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Girlfriend and I have vastly different sexual appetites.

I want sex a couple times a week. That's just how often the urge strikes me. She's about it all the time.

We've been together going on three years now, and she's been living with me for a few months. The "couple times a week" thing worked fine when that was how often we saw each other.

She's fit, she's cute, and she's good in bed, I just don't feel like it nearly as often as she does. I don't feel like it's ED; my apparatus works when I'm into it.

Worse, she gets moody when we don't have sex for a couple days and I can't for the life of me explain my point of view.

Tips for handling such a situation?
"Bro just do it bro you queer just fuck her all the time bro" comments need not apply. Go back to Cheetos and loneliness.
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Sexual compatibility is very important in a relationship, so you're right to be asking this question. As for the answer... there's no easy one. Maybe you can try to quench her thirst for sex with other things? Like just eating her out, or making out. Or just cuddling. Or even just nonsexual activities.

I have been in the same exact situation as you, for the first half. My ex gf had a very high sex drive, but it worked because we only saw each other on weekends. I would imagine it might have become more difficult if we lived together.
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>>16769024

this. in many relationships a woman will let a guy fuck her just to get it out of his system. perhaps you can return the favor with tongues and fingers? might be harder im not sure how long it takes women to cum particularly ur gf (faggot here)
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>>16768987
Buy her a good vibrator
That way she can get off when you're not in the mood
And you can use it to enhance sex when you have it together
I'm a lot like your girlfriend, I generally want sex all the time too, even on my period. A vibrator solved that problem
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>>16769024

Living together is great, otherwise, but yeah, the sex situation stresses me out. Knowing she'd like it more often just compounds it, and it turns into a whole thing.

For some reason I never thought of more or less pacifying her with non-penetration stuff, so good advice there.
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>>16768987
I know your feel man, was in the exact same situation.

Sadly it comes down to 'youre just not compatible'.
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>>16769038
depends on what she's like.
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>>16769038

She says it's also an intimacy thing, so I'm not sure how much a vibrator would help in that department.

I dunno, my needs are simple, so it's abstract to me when someone, you know, wants things.
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Similar situation here. I live really close to my girl so we're with each other all the time.
She wants to bang every chance she can get, but I'd rather once or twice every couple of days. My problem is that once I cum, cumming again is a struggle and a third time is just impossible. Even if I wait a few hours I still can't, maintaining an erection is fine though.
Once Ive came, I'll just treat sex like exercise after that. She gets off a couple times and I get a workout. Win win
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>>16769054

if intimacy than intense sensual cuddling might do it. as could just eating or fingering her. depends how long she takes. i couldnt afford to lose an hour out of my day for sex though, i tend to schedule it only twice a week
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>>16769059

Not long, generally. I'll give this way a go.
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>>16769039
Oral is something that can get you hot even when you don't feel up to sex. If you go down on your girl, she'll want to reciprocate. I personally love 69, you're both enjoying each other. If you haven't tried that, definitely do. If I'm spent enough to not be able to have sex, I'll still be able to get hard and come when a girl sits on my face and sucks my dick.
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>>16768987
You do know there are sexual activities that don't envolve your precious penis, right.................

Most guys would envy you. Why are you acting so spoilt? Do explain to her that you don't owe her anything and she shouldn't get moody. But then again, what if the tables were turned? The advice would be to leave your partner.
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>>16769756

>that don't involve your precious penis

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>>16769032

I do have to agree with this. OP when it comes to relationships it's about compromise. I am in a relationship where I sympathize more with your girlfriend and I will just tell you my reasoning behind not just letting it be.

My girlfriend desires certain things from me. We had to have a heart to heart discussion and she told me "I don't think you share enough with me etc." I agree it sounds typical but basically I used keep all my aspirations and failures to myself and would not reveal anything (such as a new job, or business deal) until I had 100% secured this. So that meant if I had a job interview and failed, no one would ever know. She told me that in our relationship she wanted to experience these things together, that hiding any and all failure was making me less human to her etc. It's unimportant but I am just elaborating to get the point across that I do think she had legitimate cause to bring this up.

So there we were, in our relationship, her emotional needs were not being met, because it was just in my nature to be reluctant about sharing things with others. I agreed to share my insecurities with her even against my better judgement.

Now when it comes to sex, she doesn't like sex all that often. It's as simple as that. So we don't have sex much. Now I'm having a hard time understanding this. Why should sex be left out of this mutual exchange and compromise, sex and the desire of it is for some reason automatically seen as not a real thing that someone else's partner has to compromise, it's always just "well we have different sex drives."


Now for your case. What do you expect from your girlfriend? Are there things that generally she does not wholly enjoy, but for your sake, she does them? Does she sit down and watch the Football with you every Sunday night for 4 hours just to be with you? Or are there other more sincere things that she does? And if she does these things, why shouldn't you reciprocate and engage in sex with her more often?
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Do you jerk off or watch porn? Try not doing that.
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>>16768987
I am in the same boat. My bf never wants to have sex with me. We have gone many months without intimacy. It has been very hard to deal with. Lots of arguments have started over this. When we ARE in bed together it's amazing, we have perfect chemistry together. Well I have concluded that he may have low testosterone. Doing research about testosterone supplements. In hopes it can raise his desires. I would be satisfied if we could at least have sex once a week.
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let your annoyance fuel your libido
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>>16770745
That'a on a whole different level. OP is still ready for sex a few times a week. Your relationship is essentially sexless.
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