overcoming nervousness?

>>16769015

>im worried ill appear crazy

assuming you are female why worry? crazy will only speak to how intense the abuse was

>>16769018
Maybe. Bit incoherent and scattered can also work to their advantage. It's just a weird feeling, being so worked up mentally that I'm not in control of my body. The room gets bright and it takes a glass of wine to calm me down but I can't show up with alcohol on my breath.

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I hear pic related is a pretty damn good resource to check out.

Rehearse how you'll answer the likely questions. Pay special attention to the likely cheap shots and low blows: the things only you and your abuser (and your abuser's lawyer) are likely to know about, Make peace with your dirtiest secrets being aired -because they WILL be, if your abuser's lawyer thinks that might be advantageous- and you will be all right.

Can we get some information on what happened, since its about to be made public anyway?

>>16769015
can you request for a therapy dog to appear with you in court? I've heard that this helps a bit

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>>16769015
>I'm already taking anti anxiety meds.
poison

meditate
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xeCXhXDkzpw
http://marc.ucla.edu/mpeg/Hammer032615.mp3

>>16770090
This

>>16769030
Drink a glass of water beforehand and try to breathe slowly.

Also good luck OP, stay strong

>>16769015
If the abuse was ongoing, chances are that you ARE a little crazy (I know I am for putting up with that shit). Just tell the absolute truth the simplest way you can, don't contradict yourself and don't exaggerate or get all dramatic as this will discredit you. No matter what happens, the important part is that you are safe. Make sure it stays that way.

this so far is best advice
>>16770090

I would guess they'll try to make you out to be a liar

Bumping because I'm in the same boat and will be in court in just over a week.

>>16770027
Fuck off

If it's short term there isn't a lot you can do except to do breathing exercises to help yourself calm down.

Maybe you can start some exposure therapy (which in a way seeing this person in court already is) but it probably wouldn't have too much of an effect in 3 days.

If you feel like you're panicking on the day, take your time and concentrate on breathing for a bit.

People won't think you're crazy if you seem scared or nervous.

I hope you feel better.

>>16769015
In most jurisdictions you will be allowed to testify from behind a curtain or by video link from another room. Ask your lawyer or your contact with the prosecutors office.

I'm this anon >>16771383 but I just remembered a breathing technique I sometimes use (when I remember) if I'm about to have/having a panic attack:
>breathe in deep, through your nose, for 3 counts
>hold for 4
>breathe out, through your mouth, for 2
>repeat until calm

I also use this to help me fall asleep, if I'm out and something triggers my anxiety, etc.

It works every time, and it may not work for you but it's worth trying.