I am an older guy. I divourced with my wife a year ago and I am now using online dating sites. I met a woman in her mid-30s for a couple of times. She seems pleasant and perfectly fine, but she told me that in all her life she never had a relationship before. Is this a red flag?
She does seem rather introverted and doesn't have much of a social life (i.e. she spends most of her time outside of work at home). Other than that, she seems pretty ok.
Should I keep meeting her then? She seems interesting to chat with.
>she isn't like that
Listen, if she isn't very very fat, it's impossible that she never fucked anyone or had a relationship, even she has trust issues. Even the most shy girl I know had a bf when she was 15. Having sex is super easy for girls, and in 30 years you'll surely get horny a lot of times.
If you like her, go for her, but never commit immediately and be prepared for ultimatum of marriage.
>but be in alert for other red flags and don't commit too early. Get to know her better first
Yeah I know. I guess this applies to all online dating relationships. I just still find it somewhat odd that she had never had a relationship.
Are you seriously going to allow 4chan to dictate your dating life?
>Date her, if she she turns out crazy, bump her.
>Date her, if she turns out wonderful, start a relationship.
Give the girl a chance if you want to.
Honestly? I wouldn't give in fast in the relationship. We could date and all that but I wouldn't have sex right away, I'd wait like a year maybe?
I've never met a guy that just wants to hang out with me and build an emotional connection and worry about sex later. I'm not a prude but Im not gonna get used like that, not when I'm overtly sensitive, and it takes time for me to show you my true self. I'm not really worth it, anon.
If you're wife material guys would do everything for you and not just for some fucks. If guys think the only thing you can offer them is poon, then something is off with you.
What do you think it is?
I have no idea. I'm not overtly sexual and dress in jeans and T-shirt. I rarely go out, and when I do it's with my mom and my best friend, and its always just to eat and shoot the shit with them. I just study and stay in my house playing vidya, watching aninu or movies, and I swim. So I don't know. I don't frequent bars or discotecs.
Why don't you go out more not to bars or discos but to civilized places with friends? Growing old alone is not a good prospect. Are you completely asexual, you don't even get horny?
Perfect example of how just mentioning you are a girl, even if it seems relevant, can derail a thread.
Good fucking job you retards.
>Honestly? I wouldn't give in fast in the relationship. We could date and all that but I wouldn't have sex right away, I'd wait like a year maybe?
That's actually a good thing. Your not a whore.
>I'm overtly sensitive, and it takes time for me to show you my true self. I'm not really worth it, anon.
Don't put down yourself, everyone has their values.
Are you tsundere?
I get really horny, but I just masturbate and call it a day. There aren't many places over here, I'm not in the states. The only thing that they have here is discos and bars. Really, I would love to go to theme parks and such, but there's litteraly nothing over here, and if you don't go to the new hot bar you're a loser.
I'm not overtly lonely, I have a really good friend and my mom, which I both love tons.
Haha, maybe? When I get to know you better im really cuddly and like to pet and kiss a lot, and just pamper the people I love.
Maybe it can help op understand that not all single women are horrible harpies?
Thanks, man. I wish I could meet more guys like you over here. What of I tell you I come across at first like a totally cold person but what I described is my true self? I get so cuddly and lovey dovey my mom and friend always laugh and bat me away like they'd had enough.
Actually that's normal human behavior. We keep our distance from people we don't trust and reveal our true self to people we do because that makes us vulnerable. Overly nice people either want something from you or set themselves up for disappointment.
Yeah, I've seen that a lot. I've always noticed too that those people that are like really cold and straight to the point are always, deep down inside really nice and caring people. I've seen it a lot over here.
See, and those same people know that this is normal and won't regret your coldness when meeting you because they know that under this there is an awesome girl who they can be happy with. Break a bit out of your shell. Give others the chance to know you and try to know the real them. There are much more going for you than just your pussy, let them know and show them and some guys will adore you for that.
Hah, yeah you're right. Incredible how you could pick up on that. Thanks a lot, anon. You're pretty good
I've gone through this in high school. You sound lovely but grew a hard spikey shell on the outside and won't let anyone in. It you always just judge those people all they will see of you is a closed up bitter girl. That's not attractive.
I need to leave now but if you want to keep in contact, write me at [email protected]