My ex hasn't replied to me in 11/12 days now since we sort of half-assedly broke up/got into an argument. I left a few kind of lengthy-ish messages saying "hey im worried pls message me" or "this isn't fair please lets talk this out" etc. *At this point I've realized it's over* HOWEVER, I wanted the last thing said between us to be bitter sweet. I'm aware it might seem pathetic (too late) but i don't want to seem like i'm still holding on, or super bitter, or sad. Something like "you might not read this but i know it will probably be the last thing i say to you. things got weird, mainly because blah blah, but i dont want to focus on that i just want you to know i was sincere, i just want to say thank you for all the good times (name off examples) i think i was a good partner, although i do sincerely apologize for being rude about this thing, thanks for everything and good luck in school, wherever you end up going to."
Is this a good idea? Or should I just wait a week and see if I get a response?
OP here honestly at this point I am ready to let go, but reading the actual message I conjured in notepad made me tear up a bit and think of the good times and it's always so hard to say final goodbyes no matter who it is...
At this point the best thing you can do is just cut contact. Try to set your feelings aside for a moment and look at this from her perspective - you've allready sent a bunch of messages that she ignored. That means she's not interested in wwhat you've got to say, the only reaction she'll be having is "for christs sake why won't he take the hint?". Imagine I ask you to lend me five hundred quid and you say no, then over the next week I keep sending you messages saying I'm sorry for asking for it, hope I didn't make you feel awkward, that kind of thing. You might not have thought I was a cunt for asking for the loan, but you'll definatley think I'm a cunt for keep going on about it.
>I wanted the last thing said between us to be bitter sweet.
Life is not an anime, a comic book or something that you control to an extent that is bigger tha 50%.
What im trying to say is that when relationships end, they end in a way that doesnt have to make anyone happy.
You already had several desperate attempts through writing your "shit", but now its over and the time to move on has arrived.
Move on motherfucker.
thanks everyone. Yeah you're right. I know he loved me though we broke up in an angry bout, and i didn't write my "shit" so much as just say hey pls call me ;_ ; i figure by making it seem like "oh wow she's really ok with this and wishes me the best" he'd think twice