Hey guys, it's my first post on this board.
I have some kind of problem right now.
I am in my first relationship right now. The thing is its a long distance relationship. We have texted each other and called a few times but nothing else.
We have also talked about a few future plans and here comes the problem. We kinda have different opinions about the ideal future.
She said she wants kids someday which is something I don't ever want.
I told her that I do not want children and she seems ok with that. Now I wonder if it's ok or not. I kinda have the feeling that I am waisting her time and she will be sad and unsatisfied with the relationship some day.
I don't want to push her away because I love her but shouldn't she be looking for someone who wants kids?
What should I do?
Reality check: You are not in a relationship. You have a Pen Pal.
At the very most, you have a friend you've never met. It is FAR too early to be talking about children. It is ridiculous to even imagine you are in love.
Get to know each other as friends. It would be nice if you could actually meet in real life. Maybe then you can begin to think of it as a relationship, and only then do you begin to try to define the future and shape of the relationship.
The decision of having kids is not something to play around with OP.
>I told her that I do not want children and she seems ok with that
If you plan living the rest of your life with this person then this is a big issue.
If no then its not a big deal.
If you do, we will need to know why you dont want kids.
What a god awful mess.
What are you like 17? You're gonna change your tune on the kids thing, sooner or later.
This long distance thing is dumb as well. You don't have a relationship, you have a potential relationship. Until you two can see eachother and act on your plans together you can't do a damn thing.
Honestly I don't think you know what you want yet and shouldn't take this seriously until you do.
Yeah, this anon is completely right, also the fact that she didn't bothered about you didn't want to have kids when she clearly wants, is because she is not taking the "relationship" with you seriously, she is clearly looking for somebody who wants kids, but guess what? that person is not you.
>I am in my first relationship right now. The thing is its a long distance relationship.
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