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How do I get a gf? I have a job but I don't have many friends, and the ones I do have dont like go out and do things so I can't meet girls like that. I don't want to be lonely anymore please help me. :(
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Kill yourself there's no hope for a faggot like you.
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>>16767500

>>Loose virginity to a hooker - gain confidence
>>Lower standards
>>msg fatties on dating sites for practice
>>when you are smooth as fuck with them then lvl up to chubbies
>>repeat until qt 10/10gf
>>your lvl cap depends on your genetics and personality but if you'r not deformed or retarded you can at least get a 5/10
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>>16767500
1.Find something that interests you (for example, faggotry).

2. Google "whatever it is that interests me in my area" (for example google "faggotry in OP's area"

3. Read results, look for groups of people that meet for your interest. (For example "faggots for OP discussion group, team sports groups or club")

4. Go to that and look for women. Chat one up. Repeat process as needed. (For example "hello derpina, I'm new hear, but I sure love faggotry. Can you tell me about this bit of minutia relating to faggotry? Fascinating. Say, I like your orthopedic shoes and lazy eye, they're pretty. Go out with me?")

It works about half the time. The other half derpina already has someone or you're ugly, so you try again. Just be graceful about being rejected, women talk amongst themselves.
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>>16767530
>Loose virginity to a hooker - gain confidence
Already did this
>Lower standards
I'm willing to date trannies and as fat as they come idc anymore.
>msg fatties on dating sites for practice
they never message back, probably because I cant hold a conversation for shit.
>>16767533
I don't have much that interests me, I really don't know what to search.
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>>16767500
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>>16767500

also there was a pdf moving around back when /b/ was still good. I think it was called "Well cultured Anonymous" It had some basic relationship advice and should be stickied on /adv/
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>>16767540
>I don't have much that interests me, I really don't know what to search.

You don't have any hobbies? Stop being a faggot and get some fucking interests

No, hobbies are not masturbating and posting on a Thailand lotion making image board
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>>16767551
What hobbies should I get? Nothing is fun to me anymore.
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>>16767540

Good job on the first 2 steps. I think you may be trying too hard - don't try to hold a conversation. Your goal should be to ask them out and fuck them. I've had success with straight up asking if they want to fuck (i'm not good looking). After you fuck then you'll have a boost in confidence and it will be easier to just whatever the fuck you want.

Also remember, it's not OK to have a fatty gf. Don't fall for that trap
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>>16767555
We're not your mother, just pick a hobby.

Listen to yourself. Who would want a bf like you, with no interests other than watching Netflix and posting on 4chan?
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>>16767558
I was told the way I talked was boring a while back when I showed chatlogs I had. I don't really know how to fix that.
>>16767559
>Who would want a bf like you
No one.
>no interests other than watching Netflix and posting on 4chan
I only do one of those things, lets not assume stuff here.
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>>16767555

Don't try to force hobbies. Make stalking bitches on dating sites your hobbie. Msg all the girls, make notes where you went wrong somewhere. Create a new account and try a different strategy. That can all be very time consuming.
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>>16767569
Usually they'll ask about what I like and stuff and i freeze up. The worst question I get is what music do you like? I literally cannot answer this question. If I can't talk to them then what is the point of doing that?
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>>16767565
Pock something you used to like doing as a kid (vidya, legos, reading, kickball, etc).

Fake enjoying it again and find other adults who like it, or who pretend to like it because they're desperately trying to make some sort of human connection.

You might even remember why you liked said hobby in the first place.
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>>16767576
The only thing I do is play vidya and the kinds of obscure CRPGs I play girls will never like. And I'm starting to not even enjoy that any more.
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>>16767575

Have you tried lying ? Make up cool stories about your life and try to match your interest with theirs ?

Are you a wageslave ?
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>>16767584
I don't even know what to make up, it obviously wouldn't be true i'm not that cool and I can't write that well.

Yes I am a wageslave, and I have my own place as well.
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>>16767585

>>have income
>>own place

Single mom's are your answer then. Just show them how beta you are and they'll do the rest.

