So I have to appear in court in a few days to face my abuser. Its a good thing except just thinking about it makes me physically ill. I start shaking like a scared Chihuahua or how people jerk and shiver from intense cold. I'm worried that in court I'll appear crazy. What can I do? I'm already taking anti anxiety meds.
Maybe. Bit incoherent and scattered can also work to their advantage. It's just a weird feeling, being so worked up mentally that I'm not in control of my body. The room gets bright and it takes a glass of wine to calm me down but I can't show up with alcohol on my breath.
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Rehearse how you'll answer the likely questions. Pay special attention to the likely cheap shots and low blows: the things only you and your abuser (and your abuser's lawyer) are likely to know about, Make peace with your dirtiest secrets being aired -because they WILL be, if your abuser's lawyer thinks that might be advantageous- and you will be all right.
>I'm already taking anti anxiety meds.
If the abuse was ongoing, chances are that you ARE a little crazy (I know I am for putting up with that shit). Just tell the absolute truth the simplest way you can, don't contradict yourself and don't exaggerate or get all dramatic as this will discredit you. No matter what happens, the important part is that you are safe. Make sure it stays that way.
If it's short term there isn't a lot you can do except to do breathing exercises to help yourself calm down.
Maybe you can start some exposure therapy (which in a way seeing this person in court already is) but it probably wouldn't have too much of an effect in 3 days.
If you feel like you're panicking on the day, take your time and concentrate on breathing for a bit.
People won't think you're crazy if you seem scared or nervous.
I hope you feel better.
I'm this anon >>16771383 but I just remembered a breathing technique I sometimes use (when I remember) if I'm about to have/having a panic attack:
>breathe in deep, through your nose, for 3 counts
>hold for 4
>breathe out, through your mouth, for 2
>repeat until calm
I also use this to help me fall asleep, if I'm out and something triggers my anxiety, etc.
It works every time, and it may not work for you but it's worth trying.