Basically, my girlfriend in college has no friends and nothing she wants to do to get involved with anything or anyone else on campus. All she does is hang out with me in my room and I'm getting tired of not having my own space.
How do I help her get out and live her own life in college instead of following me around like a lost puppy?
Girls have the ability to create/ renew their social lives at any point.
Ask her if she's using this time to get away from society first. Also gotta realize most girls get attention constantly in public, weather they like it or not. It's not hard to up and get other people's attention as a female, but I imagine it also makes it all seem so fake since most of it, if not everything, is just a ploy into women's pants, and you're already there.
What's she need everyone else for? That's all they want, and she's deciding to give it to you.
Stop complaining plz.
Sounds like a clingy bothersome woman.
She can only change on her own. If you don't want to deal with her poor behavior, then break up. I don't know if she'll "blossom" per se, but if she has any sense it will at least be a wake-up call. Either way, it's not your responsibility to fix her or be stuck with her.
Tumblr would hugbox you and tell you that you're always right.
The problem here is that you and your gf have personalities that aren't compatible. You need a girl who is more independent, and she needs a bf who as a big a homebody as she is.
Don't ignore the root of the issue.
Well you should probably talk about this with her - don't go running around fixing things for other people, that never works.
If it just doesn't work out you might want to consider breaking up with her.
I know it's pretty blunt but it's the best advice I can give.
No, Tumblr would blame the male immediately, sort of like what's happening on this thread.
Apparently. Single life sounds great right about now
Haven't told her yet; don't know exactly how to word this so that she'll do it.
No, thank you. I appreciate the advice. Any ideas on how I can phrase this nicely?
> Haven't told her yet; don't know exactly how to word this so that she'll do it.
She's in your room all the time but you don't have an open conversation. Awesome. That's fine.
I try to talk to her about doing stuff outside of the room, but she just ignores me and then gets pissed. I'll be more direct and blunt then.
I don't care why she's a barnacle. That's not my problem, that's hers.
Went through the same thing with an Ex. Didnt want me to be away from her for too long, had no friends, but didnt want to do anything other than play videogames.
Youll realize that most women are like this.
In my case , she cheated on me with my then-best friend.
I kicked her out, she moved with him to florida, and now shes studying to become a Nurse assistant and is working part time as a bartender.
Moral is : leave her if you love her and want her to grow. Just dont expect her to come back.
I know what the source of the problem is. Maybe I should have specified that earlier.
She's extremely shy and self-concious about herself around other people. I'm safe and make her happy, so she sticks to me to feel better.
Gotta get more information, did something cause her to become shy or insecure?
If so, at what point did it happen, explain that shit happens, she's not first or the last it will happen to, and repressing herself isn't going to help you or her.
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