long story short this is the message my boyfriend sent whilst he was out of the country to a girl on tinder
I broke up with him, but before two days we broke up we had had a fight (completely about another subject) in which in the end he was all like "i thought i am falling for you again, just realised how dumb i was recently, i love you deeply and ill fix everything"
Now he keeps sending me messages that that was a mistake and it was before we had that fight, he just cant be without me and begs for forgiveness.
I dont know i could see he really changed after that fight, i have told him some stuff that ive never told before but finding this is too much cause even though he didnt get a response it doesnt mean he didnt try to cheat on me :/
He's manipulating you. If you take him back, he'll know that he can pretty much do whatever he wants to you, and it'll only escalate. Dump him and find someone who values and respects you.
Cheaters suck, but change is possible. Basicaĺy, me and my GF wasn't doing well for a while, and i cheated on her. We fixed our relationship and she forgave me. I'm never doing that again, and we're still together and it's working well
I'd be done with it after reading that message. He's reacting to being caught and he is likely trying to manipulate you into staying with him.
If nothing else, spend some time apart. If he wants to salvage things that badly, he'll work at it.
Just leave him. He'll never admit it but he won't respect you if you get back together, and that'll probably make him do something similar again. There's plenty of people in the world who wouldn't pull that kind of shit.
It completely depends on you if you are willing/can find it in you/see him as worth your while after knowing this.
I dont think you should base your opinion on what the people on this board think about the situation, because it is yours and you are your own subjective person and thus work/feel differently than others.
If you truly believe that he deserves a second chance, go ahead, but make it worth your while.
Give out ultimatums and state clearly what you expect from him.
Oh and also find a way to make him make it up to you somehow, you currently hold all the bargaining power here.
Good luck OP.
OP here. Thanks for all the replies. Well when we had small fights before in the relationship i always felt like he was saying what i wanted to hear just for the sake of not fighting. But the last one was really different I told him all the stuff that i kept from him that I didn't tell him because he would get hurt. He cried a lot and told me he has rediscovered why he loved me so much, that he has forgotten recently.
So i really don't know. But thanks everyone
Well, take a walk and think about it. I would say that you should follow your heart, but whatever you do you should also sleep on it to see how you feel in the morning.
Give it some time, as this isnt an easy topic to solve and will surely take some time to digest for the both of you.