So i just had my partner of 8 years propose to me, I love him but he hasn't had a job basically the whole 8 years we have been together. I know i must sound stupid i mean if i love him i should stay with him right ? I just feel like im going to be supporting him financially for the rest of my life. What should i do ?
he has been looking for work apparently but i feel like hes always applying for jobs he knows he can't get and when i try to suggest a job he should apply for he says im treating him like a baby and that he looks for enough jobs as it. i mean i think hes kinda depressed from getting rejections from jobs at the same time.
Setting himself up for failure and evasive behaviour is textbook depression. Step one is to get him to admit he has a problem.
Then talk him into cognitive behavioral therapy.
When he has his wellbeing under control, maybe a job, say yes.
Double standard tho if a woman did not work that time span it 1 would b wrong of the man to say wtf id say yes to marry myself as well. 2 can u easily support everything ur self on 1 job? If so dude won't b just not working running a home is work in itself
What do you think 10 years down the line looks like with this guy?
Tell me what you think that might look like.
Are you a really career-driven individual? If so, a personality-type like your bf might be good bcs he can be a stay at home dad and you can be the bread winner. If you´ve always dreamed of being taken care of and not having the family´s financial stability on your shoulders then best run for it before it becomes too hard for you to find the right guy.