I've been single my entire life. I have never dated anyone seriously, yet I been treated pretty poorly by few men in my life, this also including my own father. Men generally aren't too interested in me, and I don't blame them, but this being said, in theory I had all the reasons to become an angry and bitter, fat feminist.
And I can't say I sometimes didn't want to, in a way. It would protect myself from the feelings of rejection I've felt so often and it would maybe help me to brain myself to think that I never even wanted to feel loved, because "all men are pigs" or something similar.
But anon, by doing that to yourself you'll only do harm to yourself. Women or other people won't care, they'll maybe just feel a bit sad for you at most.
There are good people out there, also women. There is no reason to distance yourself from all women or dating life totally or to let the negative things to get you. We all been there, feeling like we aren't good enough, that we are lonely, or that we'll never find anyone.
But the thing is anon, that love feels amazing. You should always be open for it and never let the bitterness to get you, cause it won't help you gain anything what so ever.
Sometimes you just gotta stop trying so hard. Focus on yourself and things that makes you happy, try to be social in a one way or another and sooner or later magic happens.
>>16782136 >Sometimes you just gotta stop trying so hard. Focus on yourself and things that makes you happy, try to be social in a one way or another and sooner or later magic happens.
Your post was decent up until this point. This is a cliche saying and completely untrue for the most part for males. Look, you need to think from the perspective of males here. Women expect you to take initiative. Things don't "just happen" for males. If I went out to socialize and sat waiting for a girl to pay interest in me, I'd be waiting a long time.
For females the saying may well hold up. Put themselves in enough social gatherings and one guy will show up that piques their interest to the point where she'd be interested in more. Of course, the guy needs to show he's interested and make the moves. For guys, this shit doesn't happen and if it does it's because the guy has the looks.
For males, nothing happens if you don't hunt for it. It's as simple as that.
To OP, I understand your frustration. I'm a 270lb guy who's bearded/bald. I get overlooked a lot, and I don't go for 9/10 slim females, I go for chubby girls as thats what I'm attracted to and feel comfortable with. They end up rejecting me for the more fitter guys. It's very hard not to get bitter, especially considering the double standard. If you find the answer, let me know. Because day by day I'm finding it difficult just to not outright swear off women. I wouldn't ever be an ass to females. But as it stands currently, my opinion of them in regards to dating is not very high.
>>16782157 What I meant with that was that no one should women their first priority cause looking desperate is the biggest turn off there is. Didn't say that lay home wait for someone to come and pick you.
>>16782157 >Because day by day I'm finding it difficult just to not outright swear off women. I wouldn't ever be an ass to females. But as it stands currently, my opinion of them in regards to dating is not very high Why not just lose some weight? You would certainly be happier, more comfortable in your own skin and also more attractive. Not to forget the most important, a lot more happier.
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