when she "awww'd."
But yeah, I'm guessing she meant to say she's not interested. Maybe I'll ask her one more time to hangout. I'd prefer an actual rejection, you know?
It's just a kiss dude, it might mean a shitload to you but I can almost assure you she thinks it's just that -- a kiss. She'll understand you were nervous earlier if you kiss her the next time you see her.
I only use winky face when I'm making a terrible pun, so no, I don't mean it as interest. Some people do think of them that way, but we can't tell you if this girl does.
Better to not expect anything. If you're thinking about odds you're more likely to be disappointed.
I remember you from a few days ago. Go away.
Yeah I know, that's pretty shitty dude.
Although you probably shouldn't have said you were planning on asking her out. If she already had plans she most likely wouldn't have gone out with you on Vday either way. You should've just said "just wondering" and asked her out later.
I'm starting to resent my boyfriend. He thinks that just because he's worked hard to get where he is he should have no sympathy for me struggling to get a better paying job and not having money to do things. The job market is shit where I live. I can't go to school for spring semester like he can and started crying when I found out because I knew he would find more opportunities to make me feel like shit because I'm not being productive. He was encouraging me to enjoy the semester off, but here he is, yelling at me with no help, only criticizing. Is there any way to fix this or should I just really not talk to him about anything and just try making things happen for myself without him knowing and face the struggles with no support? I hate that it might come down to not having support from my s/o but I guess that's what it's going to have to be like. I feel like I can never do right.
I doubt your boyfriend would appreciate you even if you overcame your struggles. He sounds like the kind of person who, even if you managed to climb to the same level of success as him, would still hold you in lesser value.
Honestly he sounds like a dickhead
>I want to be taken care of while I do nothing
Yeah what did you honestly expect. How many interviews did you go on today? How many applications did you fill out? Have you been practicing your spanish to improve your chances?
Basically it sounds you stopped working towards your goal and arent doing anything with your life. Hes right in what hes saying, you just dont want to hear it.
I don't know if I should tell my boyfriend I'm suicidal. I'm trying to work through my depression so I can be a happy partner. I want his help but I feel like if I put too much on his shoulders he will leave me and I honestly would not blame him one bit.
So this girl is going on a week's vacation in one day. We're pretty close, but I want to ask her out for real.
Should I ask her before she leaves or after she returns? Either way the date won't be anytime soon.
How do you deal with anxiety about dating? I'm 20, and my friends, some of whom are younger than me, seem to have no problem. They can meet strangers for intimate dinners without any trouble, while I need to get drunk off my ass and meet up with them at a bar to calm my nerves.
I'm seeing a confident older guy (10 years), we've been sleeping together for months, but I usually leave early in the morning because I'm nervous and awkward. I'm nearly having a nervous breakdown when I'm going to his house, but we just spent the morning together for the first time and it went okay, although I was very awkward, because I really like him. He's invited me out for a proper date numerous times, but I always cancel last minute because I get so anxious. I just agreed and made up my mind to do it in a week's time, but I'm already feeling mom's spaghetti and sweaty palms. I don't want to get wasted beforehand and be more embarrasing than I already am.
Yes it does. Clearly there's something wrong with you.
I wouldn't go on a date with a guy just because of the way he looked. Now, if he smelled good, maybe.
Either should be fine.
Sounds like you're doing things the right way. There is no way to make the anxiety disappear. But by walking through the anxiety and completing tasks despite its plaguing you, you'll soon start to realize it was all built up in your head. Not just 'intellectually', which you probably already know, but in your core you'll comprehend the facade your mind put up, and it will dissipate.
Men will write off a bad first impression of a woman as being a bitch
Woman will start fucking vendettas with another woman over a bad first impression.
Women treat other women like they've committed war crimes
>A best friend I'd want to have sex with.
All relationships I've had so far were passionate and ended out burning me or my partner out after a while, but ever since I heard someone online talk about it, I'm kinda eager to try that kind of relationship.
No thats your attitude and its pretty sickening.
You just moved the goal post which is a huge fallacy. Now youve switched from saying youll get a girl if you do this to saying that theres nothing you can do to get a girl. Be consistent.
what's a reason you'd suddenly flip your behavior from being really excited and happy when talking to a guy. But the next day just be really closed and short?
Girl I've been texting for a while just started acting different. I know it wasn't anything I did because I re-read the texts and it goes from her being all excited and wishing me goodnight with lots of kisses. To just short "hi" and "I'm ok" type talking. I've tried asking if anything is wrong and she just says "I'm fine". I told her that the reason I asked is it seems like things are different, and she doesn't seem as excited before. She used to like to talk about lots of things but she's short now. And her response was "I don't know. I don't knooooow"
what do I do? This makes me sad. Talking to her always lightens my day. But she seems down to me, but claims she isn't.
