>meet girl at social event a week and a half ago
>get along really well
>exchange contact info, contact her later to hang out
>she can't cause finals until Feb. 17th (different school system over here from most)
>decide to text her rather than disappear for two weeks
>text her every 3 nights or so (though had a 5 night gap one time)
>she always replies quickly, we have a nice, funny conversation while I watch tv or work out
>message size and response time is similar, though I'm slightly slower
>plan to text her in another few days to ask her out, since Feb. 17th isn't so far away now
Have I fucked up by texting too often? Should I have done the disappearing and reappearing act? Or is it all clear so far?
You are fine, but if your picture and school system reference mean you are in Japan you should know most of the advice here is from Westerners.
I don't know if teens are still giving confessions, but do you know the culture around that?
Yep, I'm in Japan.
Confessions still happen, but they seem to follow one of two patterns.
A. Go out a few times, then confess (this is done if you don't see someone regularly)
B. Confess first, then go out (if you're in the same social circle, club, organization, etc. and so have lots of opportunity to interact and know each other beforehand in these settings).
I think that knowledge will serve you better than something we tell you here. Unless she's really into Western culture. Ask some Japanese friends for advice.
But if she's still responding to you, definitely don't worry about it.
I'm gonna confess to someone next week when I see her. Good luck to you too, man.
Actually, there is one piece of advice I can offer you.
When a friend started "dating" a Japanese girl a year or two ago, he kind of brushed off the fact that after they got together she suddenly took far longer to respond and gave him very short answers whenever she did.
After she stopped responding completely, he finally figured out what the rest of us already assumed: she was ending their relationship in a very passive way.
So yeah, as long as she's interests in responding to you don't worry about it. When she starts getting really quiet, consistently, then maybe worry.