My girlfriend is leaving me because she found a tinder app on my phone despite having no girls on it. She was always paranoid about me not liking her so when she saw it she started randomly getting more and more upset and I had to painstakingly figure out what was botherin her all on my own. Do you think there's a chance to save this? I have had 0 intention of cheating on her and I admit that I had it because I was a bit paranoid of her being on this app so I got it to check. I know, it's ridiculous, but do you think I can convince her? This whole thing seems ridiculous.
I would just explain to her (if that's truly the purpose that you got the app for). I'd tell her that you got it because you are insecure and afraid that she was on there and that you didn't want to get hurt because she's one of the best things thats happened to you.
If you act sensitive and sincere, she'll eat it up. Only say it if you mean it though anon.
Yeah I'll do that. It was so hard to let her go to the point where I was following her home like a creep until I asked someone to let me sit next to her on the bus and she called out "What? No, go away" I'm the kind of person that can't let a problem go unsolved even though I know she needs time to recollect. I just feel she's going to already throw away all her feelings for me in that small amount of time. She's cut off contact with me already so I have to find her before she gets to work.
>girlfriend is a paranoid psycho bitch
>BUT THEN so is OP
Man I don't know. I was about to suggest cutting your losses and running but apparently you two are made for each other. Enjoy the crazy.
Dude if she's cut off contact with you the best thing you can do is try to email or call her explain or leave a vm and move on.
> I have to find her before she gets to work.
Suspicious OP is serial killer
>> I have to find her before she gets to work.
>Suspicious OP is serial killer
I realize that's how it comes off but really I'm doing it to show I truly care about her because she kept saying shit like "I knew it, I was just your plan C all along" or "You're only going out with me because I'm the only one who didn't reject you" or some stupid shit like that. The way it shows care is because I'm normally going to sleep when she wakes up which is at 4am, so if she sees I went through this shit just to talk to her, it might make her realize that she's valuable to me.
Well, you both clearly have major trust issues with each other.
The real question isn't whether you CAN "save" the relationship, it's whether or not it's worth it. Yes, you likely can prolong the relationship a bit longer, but to what end, bud?
We had a rough start which is where all these insecurities developed, but I truly see myself being with her for the long run. My job, if I can save this, is to work on trust again from almost ground level. I'm not normally insecure about this stuff but fuck, I let it get to me this time. I realize I did something dumb but I also believe she's blowing this out of proportion.