I'm a little picky about looks in women, but I often do think they are attractive. However, sometimes I run into some that are serious heart throbs for me. They're not bombshell blondes with triple D tits and sinful curvature. They're just really cute brunette girls with fairly modest assets.
That doesn't happen too often though, but I recently met one of those kinds of women. I made a move, but I found out she had a boyfriend. Either she thought I was a creep and took that as an easy out, or she really does. Regardless, I stopped talking to her since that was my only intention and I figured if she wanted to be friends, she would also make some effort for that. Our class together passed, and I was like, "Well, that's that." I was pretty content with having let that go.
We had another class together. And now she comes into the place I work for help, and we talk a little. Jesus Christ, what do I do to escape this fresh hell? I feel that heart throb every time I see her or she says my name. I respect that she has (or is lying) about having a boyfriend. I won't make any advances because of that. Sweet damn, though. I want her so badly.
How do I reconcile these feelings?
You're asking me to tell you what to improve when I can't possibly answer, since it's probably something you don't know about yourself, or decline to offer. Asking "what am I doing wrong?" really does imply that you think you should be rewarded with a gf for doing everything right.
Maybe she woke up on the wrong side of the bed. You're coming off as needy, and she very likely really doesn't want that right now.
I've been dating my first girlfriend for about a month and a half now. We've had sex twice, it was great, but also just basic missionary.
I really want to do all kinds of weird kinky shit though. How do you bring this up? Do you literally just wait till you're in the mood and you know it's coming and be like "hey btw hun I want you to do xyz" or what.
Usually I avoid the topic. But generally speaking they know I frown upon casual sex, and I'd be a bit irritated if she brought the topic up for whatever reason.
Nigger this is the most carebear generation ever as far as women are concerned. The fact is the pay gap and all of the other patriarchy boogeymen won't go anywhere as long as women keep taking worthless degrees. They may go to college more often, but they sure don't apply it well.
The world needs only so many psychologists and kindergarten teachers.
Why do you tell men other than your boyfriend/husband that things are not going well in your relationship?
Is it for empathy? Are you interested in that new guy? Why do people do this?
Someone who's fairly moderate like myself, but on a constant road of improvement. I'm a little critical of people, but I also give them a lot of room for to say "Hey, we're only human." I can be a little cynical, but I also want to help others. I have some desire to be out of the ordinary, but I recognize the value of toiling in the proverbial fields. I want a woman like that.
Also: thin, brunette, lightly colored eyes, decent style, shapely butt. Hopefully won't think I'm weird for liking anime. Not like I'm a super weeb, but pic related.
>What are your thoughts on how misogynistic western society has become?
How old are you?
>Guys - How did you HONESTLY take it when you found out about your girlfriends past sexual exploits?
Didn't give a shit, but then she was pretty average.
I'm fucking crying right now.
Girl I care about just told me this
It means a lot to hear her say that. But I care about her so much, it hurts when she mentioned she doesn't have hope for herself. I try to help and motivate her. But she won't let me. I'm literally in tears
Well, when I started hooking up with my partners we usually go at it like rabbits for the first few months. 2 times in a month and a half doesn't sound like much. The situation depends on her sex drive and former experience.
You shouldn't bring up you want to do extremely kinky things too fast, you just have to progress it slowly, if you know what I mean. Start with trying other positions, add some dirty talk, then ask her about her fantasies when you're both comfortable and lying together in bed. Don't make her feel pressured, and don't go straight into asking for anal when she's your first girlfriend and you've had sex so few times. Take it slow.
I have this girl that I like but she is not yet ready due to her previous relationship being broken by cheating but I told her that so far I have no intentions in courting just yet and I respect her decision, I just want to get to know her more by asking her to have a dinner,
Is my decision correct? or have I fuck up?
I'm sort of experiencing this right now. Girl I like recently broke up and said the same thing. I told her I respect her decision which she seemed to be really happy about. So we've grown closer as friends. and flirt sometimes too. I think we are going to have sex soon.
I honestly don't know how. This is the first girl I've had feelings for. So I don't really know what to do. I've done lots of sweet things for her. I even made a nice chart of things she has to look forward to in the coming months and goals that are important to her. I made it look really nice and included inside jokes and stuff in it. She liked it. But whenever I talk about hope and success for her she just says "I don't want to talk about this".
What do I do??
I'm a dude, but it sounds like you're being kind of needy.
Additionally, some times you just don't feel it.
My girlfriend's best friend's been on a dating spree and recently she met this guy she was SUUPER in to, like she was fairly infatuated and she was pretty aggressive with him because of it. But literally the next morning after she kissed/made out with him, she got a "good morning cutie" text from him realized that actually, she was the one making all the moves, and that while she generally liked being the aggressor, all in all it was spelling out an increasingly obvious trend where he was being waaaay too passive about everything, and she instantly lost all intrerest. And felt awkward as fuck because suddenly she had no idea how to let him down (which my girlfriend, and then I got sucked in to).
