Hey there, /adv/. I'm having problems controlling my sex drive.
It always intervenes with my relationships with the women in my life. I almost always develop a lust for them. I usually let them know so as not to hide anything, but it never ends constructively.
Like just recently:
>be in uni
>qt from high school comes to visit
>we're cuddling in my dorm
>I get to too comfortable, kissing her face, her belly, and her mouth
>she doesn't kiss back
>my blood runs cold, knowing I've done it again
>she forgives me, but I haven't forgiven myself
So how can I control this? I've tried to stop masturbating in the past, but the longest record I've held is roughly two weeks.
I want to be a better person, /adv/. How do I suppress or completely eliminate my sex drive?
Everyone else seems to be able to hide/control their own so well...
It won't solve the problem. Unless you say something pervy at an awkward situation why do you bother to supress it? And you know what? You cant and you better try not to. If you love someone you love someone, it's only natural that "you wanted to know her scent more".
>kissing a girl who doesn't kiss back
>terrible at sex
So like, it seems like you're not gauging girls' reactions well and just getting too excited, focusing on getting yourself off rather than what the girl enjoys. Everyone's done that but it's an issue when you make a habit of it. You need to work on that. Go slower with whatever you're doing, see how she responds to shit, and if you can tell she's not into something, stop. It's not gonna help things if you quit masturbating, but it will if you stop treating sex like masturbation.
Also nice dubs.
I don't get it.
You didn't do anything wrong.
Wrong would be not to try in that situation.
desu if a girl was cuddling with me on my bed I would do the same and probably only stop after she says she doesn't want or if she actually goes out of her way to avoid a kiss.
pls stop cuddling with your lesbiand friends or w/e
it's normal to get turned on by a woman if you're a man, why would you feel like you've made a mistake? stop blaming yourself for acting normal; if she were into you, she'd be sad/disappointed if you didn't even try, probably would've made her feel ugly and unwanted ffs
what is your relationship to this woman, when you would feel ashamed for kissing her while cuddling. even if you are her cucked best friend its still bizarre not to get a peck on the cheek or the random handjob.. jesus.
She and I are very very close friends. We've made out and cuddled each other before. The day in question, though, she did give me a kiss on the cheek after I had bawled my eyes out into her shoulder. But that's a different story.
just stop cuddling with your female friends unless you guys have a FWB thing going on OR you're not 100% sure you won't get too excited over it
I'd only cuddle with a female friend if she were really sad or needed consolation or post-sex.
So, did she just not kiss back or did she also say those things while you were kissing her? Because you certainly left the latter out of the OP.
Btw, suppressing masturbation just makes you even more horny. It's a fun disciplinary experiment but works against what you're trying to achieve here.
yeah my ex had a platonic friend such as yourself. youre simply a delusional cuck, who judges himself by other peoples standards. this is as specific as i can be atm, but sorting yourself out might mean cutting some bonds and growing a pair.
Not fapping ever will only result in over the top sex drive and most likely pant jizzing.
When you have too much sexual energy to handle and sex isn't available immediately, fap.
If you feel relaxed and clear headed enough, don't fap.
It's simple. Just practice more on learning about your bodies energy and know when to expend it (jizz)
If you're laying in bed with a girl, and she doesn't want to have sex, but you can't keep your hands from going down her pants, go in the bathroom and jack off.
Always match the girls energy level.