Every time I have sex with my gf I always finish before her and obviously this leaves me feeling pretty shitty afterwards. Are there any ways/tips I can utilise or ways I can train to last longer during sex?
Just do like I do, and every time you're about to cum, just pretend that you're raping your grandmother, or think about something that is sad or disgusting. Or, I don't know, fucking go down in her before you fuck her.
Feels bad hey man
She's orgasmed before from penetration, but that was like my 3rd time in a row so I lasted ages and I was wearing a condom that time. So y'know, i'd rather not.
When you try to hold your pee you get that feeling down there. When you try to cling as much as you can, you feel another muscle between your balls and butthole. Try that. Don't know if this is that kegel-stuff some people talk about.
Communication is key bruh, I have no qualms telling a girl to lay off my dick a min, especially if getting head, prolonging the cum is a great way for awesome orgasams and leaves time for her to appreciate your balls if you're into that, and let's be honest you are.
If your the one putting in the work. Just pull out give yourself a break while you go down on her/ use your hands. You just need to get her close and then you can do your thing when you've had some time to relax a bit.
Fuck that shit.
I'm not that guy, and my problem is that I last too long, it is not fucking fun to be pumping into a woman for damn near two hours and then having her go " you still haven't cummed?"
jack off more. when you do, practice holding back with the same muscle you use to start and stop peeing.
when peeing, start and stop frequently.
pleasure her orally first. learn to do it properly and know what your partner needs (ie clitoral, gspot, anal play, etc)
remember its not all about the pussy. we always fuck this up. i've been able to get my wife aroused almost to the point of cumming just by nibbling on her neck, ears, tits and kissing up and down her sides.
AND REMEMBER THIS:
harder doesn't mean faster. slow and hard will actually do more for them.
its not speed its accuracy. hit the right spots. learn to find it with both ur finger and ur cock.
Pretty much this. Also, remember that every woman is different and as such you might not have the "luck" in finding one that is as sensitive as this guys gf.
Best of luck to you OP.
>Masturbate an hour before intimacy
I always hear people giving this advice, and I'm not sure if everyone else's body just works differently than mine, but for me this results in the shittiest, most unsatisfying orgasms. I can still get hard and perform an hour after jerking off, but when I cum, it's like the orgasmic version of the dry-heaves. Small amount of fluid, and lots of empty muscle contractions that just end up feeling uncomfortable rather than pleasurable.
i've been with a fair few women. they are all different but the same types of things seem to turn them on as far as nibbling and kissing. the pussy is really where they all differ. different types of pussy play for different girls. that seems the most different.
oh and i forgot one important thing. how hard you go depends on how turned on they are. if a girl is really turned on there is a chemical our bodies release to ease pain, i'm blanking on the name; i'm sure someone will post it, but if you start off too had it just hurts them. that turns them off. start easy and look for ques from your partner to go harder. to make my wife squirt i have to go so hard that if she isn't turned on it would hurt like fuck. when she is turned on she eats that shit up. though honestly after sometimes she is a bit tender so be careful.
my wife never squirted before she met me. she had a hard time cumming from sex.
but you are right, not all are sensitive. lots of women never cum according to the statistics. i blame this on shitty, selfish partners though.
i've never had a partner i couldn't give multiple orgasms. i had probably 12 - 14 girls i've tested this theory on. limited i'm sure by some people's measure but i've always had relationships instead of flings. i prefer it. the sex is better.
i hope this helps. i'll monitor this thread if u have more questions. i don't presume to be some OP sex god but i've found a few things that work.
oh, never jack off to your girl. ever. ever. ever. made that mistake once. ended up back firing and making me come quicker lol. practice clearing your mind of all things. when you are getting close squeeze that pc muscle (the one u use to stop peeing) and clear your mind. i have gotten to the point i can cum without ejaculating. maintain an erection and keep going.
maybe give it at least 8 hours, maybe more depeneding. i had the same issue. i'll wake up and jack off. go to work for 9 - 10ish hours and come home ready to go.
also practice having and orgasm while jacking off without actually ejaculating. get yourself used to doing this.
an hour before intimacy just sounds like a recipe for "can't get it up" or "can't keep it up." also, u may not notice it but u may not get as big if u do. i dunno, i just notice that about myself
Poor tier advice so far.
Here's what's up:
If you haven't cum in a few days, finishing fast is NORMAL. It's called having a loaded gun.
What you do is this: Jack off LESS.
No more than once every four days. When you do have sex, have your gf give you head or a handjob and cum on her tots. Then either rub her or give her oral until she cums.
While you do this, focus on getting hard again. If you don't jack off often, you should be able to get hard within five minutes.
After your gf cums, fuck her. Since you came once you'll last way longer, and since she came you'll feel less pressure.
It's also easier to make a girl cum again after she has already.
Use cowgirl position, breathe deeply, get out of your head and into your body, and slow down when you're getting too excited. Focus on your girl and your dick, not on your thoughts.
The key is confidence. Anxiety will lead to self fulfilling prophecy.
Kegels also help, avoid quick masturbating (cumming before ten minutes of fapping), avoid porn, eat well, and read this book:
The multi-orgasmic man: sex secrets every man should know. Google the pdf.
ur advice is sound for some. i tried that and ended up with blue balls. i jack off every day. i had to start in highschool. HAD TO. i spent hours hard. went to the doctor about it even. nothing wrong with me i'd have wood in the morning from 6:30 am till around 8 ish or longer.
ended up with my dick flipped up in my boxer waist band on and off for half the day. this is how i control it. i used to come quick. now i don't. now i control it. but that's the beauty of this forum. different view points.
Well as you get older you have to cum less and less. High School: no more than once every two days.
Twenties? Four days.
Thirties: six days
Fourties: a week
Fifties: two weeks
Sixties: stop cumming or you'll need viagra
I always eat my girl out till she's on the verge of cumming before I fuck her anyways. There's also a rhythm in sex to follow through to the crescendo, it's all about reading how far along your partner is (volume, gasping, thrusting intensity etc). If she doesn't finish I eat her out after I cum and it usually take sher less than a minute