Their conclusion: just tell him it was a mistake and that he's a great guy, but she just thought they wanted different things in life right now.
I kind of just struggled to not roll my eyes and chuckle.
Anyway, point is, sometimes things can change in an instant because you notice one small little thing, or realize something you've been blind to. I know for a fact that that's not exclusive to women too. I've definitely been on dates where I was super interested in a girl, but then realized I actually wasn't.
In fact, a massive part of me learning to date was realizing that with a lot of girls, I was just falling for girls who fell for me, and getting wrapped up in their pace.
Human emotion can be pretty complex, and often times, when you're dealing with matters of the heart, overthinking it is the worst thing you can possible do. The better policy is to just take things as they come, and go with the flow.
So stop obsessing about what you could or couldn't have done wrong, because even she probably doesn't know that.
She feels what she feels, for whatever reason she feels them. Your depth wanting of anything will never change that.
Nah, just proceed like you normally do, just take her off the pedestal and realize that what will be will be.
Go ahead and make your move (like a legit move, not just pussyfooting around hoping she'll give you a signal--that you'll probably miss). But realize that you over thinking this shit is going to get you absolutely nowhere.
For all you know, all this shits just in your head and really, she's just busy as fuck.
>For all you know, all this shits just in your head and really, she's just busy as fuck
I hope this is all it is.
But she knows I like her. I've told her, she knows. She told me she likes me. She's a friend who unfortunetly doesn't live very close to me. Otherwise I'd go see her ASAP.
But I really hope you're right and I'm overthinking it. I really hope so. we talk everysingle day. Since October. the only thing causing me to be concerned is she keeps telling me everything is fine. And I made a joke about her butt when she said she was going to the gym today and she ignored it. Typically she would have loved to flirt like that. And would have either sent me a workout picture or say something funny. But she just has been ignoring it all.
Uhh, anyone really.
I think I'm hitting it off with a 10/10 girl via Tinder. Someone who made me genuinely surprised to get matched with, and surprised that she seems to like me. I'm 20, she's 21.
My only question is how long should I wait before hitting her up to get together? She already mentioned meeting up, am I just over reacting? Is asking her to party this weekend a good idea? (We're both in college, same town, different school)
I don't recommend shaving. It can lead to ingrown hairs. Get a pair of scissors (Ones specifically designated for womanscaping) and a thin toothed comb. Use the comb as a barrier and trim.
How do girls feel about kissing your boobs/sucking your nipples during sex as foreplay? I always imagined it was fairly vanilla and regular. I love doing it, just wondered what other people felt about it. Wondering if I come across tit obsessed for focusing on that area
How do I tell if a girl has a crush on me?
At least 1 girl in the 300-something overarching social group I'm a part of has a crush on me. I know this because I kept getting valentines gifts and notes like all week last week. The last one was a fucking code for Bayo and Corrin on smash bros (the code worked btw). This sort of de-confirms any mates messing with me because none of my pals would spend that sort of money on that kind of joke.
I don't even really think I want to date this girl because this whole thing was kind of weird, but I'd like to know so I can talk it out with her like normal functioning adults.
Tl;Dr a an anonymous kinda stalker-y girl has a crush on me how do I tell which one it is
rooster farming techniques have improved these last couple of years
i really only ask for std/sti info or to get an idea about what positions/kinks she likes. I don't want to hear about my partners toe-curling orgasm with her high school bf, but I am interested in knowing that she likes clit-play or hair-pulling
i think people see what they want to see in society. it's not some big, woman-hating conspiracy
You're right, it is kinda cute, but I just wish she had more confidence. It's not like I'm angry or anything, and I wouldn't rule out a relationship with this girl. It's nice to know that someone would get so hyped over me that they're doing stuff like that. I just want to know who it is, which is the part I'm having trouble with.
Hey adv fems,
Long question short. I have a long standing crush on a coworker who left months ago but will be coming back.
Is it better to express my feelings/intentions in person or through text (how I've been keeping in touch with her)?
I'm 23. I have roughly 12 close female friends ages 22-27 (close enough to know of their sex life), none of them are virgins. My sister is 24, she is the only virgin female around my age that I know.
I like it, but that's because I have sensitive nipples. Sucking too long can get boring though. Gotta either do something else simultaneously or move forward promptly.
I have ugly feet. Born with genetic "claw toe" that will likely worsen over time. My toes look like raptor feet. It's gross to me. And I'd feel creeped out by a guy who is into my ugly feet. If I had pretty feet, then I guess that's alright, but I'd feel like a freak of nature if a guy was into my deranged raptor toes.
