How do I stop being so love blind? My girlfriend is constantly fucking my life over. She says one thing and does the opposite. She's the main reason why my life is such a mess, everything would be so much easier without her.
Then she tells me how much she loves me and I just can't dump her. Every promise she does just contradicts itself because she always promises to change her ways but it never happens, she ends up fucking me over a few days later anyways.
I just love her too much to let go of her though...
How do I fix myself?
>Inb4 You're such a cuck.
I know, I'm retarded.
>I just love her too much to let go of her though...
what do you love about her, op?
i mean, what about her (as an individual... not as a woman or a partner) do you love?
what about her personality, her life, her opinions or behaviors do you love?
perhaps you just love her because she is your partner. she's "the one you're with" and so you love her. when you describe what you love about her, could you take that and apply it to someone else? or could you remove her name and individuality from it and replace it with some generic idea of a partner?
i hope this post makes sense.
I was recently in this situation. I broke up with her for a few weeks but I'm stupidly starting to see her again. However, I did kick her out of the apartment and tell her I will be fucking other girls even if we're hanging out, so at least the nature of the relationship has changed.
Weird to love each other so much when it doesn't work very well though. I guess that's just what love is.
i dont fucking know either, is what I'm saying
That's a good point. I miss the good times I had with her when she loved me unconditionally. Maybe I want her only because she's the one I'm used to being with. I'm not completely sure really...