Girls have all kinds of *speical girly shit* they do like bath bombs and painting their nails and all other "me-time"-stuff. Do men have anything just men do, except like drink beer while masturbating to sports?
How do I man.
There are men spas where you can get a massage or a facial. Hell there are even skin treatments for men that you can apply in your home while you relax yourself listening music or watching a movie.
I don't want to do girly shit, that's the point. I was asking if there was some kind of a male equalent for the whole gallery of "girly relaxation activities".
If I wanted to paint my nails while sitting in a strawberry-scented pink bath and drinking bubbly wine, I would. But I don't want to, the mere thought makes me feel gross.
I think most relaxation stuff is considered 'girly' anyway, just do whatever you want and pay no mind to if it's considered manly or not
You could do bath bombs, video games, meditation, watching TV, reading, listen to podcasts, masturbate, garden etc.
Go camping (those cabins you can rent with six other people don't count)
Cook man foods in cast iron cookware (steak, eggs, etc)
Get a dog, bond with it, train it, take it camping; shed a single manly tear in fifteen years when it dies
Start a collection of some kind (old tobacco pipes or stamps or something)
Learn how your car works
>I have nothing I want to do. I'm just low on energy
May be a sign of depression
>I want to live up to other peoples' expectations.
If it's for relaxation wouldn't it be things that you'd do when you're alone mostly anyway?
>I was asking if there was some kind of a male equivalent for the whole gallery of "girly relaxation activities."
Music, a good cigar, and single malt whisky.
Going out to dinner.
Hanging out at the bar with friends.
Working on hobbies.
I'm a man and every Sunday I take a 2 minute shower to rinse, then an hour long bath where I read and relax. It's the best. then I shave/aftershave/lotion , brush teeth and floss, cut fingernails, cut toenails, q-tip ears, apply gel and style hair, and change into new PJs. It takes like 2 hours but I end up feeling so clean and good it's amazing. I'm a carpentry apprentice doing manly ass work, too.
That shit isn't just for women.
Bruh if you're asking us how to be happy, we don't know either. But doing shit in nature is both traditionally manly and proven to improve mood and reduce stress. Start with a walk.
You're already a man. What you do or don't do can't change that. Your manness is secure. Focus on being a good person and don't trouble yourself with facile notions of masculinity.
I'm gonna give you a couple pro tips to life. Stop worrying what other people think of you and do what you want to do. Secondly get the fuck off from all social media. People use social media to make their lives look better than they really are. You'll be much happier if you don't constantly compare yourself to others.
Even if you're a man you don't have to do manly stuff to relax. All those girly relaxing activities are really comfy desu.
Also forgot to mention that if try to relax by doing "manly" stuff that you don't actually enjoy it's not going to be relaxing. The point of relaxing is to unwind. Do something that you find comfy, not what the society tells you are appropriate relaxing activities for men.
>If it's for relaxation wouldn't it be things that you'd do when you're alone mostly anyway?
Yes. But I still want to feel good about myself while I'm doing it.
I'm not allowed to drink or smoke in the house, and I was looking for something I could do to relax while at home. I don't have any friends, either.
What kind of hobbies?
I have to scrub my ears with q-tip multiple times a day because my earwax is literally liquid. I don't have any bodyhair and we don't have a bath tub.
It's fucking winter out there. I'll freeze.
consider having a beer in the shower. i do this after a stressful day. its basically the dude equivelent of drinking some wine while taking a bath.
showers are far superior because running water feels better then still water. beer is better than wine cuz duh.
other than that im not sure what to tell you. the thing about being a white man or even a man in general is that we arent stereotyped nearly as much as everyone else. sure some jokes are made about it and there are certain arechetypes we can meet, but for the most part we define who we are without the need of stereotypes so relaxation boils down to doing what you want to do.
traditionally its beer and sports
lately its more weed and video games.
i dont really see why you need something specifically male if you clearly arent a fan of beer and sports. thats like a girl saying 'what girly me time things can i do that arent bath bombs nad getting nails done'?
>Do something that you find comfy
How do I find something like that? The girly stuff makes me shiver with disgust - it really just feels like lathering yourself with liquid feces - and manly stuff sounds roughly as tempting as swallowing splinters.
Sports including shit like cycling, skateboarding and weight training which people usually wouldn't think to include. Drinking or going out to eat at places which involve the alcohol as much as the food. Walks in nature, hiking, mountain climbing, camping and outdoors types stuff. Making music, jamming etc.
I feel the feel which is basically the need to sustain male friendships and obtain the company of others in a world increasingly geared towards providing for the couple or the just the feminine side of life in what is maybe a push to be inclusive.
I'm in my 30's and these days a 'good' day spent with friends is laying the foundations for an outbuilding, or helping with a manual job or project. We don't talk for long periods, we communicate in short sentences, with lingering looks and knowing nods at shit which was a bit tougher than expected. The humour comes from the fact that life is a bitch. We drink a beer or two and then fuck off. No girlfriend ever gets it. You spent all day together and you DIDN'T talk at all? What the hell?
Mixing cement is just a thing that needs doing. Footing a ladder. Demonstrating worth and value and thus vulnerability. It is complex, it might be why so much involves alcohol because it allows empathy in a judgement free zone.
I burn firewood and so does a friend. This spring/summer we were out felling and chopping for several weekends together. It was great. We talked about all sorts of shit like our neurotic tendencies, our fathers, our childhoods. What did you talk about all day? Nothing. Who needs to hear that shit outside of the experience?
>I have nothing I want to do. I'm just low on energy and I want to live up to other peoples' expectations.
Look, you don't have to get elected. It's impressive you've made it this far. Don't push yourself too hard.
Of course we do... well, well rounded men, anyhow.
My me time shit is usually time spent in my garage woodshop or fishing. Some guys have a ritual for reading a certain type of book, drinking a rare, fine drink, going to a bar, whatever.
There's a bit of apples and oranges here, because 'me time' for a guy often does include productivity, which we find important enough that it's often a leisure activity, which is why we have creative hobbies that involve labor. One of the nicer parts about being a guy, in my experience, is that we can do communal labor as a leisure activity, too. Before I moved to the tropics, I lived up north, and when I bought a couple of cords of wood every year for my stove, my neighbor, who was a doctor, always liked helping me unload the woodcutter's truck and stack my cordwood. Dude worked for beer, even though he made as much or more money than I do.
Depends I suppose, what kinda place do you live in? I live in small rural area, me and a couple of the lads spent last weekend putting together a fence enclosure because a friends uncle mentioned he needed a hand. And there's a bulletin board in the local supermarket with random odd jobs sometimes.
The best thing I like to do is just go to a nice rock bar with some good friends and a deck of cards and just sit down drink and relax. I can't wait for Friday night too be honest.
Scandinavia, middle of nowhere next to houses with kids 10-15 years younger than me and fathers 15-20 years older than me. The nearest human civilisation is 8 km away.
There is no rock bar. There are a handful of irish pubs (I got thrown out of one and I'm not going back, another one has an asshole from my high school working there, a third one seems to be filled with middle-aged folks), a dance clubs and two trash bars.
I usually just get a bottle of gin and get fucked up alone. Paying so much money for alcohol seems like an absurd waste.
Men can do all sorts of manly stuff
>Loudly take a shit
>Chew chewing tobacco
>Walk around without a shirt on
>Do Maths without a calculator
>Get to your destination without stopping for directions (even if you're going the wrong way)