My gf gets nervous/upset when I appreciate other girls and can't get over me fapping to porn ('cause fapping to other girls).
She knows it's not okay getting nervous or upset for these things and she's sad about it, but she says she can't get over it, though trying to.
Not so recently I betrayed her trust, didn't cheat, never did but still faith betrayed, at the moment 9/10 faith restored Fuck yea but please advices
Every young girl struggles with these feelings of insecurity but it definitely doesn't help that you make her question your trust.
You can't betray her in one hand and then tell her to chill the fuck out with the other.
If you want to fix this you're going to have to put in some serious fucking work; work as in telling her something and then actually following through with your behavior. Your words don't mean shit if she can't trust you.
a lot of divorces end bc guys fap to porn so it's normal for her to get jealous and upset. My guess is you haven't banged enough girls yet. If I were you I would break up and try fucking as many girls as you can and if you can't hey at least you always have porno
Girl here. It gives you the feeling that you are not enough. And if she is insecure thats even worse because you are watching professional hot girls having sex or what ever and you can easily compare them to your gf therefore she will get stressed by the fact that she is not as hot and perfect as the girl you obviously keep watching for a reason.
maybe don't fap to porn alone, if you do fap to porn maybe she can pick the clips .. If you recently broke her trust, it will take her time to feel better again, so don't rush it and be nice.
Girl here. My god dudes stop giving him stupid advices on leaving the girl if she can't get over it. Anyway op, if you really love this girl, do try to talk to her about it and definitely assure her that you love her. This is an insecurity issue with the girl and she probably feels like she isn't good enough(not hot enough, not good in bed etc etc) as compared to porn stars.
Btw op, that "poligamy natured" crap is total bro-science. Humans are pair-bonding animals the world over. It's not one of those "society forces us to be this way!" things, people just naturally gravitate towards it. Think about it - even when it comes to people that have successful "open relationships", they always say that there is still 1 person that they consider their real main partner.
Even in societies where polygamy is permissible/acceptible, only a small percentage of men actually engage in it and most of them agent particularly happy with it either. A lot of the "well, in nature..." arguments are meaningless because humans are literally nature's exception on planet earth.
There's nothing crazy or absolutely wrong with watching porn and fapping to it, but your gf isn't wrong for helping uncomfortable with it either. Would you be 100% comfortable if your gf schlicked to huge beefy hunks with massive dicks (bigger than yours) and big black cock every day?
>"Appreciate" other girls
That's a problem on it's own. That's so dumb to call what you're doing "appreciating them." Assure your gf that these girls mean nothing to you and they're worthless outside of fapping.
Why don't you get more physical with her when you want to look at porn. It could take some time cause she probably won't even want you touching her at the moment. Depending on how much you love this girl either leave her so she can find someone more compatible or make a change and stop looking at porn. Until you do you will never have a truly fulfilling relationship with any girl. The next girl will feel the same after this one. The only girls that will truly accept your porn addiction are girls who will cheat on you at ever chance they get.
I'm a female with the same "problem". I try to ignore it, but still it bothers me from time to time. It's worse, because my bf has couple of fav. pornstars who represent his ideal girl type... Their looks has almost nothing to do with mine. This upsets me. I act cool and joke about it, he says they are just something which helps him with the faping, that it's normal and blah-blah... But when I happen to mention some guy, who looks good, he goes apeshit. I don't even mean it sexually, I'm not interested in his dick or whatever, while he stares at his fav. pusssies. Double standarts much?
Anyway... Pay more attention to your girl, make her feel more important than all other women and don't talk about the girls you jerk off to. It's lame. Just to what you do and forget about it.
It just seems desperate when someone watches porn. Says a lot about a guy. If he's that obsessed with getting off who knows what lengths he'll go to? There's a bunch of guys who watch but again it's a certain type. There's a lot who don't so why deal with the potential risks when you don't need to. Who would choose a guy who watches porn over a guy who would throw you against a wall and fuck you if he's horny? People are so obsessed with sex these days it's sad. You miss out on living the act by watching it on a pc. My ex who watched a lot of porn was shitty in bed too. You guys live in your heads and can't perform. Hence porn induced e.d. I'm sure a lot will argue me on this which is okay, all people are different. Just my opinion. Some were raised with standards and some weren't. There's nothing wrong with your girl and forcing this shit on her isn't cool. You should be happy you found someone with innocence/class and not some trashy bitch
>fav. pornstars who represent his ideal girl type... Their looks has almost nothing to do with mine.
>But when I happen to mention some guy, who looks good, he goes apeshit
I don't care how long you've been with him or how much you love him, you should leave him now before he cheats on you with a chick of his ideal type or at least before it kills you inside that you'll never be good enough.
I'm speaking from experience, my ex loved full-figured redheads and got pissy over me expressing attraction to celebs in return. He eventually left me to try and get with his ex-gf that was his ideal type. Now he's with a new girl of that same ideal type.
You're gonna get rekt.