I asked this the other day, but since it's the weekend and some of the 9-5 crowd might be around, I'm going to ask again - I have a crush on a coworker.
The thing is, it's not going anywhere, no matter what - she just had a kid and is with her boyfriend. I have a small inkling she's a little interested, but I'd chalk it up to hormones. We've gone drinking together, she invited me to lunch yesterday, etc. She's seemed to pay me a lot of attention since I wrote her a nice Christmas card, which she's talked about multiple times.
Anyways, what I want to do is put a stop to this quickly, because having a crush on her is a waste for me. Ideas?
>>16775738
If she is willing to cheat with you, she's willing to cheat on you. If by some chance you were to get with her, what would you have then? A cheating mother who will probably become a single mother when this becomes knowledge to her boyfriend/husband. She'll probably put him on for child support, and if you get her pregnant she'll do the same to your dumb ass.
Sorry if I seem harsh, but the only way to get over a crush is to replace the thoughts of an idealized relationship in your head with thoughts which are a much more realistic interpretation of how the situation will unfold, and to decide that you want no part in it.
>>16775757
I'm aware of this, I want no part in it already, but that doesn't stop the instinct I have to flirt with her or whatever. I have zero desire to have her cheat on her boyfriend or anything.