If you're naturally charming and good looking it doesn't really matter too much where. If you're not? Then it's pretty much just ok in bars and even then it's questionable. Most of the time you need some kind of pretext to just start talking with people. Just seeing a girl and going over and saying 'ur cute, hows weather?" is stupid as fuck.
I met the girl I'm seeing at the campus bus stop. Just asked her if she was done classes for the day, what she's taking, some random flavor sentence like "man, last semester went by pretty fast, huh" or "did you catch [X] thing on campus last [Y]?" then asked for her number.
Not gonna lie though, I probably wouldn't have talked to her if there was anyone else at that stop, nor would I do this normally cause I'm below average in looks.
>>16782044 Depends is it normal in your country to start conversations with strangers. There are some cultural differences. I'd guess that in countries where people are serious about their personal space you'd have to be somewhat more outgoing and really good with small talk to get more than few words out from people and even then you'd likely often get greeted by silence or very short answers.
Learn to open girls that don't involve generic conversations. learn to open with something witty with context to the environment your in or an observation, then follow up by avoiding the basic topics like work and stuff, but use those topics as a reserve to keep the convo going IF YOU HAVE TO.
so really you have a handful of very basic things to say, but you will learn to rely to winging bullshit when you get the hang of it. it doesn't need to be perfect, just put out the vibe you want to put out and own it
>>16782044 You should do it! Most of us love it. You may be rejected a lot but this will give you confidence and practice at seamlessly starting conversation with women. Just try to have a good energy and presence, also know what topic of discussion you will enter with. Mae eye contact and don't bring up creepy stuff ie sex or your virginity status
>>16782044 I came across some very good advice the other day and have used it myself with great success.
Step 1 of 2: Think of when you talk to friends, how u move about, and how you generally act around friends. Step 2 of 2: Adopt the same attitude you would as talking to friends to whoever you want to talk to.
Yes, it is that simple. People are much more likely to respond positively to you if you do this.
When a guy approaches me in public, I'm on guard. I can't see myself ever going out with a guy I met this way. Most of the guys I've dated I met naturally, at college/through friends/etc. I'm not saying you're wasting your time, perhaps other women feel differently; but to me, widening your social network would get better results.
On the street, people want to be left alone. Try taking up a new hobby, where you can make new friends in a more natural setting. Are there any carpentry classes near you? Practice woodwork and you'll soon find yourself mobbed by hot chicks.
>>16782617 I'm >>16782472 but not >>16782533 I was thinking about this, and setting is important. If a guy approaches me at the grocery store or on the street, I assume he wants to fuck so I'm on guard, it puts me on the spot. If I meet the same guy in class or through a friend I'm more open to getting to know him because he has a reason to talk to me beyond wanting to fuck. Also, if I meet him through my friends they've already vetted him.
Pick up lines are very good at this sort of thing. While they may be considered stupid by some, they work great for breaking the tension and also they assure you won't move into serious territory (politics, etc.) They also show you're interested enough in talking to her that you're making an effort, even if the lines are terrible. This is also important. It shows you're willing to work to impress her.
If you want to avoid pick up lines altogether then use these two steps:
1. Seek a woman you find attractive. This can be anywhere, but the grocery store or coffee shop are very good places to practice. Time of day is also important. Go when lots of people are likely to be there. If you just want stress free practice and don't want to worry about rejection practice on house wives and men. Rejection is assured in theory so you won't stress over than and can just practice.
2. Ignore their sexuality. It's creepy because you're thinking with your dick. Approach them like a person who just wants to get to know them and see where things go. Even if your rate of success is low, eventually you'll get what you're seeking. Additionally each attempt gives you lessons.
I'm really surprised by the number of guys that think they should just "be able to talk to women". It's a skill like anything else, and you don't learn a skill without practicing. FYI sex isn't great the 1st time either.
I've started stepping out a bit, and I've noticed a TON of good looking girls go to my church. And they all love Jesus and are looking for friends to talk to. All I gotta do is say "Hey, how's it going? I'm Anon" and they typically are all smiles and get a conversation going from there.
I've got tons of numbers this way.
So yeah, just convert to Christianity and go to church and talk to girls.
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