How the fuck do I get girls on Tinder to actually take interest in me?
18, never had a gf (I've had long distance relationships in the past, never again.) and I've had plenty of people say I'm an attractive guy. I don't get it. What am I doing wrong? How do I message these women?
I've only taken one good picture of me ever. I have a problem where I look great in the mirror but as soon as I take a picture of myself, I look like fucking dogshit.
That's the problem, I don't know how. I say "Hey" and even then sometimes I'll never get a message back.
"Hey" is by far one of the worst things to send if you expect replies back. What works the most is humor. Make a joke or funny observation/question that relates to their profile and you're much, much more likely to get a response.
That said, don't put a crazy amount of effort into this shit. Some people still don't reply and it's draining to put a lot of work into nothing. I also recommend against canned pickup lines. Chances are they've heard them all before.
I like to think I'm a funny guy, but I feel as if I tried the humor approach I'd fall flat and look like an asshole.
And yeah, I've avoided pickup lines definitely. I figured no one wants to deal with that shit.
I appreciate the help, by the way.
The more you do it, the better you'll get. It took me a long time to have any kind of "game" on tinder, but I eventually got it down pretty well where I was getting replied to almost all the time and could continue conversations. Try different things, work on your openings. See what works and what doesn't. Don't go for obvious things. Like if someone has pink hair, NEVER MENTION THE PINK HAIR. They get asked about that kind of shit in 99% of their messages. Pets are usually a safer bet as girls never get tired of talking about their pets, but going for other things is probably still better.
>how do I get girls to take an interest in me?
You're supposed to take an interest in them, ya dummy. Men typically make the move on the girl, not the other way around
>muh gender roles
Learn how to communicate with women. When I had tinder, I used (yes I actually learned something from 4chan) 4chanesque banter to get conversations going. Or I would ask them random questions that popped up in my head, not caring about whether they were offensive or not.
>You're supposed to take an interest in them, ya dummy.
I understand, but my question is how do I get them to take an interest in ME after taking an interest in them? I understand that I can't make someone take an interest in me, but surely there's at least 1 person out there.
I'll probably try this. Maybe I'm being a bit too cautious. Perhaps they perceive me as boring.