My heart is hurting, and I could really use some advice. My Husband

Give up the self pity kick and grow some fucking self respect.

He will throw you away again as soon as anybody gives him any amount of attention.

He made vows to you and broke them blatantly with no regard to you and your connection.


If you stay with him, you will get cheated on again and you'll have it coming because you'd rather "be altruistic" to somebody with no respect for their wife. Face it, you're scared to be alone. You will be with him.

You shouldn't really allowing back into your life.
He is an asshole and doesn't deserve anyone to be honest.
That said you are past your prime and you'd probably couldn't find someone else to spend your life with.
So get used to being cucked.

>>16772466
dump him

>>16772466
Like everyone else is saying, don't allow him back into your life. All he will bring you is negativity. You can never trust him again. I'm not trying to mean, but if you do try to trust him again, you are a fool.

He has completely broken your relationship. Divorce him. Find someone more loyal and mature.

What he did was horrible and he will most likely do it again after the waters settle down if you take him back. Don't.

>>16772466
He doesn't actually want to be with you. You just happen to be convenient, and better than being completely alone. If the girl's father hadn't intervened, he'd be fucking her raw right about now, in your bed that you share together, and he wouldn't give you a second thought. When someone genuinely loves you, they do whatever it takes to keep you from harm. They become selfless. He did the exact opposite when an opportunity arose.

You're 29. Stop playing around with this dumb, selfish kid and find yourself a man.

>My trust with him is GONE completely.
Once trust is gone, there is absolutely nothing you can do to salvage an intimate relationship.

>>16772466
Pretty much this >>16772483
Also,
>He's 22, I'm 29
How much damaged goods are you? Just mentally or do you have some physical problems too?

Dump him.

I might give different advice if it was a one time "accident" sort of thing. Like he got drunk and went home with a girl. But no. He actually sent you out of YOUR OWN HOME. He doesn't care about you. The only reason he wants to fix things is because he's afraid to be alone.

Seriously. Leave him. You can do so much better.

>>16772466

That's whats happen when you get married out of desperation you dumb old bitch, he saw that he could do better than you, if you take him back he will do same again

So did OP leave?

This reminds me of my aunt and her shitty husband. Theyre in their late 40s and he was messing around with some 20 something yr old coworker. My aunt kept giving him ultimatums, if he didn't stop seeing the girl then she'd divorce him and take half his shit, including property he owned. He'd say ok he'd stop then go right back to the other woman.
He ended up choosing to be with the other woman at his other property, getting fired, took out his entire 401k, spent it on drugs & whatever the girl wanted. Once he ran out of money the girl left him and he went back to my aunt. He even told his 16 yr old son that he was having sex and doing coke while away. I lost all respect that I had for my aunt. She still wants to be with him after everything. He even wants her to take out money from her 401k to pay the bills since he's broke.

Don't let yourself squeeze out kids with this guy OP. Get out while youre still young. You won't lose respect if you leave and stay with your parents until you get back on your feet. You will lose respect if you stay with him.