My boyfriend says that he wants a lot of kids just in case he screws up with one of them and they get knocked up by a "Tyrone". I'm black, he's white. I've told him that the comment offends me a lot, yet he keeps bringing it up. He says he doesnt see me as "black" because im "only" a quarter and am lighter skinned and says he'd classify me as brazilian more than anything. And every time I try and fight it by saying "well, your daughter could get knocked up by a billy or a jack or a conner", he gives me this face that says "yeah right. Those names are so innocent. Jarome and Dante are the ones that are going to fuck everyone over".
What do I do when he can't see passed the terrible stereotypes of my own race? The race that he doesn't even classify me as. It's incredibly insulting.
But you are barely that race and the stereotype is right.
I would be more worried on the fact that he wants to make back up kids in case on of them turns out bad than his way of presenting statistical facts.
That's exactly how statistics are meant to be interpreted.
If you have no other information besides the race then the statement is absolutely correct.
That doesn't mean a black person is necessarily poor or stupid, he could be a doctor but that's not given as an assumption.
dump him, he's not gonna change
ignoring the inevitable arguments as to whether 1/4 is "enough" to be considered black, etc. it comes down to 2 things:
1 - he doesn't respect you enough to avoid saying shit that he knows will offend you, and
2 - he thinks "in case I fuck one up" is a good reason to have a bunch of kids, because if he's that worried about fucking one of them up, he will probably fuck up all of them, either by intentionally instilling his own stupidity in them or unintentionally by being a crappy parent.
bottom line, this guy is not dad material or boyfriend material, and you do not need him in your life.
He's not stuck on stereotypes, he's racist. You have to confront him about it, explain why his racism is shitty, and force him to see you as black.
Either you break him out of it or cut him loose, because that shit us obviously deep inside of him.