One of the saddest things in my life is that one of my best friends has abandoned me. He was a guy that I legitimately considered to be someone who would be the best man at my wedding, regardless of our occasional fights over the 16 years we've known each other. We used to live together, we were Pokemon trading buddies in middle school in the Red and Blue days... we've been through a ton.
He's 30, I'm 29... and he hates me for being friends with someone he doesn't like. He's struggling with a lot in his life, and as much as I want to say "fuck you" to the guy and never talk again to prove a point, he's like my brother. But, he doesn't want anything to do with me.
How do I "get over" my friend?
>>16777297
He's probably got some serious issues going on right now. I'd say that you should find a way to figure out what's wrong and try to help him or just give it time.
>>16777315
It's been about a year. He does have issues - he's raising his girlfriend's kid from another guy, and she broke up with him years prior.
He loves the kid now, but he's stuck, there's no escaping. I'd love to help, but he won't talk to me. A year seems like a lot of time to get things right, though.
Our friends say he's just projecting onto me because I'm free and happy, and he has all of these issues... but still, I wish I could be his buddy.