My girlfriend's art is fucking embarrassing and the fact she posts it online makes me not want to associate with her. I love her to death but I really don't want to support her as an artist or support her art. Am I a terrible person?
Most people will call you an asshole, but if she is legit that bad, then she is that bad. You should still support her, as in you shouldn't oppose to her doing what she likes but you don't have to like it either.
here's the deal, anon.
if you want to tell her you think her art sucks, she'll have to be very respectful of you.
i dont know how she sees you, but if she doesnt naturally respect you, you'll need to do something in order for your gf to respect you, so you can tell her her art sucks and she'll understand it and because she respects you she will stop. but how do you make her respect you then? get a respectable, well paid and honoujrable job. my suggestion is carpentry. it makes you strong phisically and mentally.
Your gf isn't your possession. Support her even if she sucks.
Partners are supposed to help each other grow, even if they suck at their hobby you still have to be a positive force in her life.
> Support her even if she sucks.
This is fucking retarded and won't help her to grow. Any responsible and caring partner would tell her how it is ... or at least how he feels about it.
Post the shit here OP, maybe you just don't get it, maybe it just sucks.
If she's posting it under an identity that is easily traced back to her, I would let her know that she should use some form of pseudonym, because producing pornographic pictures is not really socially acceptable. Unless she's already able to make a living from doing this (which it doesn't sound like if she's that bad), it has a lot of potential to hurt her chances of getting a good job.
Aside from that, if you care for her I would do absolutely nothing to discourage her from producing art, even if you don't care for what she does.
From a practical standpoint, that she has such a strong interest in something like this would make buying gifts for her very very easy.
depends. is this her hobby or her 'career'?
some people play video games in their spare time. they dont need to be told they suck at it by their partners and that its embarrassing to watch.
She respects me, I haven't told her her art sucks yet though
Its not a hobby, she has worked for a christian game company, but that's about it.
I don't want to, her art is recognizable specifically on 4chan. I won't say anymore than that.
There's always a chance she could be doxxed though.
Again, its her job, she has a degree in digital art.
As an artist wannabe I'm highly concerned about the quality of my stuff and I'm very insecure showing off though I have some posted online.
If my boyfriend thinks the same as you, I'd love to hear from him, because I want to improve and trust his judgement. I know he doesn't mean to put me down or some other shit.
You don't have to say it sucks, but could give subtle hints to help her improve, try something different, other styles, ask for a specific drawing yourself. Even giving art books idk, there are ways to inspire someone.
This. Believe me, OP, I'm highly insecure in my art. But I'd still want someone to tell me what's wrong with it instead of of them just letting me embarrass myself. It's going to come up at some point, most likely when she improves and you let it slip that her art wasn't that great before, and when that happens she'll be upset you didn't tell her sooner. Especially if she's looking at doing this as a career.
Just tell her gently. Maybe not call it spaghetti porn to her face.
If it's just a hobby, there's no reason to make a thing of it. If she presses you for critiques or praise, tell her you don't really understand her art but as long as she's happy with it, that's good by you.
Being an art snob is not a moral obligation.
If she wants to pursue it as a career or something despite making no money off it as a hobby, tell her she's putting the cart before the horse.