Should I stand by my ideals and principles or ignore the red flags?
Trying to make long stories short here:
>be normal type guy, last summer I broke up for good with ex, after 5 years (last year of that with some breaks, but always monogamous)
>had two one-night stands, made out with a couple other girls, but generally never play games or be an asshole
>basically I am of the rare non-dickhead species
>have clear principles in terms of watching out for red flags in girls, but through that really high standards
>big party with everyone from my uni, end up helping a girl to get home at 8am
>know her quite well, find her really attractive, but know that she had a boyfriend for years, had other guys during breaks with him, had crazy drug experiences in the past, generally a bit mental
>spend day with her, we get along really well (deep conversations, lots of cuddling) and she is actually what I never found in other girls in terms of being generally straight-forward
>she tells me she broke up with her boyfriend two days before this
>the first time we fuck she stops because of that, the next time its fine (though ripped/slipped-off condom issues)
>keep spending time with her, staying at each others places
>we are both not sure what this is
>I can really feel that she likes me a lot and she also says I am different from anyone she had before (in terms of being sincere, positive, and honest)
Today is the first night alone since Monday and I started thinking... I extremely enjoy the time with her, at the same time its a rollercoaster, she is very different in many ways, and there are several red flags. I don't even know what I am trying to say or ask, I am just overwhelmed by the situation...
every time the story is the same, just different names and places
good men, intelligent, dissuaded by normal relationships because the internet has jaded them
in reality you're only here because you are happy and are looking to not be happy
but in reality you can always make decisions later down the road
Don't question it, that ruins things. Just roll with it and see where it leads.
>>16776051
... She will fuck you over. But if you can be patient and ENDURE you and her will get peace in the end.
>basically I am of the rare non-dickhead species
sounds like you're a bitch
>know her quite well, find her really attractive, but know that she had a boyfriend for years,
dickhead
Don't Ignore red flags.
They are there for a reason.
If you go swimming do you ignore sign that says contaminated water? No, you just go else where.