My erection is either instantly lost with condoms or I simply can't maintain it for more than 30-60 seconds. I've tried many different kinds, sizes, brands etc
When I'm in a relationship its alright because of the pill etc (I have no problem staying erect without a condom) and sex is great.
However I've passed up several opportunities with new girls and just feel totally helpless to start anything new because of it. I've disappointed 3 girls before and I know its just gonna happen again. I feel really ashamed when it happens.
>have a problem
>just get over it
wise advice anon. Wise advice.
Sex is largely mental, OP, have you tried meditation, it can help you relax and take your mind off of sex. Performance anxiety is more common than you think when dealing with an issue like this.
I've had her put it on me and its clearly not mental as I'm plenty experienced. I've had long term relationships with lots of sex and I'm very confident.
Its a physical thing but I've tried different sizes. I don't know what's wrong
>Its a physical thing
You said you have no problem staying erect without a condom. That eliminates the physical problems. Now we're only left with psychological ones. Or did you lie about not having ED without a condom?
Well no because condoms put pressure on my dick to stay on. Maybe my blood pressure is enough to keep up just by itself
I'm fine without them and I've had a one night stand without. I know its not nerves
>condoms put pressure on my dick to stay on
I'm having trouble understanding what you're trying to say. They should feel tight but not extremely tight to the point of forcing your blood out of your dick. You do know they come in different sizes and varieties?
Why don't you go see a shrink or a doctor?
It's probably a psychological thing from the sounds of it. Have you had much experience or are you kinda new to this? If so, it might just take getting used to.
It's def not physical. Physical means you'd have the same problem without condoms.
Let me run a scenario past you:
The first time you tried condoms you always lost your erection because they're fiddly to put on and you lose focus. So you're like, fuck it, bareback.
The second time you try to use condoms, you're a little apprehensive because it didn't work last time, and this time you lose erection again, so you're like, fuck it, bareback.
On and on until you've developed a nerves complex (which in your writing is plain to see) re: condom usage. The nerves are basically akin to first timers limpdick and that's your problem.
Solution: find a girl who is chill, be honest that you've always had nerves problems with condoms but you wanna be able to have safe sex off the pill so you wanna learn how to use them, and then just keep going with her until you relax.
FYI, it really helps me to stick it in ASAP when the condom is on. If I put it on before we're literally gonna fuck I will prob lose cabin pressure too.
My go-to routine is, foreplay until she's begging for D, grab condom, have her blow me while I unwrap, then pop it straight on and go straight to pussy.
Hope it helps
Sorry but this isn't the case. Condoms do squeeze your dick - but they act like a mini cockring in that regard, and actually tend to enhance erections rather than damage them.
Just BC you have unprotected sex fine doesn't mean you don't have nerves with condoms you twat. It's nothing to be ashamed of