My wife went and had our living room painted bright red after I asked her not to. I'm on the razors edge of flipping out because I'm pissed off. I specifically told her that we needed to make decisions like that together, and sitting in a blood colored room is not enjoyable for me. I want to handle this like an adult, but I'm not sure what the best way is to stay cool since we've already discussed it so much.
If you're married and living together, then yeah, decisions like that SHOULD be made together.
If she can't handle that, she probably shouldn't be married.
You can't punish your spouse, even if they act like that, because y'know, they're your spouse. At the same time, a lack of negative reinforcement will lead to her thinkin' that either this is totally acceptable behaviour, or that she can get away with it. It'll not only continue, but escalate.
What happens SHE decides to have kids. SHE decides to name them. SHE decides this, that and another thing.
That aint marriage, that's a slave and a master.
We have a kid and one on the way. I would feel stupid saying I divorced her over a room color. On the other hand, you're right that I can't just let it go like a cuck. I'm in a tough place because I want to handle this like a mature man, but rational conversation has obviously already failed.
How prego is she ?
How old are you?
How about you just go ahead and paint it whatever color you want ?
>handle it like a mature man
Then why is this a massivr issue?
Because she didnt listen or because its red ... had it been any other color would it have mattered to you ?
Stop being a cry baby bitch. It's not all about you. She wanted the red room and it makes her happy. Man up and let her have it for fucks sake instead of having a sissy fit in metaphorical corner that is /adv/
OP, I seriously hope you're not actually listening to any of these idiots.
First off, yeah, you should be making decisons like that together. You are completely right, and she is completely wrong. HOWEVER, this isn't such a big fucking deal that you should be considering anything drastic, like violence (only a coward does that) or divorce, or anything close to that.
First off, you need to CALMLY talk to her and tell her, without yelling, but firmly, how upset you are that she did that when you asked her not to. Tell her that doing that was like blatantly giving you the big fucking finger. Tell her you want the room repainted, asap, in a color that you BOTH like. If she fights you on it some more, don't engage her in a fight, but DEMONSTRATE why her actions were selfish by painting your bedroom or kitchen, or entryway, or whatever room you think will do,whatever color she hates most. (that's a little dramatic, but it gets more of a point across than yelling and screaming ).
Also, I just read your response about how she has wanted that since she was a girl.
Well, that's nice and all, but if you absolutely hate it, then it still won't do.
Tell her that you understand why she wanted it, but you feel ill every time you walk in there, you hate it so much. Again, ask her to compromise on a color you both like.
Also, when you paint over it (and I'm sure you will), be sure to use a white base to cover up the red, because red paint will bleed through like a bitch.
>Guessing she just didn't care enough to compromise
Was there a compromise that you talked about? Something where both parties concede a bit?
It seems sort of hard to find the mid ground of "This is my dream room" and "I hate this room"
do a combination of poop and pee on the walls, then tell her that it's her fault for getting them painted the wrong color. then smack her in the face over and over with your dick until she apologizes.