Is it possible to be a dominant person in everyday life, but be submissive in the bedroom? Is that something that works out, or is it just a pipe dream? I am very much a leader type, but in the bedroom sometimes I have switch fantasies.
Dunno, experience. My guess is that they are more emotional and borderline. The cutest kindest girl can be the most awful bitch if they feel injustice. Girls are dominant differently than men. Men's dominance is mostly a pride and territory thing. They want to be respected and at the top of hierarchy. If someone beats the shit out of them, their pride gets crushed. If girls endure this, they realize they were a huge bitch and in the wrong and don't give to much attention to it.
Take this with a huge grain of salt though because this is only my guesswork.
Women have a biological need to be dominated. It's also why they are worse than men at literally everything and are naturally bad leaders.
The strong independent woman fairytale is a feminist fantasy.
Not only possible but likely. Professional dominatrixes report that their clients are all powerful businessmen, judges, politicians and the like. And the nonprofessional submissive women I've met were all strong or in responsible jobs in real life.
It stands to reason - if you have to spend all day being strong and in charge, it is an attractive and even exciting "vacation" from life to be in the powerless and submissive role.