I'm twenty, I don't have a lot of friends, but my best friend is a 19-year old virgin. She's been dumped 4 times because of it and in my culture, we're very sexually liberated, so young people often feel a bit shameful about not having sex. So it's hard to know because a lot of people lie about their sexual conquests, so I guess there's a higher number than expected. We're not religious either, so virginity isn't romanticized, sex is considered a normal part of life, age of consent is 15, most people lose their virginities at 16. All the boys lost their virginity or had already in my first year of high school, especially to older girls, while the girls from my class were a bit slower..
Is it important to you? Asking out of curiosity.
In the show Battlestar Galactica,
Battlestars are spaceship aircraft carriers that launch spacecraft called Raptors
I thought it was a nice connection
To femanons are anyone who might have experience with this
So I've been with my girlfriend for 7 years now and she's never expressed any strong interest in other men. She initially started off very shy and unsexualized when I first met her but now we do all kinds of things together and she's not hesitant to talk about sex with me.
I find the fact that she seems to have no sexual attraction to any other men odd. She has a lot of trouble thinking who she would consider calling attractive. However when I ask her what she finds attractive about me she has a huge list of things she can happily tell me. Is it normal for a woman to hide her attraction to other men? Has she convinced herself she doesn't like other men? Can I just take it as it is and assume I'm the only man in the world she's attracted to? I don't think the situation is bad, in fact it's great. I just find it very odd.
tl;dr Do women in relationships hide their attraction to other men for the sake of their boyfriends? Would they go to great lengths to do so?
a friend tried to buy me a game from steam (a expensive one) but i thought it was weird and out of characted so i ignored it, he still found my steam account (i got no idea how) and tried to buy it, his card was denied, etc.
today i showed him my new ds case and he once again tried to buy me a game, i told him i felt a bit uncomfortable about it and maybe we could trade games instead.
so, what is going on? my birthday isn´t near, we haven´t seen each other in real life in quite a while, i got no idea why he might be trying to buy games now (especially expensive ones?) if never gave me stuff any other time of the year? (i did give him a loaf of bread once for christmas)
i also realized he knows both my birthday and zodiac sign (which is weird to me because sometimes i forget the day....)
Not a guy, but he's trying to buy your affections (with money he doesn't have, apparently). He'll later ask you out, and try to use all the nice things he's done for you, including this, as bargaining power. He's a Nice Guy. If you don't feel comfortable accepting expensive presents from him, tell him no and refuse to accept them even if he does buy them.
Maybe she feels nervous to answer because she fears saying something you are not. I'd feel nervous saying what I'm attracted to to my boyfriend. If he doesn't fit something I consider ideal, wouldn't I be offending him? If I said another man I know is attractive, wouldn't that hurt him? It'd feel like you're putting me in a catch-22. Anything I answer is up for your judgement, that's scary.
Another option is that your girlfriend is already generally sexually inexperienced. She could just not really know until she feels something. Girls generally can't just out and say what makes them hot and bothered in society. Some of us are so reserved about our sexuality because of the way we were raised that we don't even know what it is.
I tried to get a response out of her asking her if there was any way I could improve myself or if there was anything I did that made me seem unattractive to her. Yet again I didn't get much out of that.
You're right though, I'm pushing for things I probably don't want to hear and things are good the way they are. I honestly just want to be the best I can be for her too.
Thanks for the response anon
So is he sabotaging me or just telling the truth? I'm just upset and not thinking clearly
>am attractive female
>have guy friend adam who I rejected previously, he now has a gf but i'm pretty sure he's still into me
>he complains often about how we never hang out anymore
>he knows I'm sorta infatuated with mutual friend Dan, and was going to ask him out
>i ask him if Dan himself said he wasn't into me
>he tells me dan's never said anything but he can tell that Dan is not into me and jokes that Dan's not thinking of me and never thinks of me
>he says that Dan's just super friendly to everyone
>His jokes felt a bit mean spirited so I'm upset
Maybe i'm being stupid but i don't get a good vibe from him anymore and feel he might be sabotaging me or at least enjoying it?
Thanks guys. I realized i would be totally ok with literally any other friend telling me real talk they didn't think Dan was into me...except for this guy. and the way he did it. I don't trust him and i realize I don't even really enjoy being friends with him
This is something I have to see.
For what it's worth, most foot fetishists aren't elitists who would drop an otherwise decent girl just because her feet aren't perfect. If anything they'd help you to improve them as much as possible and appreciate them for who they're attached to. At least that's what I would do.
RIght now, they look like pic related. The joints in my toes curl downward. They also have began to callous.
Eventually, it may end up looking worse as years go on. My toes will continue curling without corrective surgery. Got it from my mom's side. Also I walk on my toes when I'm barefoot, which is why it looks so raptor-ish.