I had a little arguement with my gf and im pretty stumped. We are in a position where we can afford going on a vacation for the first time together. So i got quite exited, and tried to find good places we should visit. So one day,about two weeks ago:
>watch some talk about iran
>this looks pretty sweet
>hear on the news that its politically kind of unstable
>tel gf we should go there before shit hits the fan, so we can see it sort of intact
>no way, too dangerous
I was kind of bummed out, but in the end i thought it was propably for the best and that she is sensible. Then yesterday:
>see an ad featuring Paris
>ask her if shes ever been to France
>get excited and tell her we should go there for vacation
>tell her how beautiful paris is
>tell her how beautiful the countryside is
>she says no way
>too dangerous, terrorists might attack us(literally her words)
>seems like a scaredy cat to me
So now i just dont see her like i did before. I always thought she was brave, now she just seems like a coward. Im losing respect for her and it shows. I have no idea how to talk with her abou it since anyway i put it would seem insulting.
This girl is a dumb ass. Iraq is one of the more stable middle eastern countries out there but I can see why she could be afraid to go.
>HUURR, if we go to France we'll get rekt by em terrorists!
TOP KEK M8! He should leave her ass. France is more safe than most of the U.S.
you need to fuck off
The thing is shes is usually quite intelligent, so thats why this whole affair was such a shocker for me.
Leaving her over this would be uncalled for. She just got caught up in some hysteria.
The real question is how can i get her back on track and out of her irrational fears.
jeez, give me a break.
They say that taking your gf to paris is like carrying owls to athens...
Ive been there ten years ago and it was like a dream. Stop being so negative.
She sounds beyond scared, she's fucking dumb.
>staying in relationship with dumb people
It's like you want to be a parent before having any kids.
Nothing wrong with Iran from safety POV.
I dont need advice on my relationship and even if i did you couldnt give any meaningful one since the information is too limited. From the OP you only get a glimpse and the only thing you see is awful and dumb as fuck, thats the whole reason for the argument after all. It doesnt represent the relationship though.
I only need to know how to sensibly approach the subject without causing her to, retreat and dig in with her unwarranted fears.
"Nothing wrong from a safety point of view?" Just gonna ignore the State Department's travel warning, huh, Anon? We don't have any consular relations with Iran, so if something goes south they can put you in jail and throw away the key (and have, routinely, to U.S. citizens). If you want a "safe" Middle Eastern country, I think you're thinking someplace like Saudi Arabia or Dubai.
If the OP is still thinking France, he could carefully research terrorist events there and maybe convince her. Or suggest maybe someplace else with a lot of culture that doesn't have a recent terrorist attack in the national consciousness, like Greece or Italy.
To be honest op, i kind of agree with your gf. Havent heard a lot of good things about women concerning the middle east and paris is safe probably but the whole terrorist thing would hang over my head and possibly spoil the vacation. I literally do not want any trouble. I'm not a coward dude i stand up for myself, have got bruises and shit to show for it, i just dont go looking for trouble if its not worth it
>But Iran is pretty safe and stable.
Compared to Somalia, sure it is!
Well theres a chance there is going to be another terror attack in Europe thanks to these cunts at the EU and France is a big target so your girlffriend doesn't sound irrational