Don't let them completely ruin and get too emotional.
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>>16767596
tfw single moms dont even reply to me on dating websites...
Is there any hope? : ^ )
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>>16767598

I don't know bro. Every single mom needs a beta wagie. You must be doing something completely wrong.

I'd like to give you hope, but i have such low opinion of women so i'm not really objective.

Greenext your process - how do you go about wanting to fuck girls online.
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I wish you frog posters would fucking suffocate.
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>>16767605
I dont just want to fuck them though... I want a gf...

Conversations usually go
>Hello you seem really interesting and I'd love to get to know you some more!
ok
>How're you doing?
im ok
>Up to anything interesting?
no
>What are you into would you like to get to know me some more?
>never get a response

This is generally how it goes, its kind of hard for me because I only really get one or two word responses ever.
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>>16767612
Tell her what you thought was interesting about her. Ask a question or two. Show that you bothered to read what she had to say and you'll find girls will answer you more often.

Otherwise you may as well send a picture of your dick and ask "dtf?"

>>Once I realized women were people too, fucking them got so much easier!
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>>16767612

ask them personal questions and invite them out

Seems to me you are pretty fucked bro. Try banging more hookers and practice your small talk on them
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>>16767618
>>Once I realized women were people too, fucking them got so much easier!

>>Once i realized women are not people, fucking them became much easier.


We took different paths bro.
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>>16767500
Why do you want a gf? Just for the sake of it? I don't know if you realize but having a gf is a fucking chore.

Remember that time you had to do whatever the fuck you wanted? Gone.

Do you remember what it felt like to spend all your money on shit you like? Gone.

And then there's dealing with the beta orbiters, and meeting this whole list of criteria while being there for her...

I mean, it takes someone truly special to consider giving up being single. Why would you want a gf just for the sake of it?
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>>16767618
I sometimes try to do that, but I don't really know about the subjects on their profile well enough to have a huge conversation about it.
>Once I realized women were people too, fucking them got so much easier!
But I do think they're people? Like I said I don't just want to fuck them. I think you're the person treating them just like fuck objects. Not that its wrong, just don't tell me to think differently than you when its obviously working.
>>16767621
I am fucked I'll probably end up dead in a few days.
>>16767627
>Remember that time you had to do whatever the fuck you wanted?
I don't do anything anyways.
>Do you remember what it felt like to spend all your money on shit you like?
I don't spend money on much anyways.
>I mean, it takes someone truly special to consider giving up being single. Why would you want a gf just for the sake of it?
I've been lonely for so long I can no longer take it. You have had a gf before so you understand a bit better how it feels to not be lonely and how it feels to be wanted. I've been lonely my entire life. Everything feels hopeless and I feel like no one will ever love me.
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>>16767500
If you just want a girlfriend you could try one of the many online dating services like OkCupid, Tinder, Plenty of Fish and the like. Put some effort to your profile and maybe search for some guides for do's and don'ts and apply them to it as well. Then lower your standards to realistic levels and actually try to match with people who sound like people you could be comfortable to be around with, for example it's not very realistic for a shy nerd to go for the outgoing super model that lives in a completely different world and has barely anything in common.

In your chase it would also do good to find a girl that is nothing like your friends and is actually willing to go with you to events, clubs, bars and gatherings because this way you can fix the friend problem as well. Beware however as you may grow a bit distant from your not so outgoing friends.

Alternative is to just masturDate and do your best to leave your comfort zone and start talking to people in events, clubs, bars, gatherings and whatnot. But instead of directly going after females try to get more friends instead.
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you having fucked a hooker is a big deal breaker to a lot of girls
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>>16767639
Like I said here >>16767540 I don't have high standards.
I've tried online dating and no one ever replies to me. I tried the clubs/bars kind of deal and it didn't work out for me, I got really upset every time i tried and left. This would probably be easier if I had friends that could ge tme into this stuff but I don't. I think I'm just fucked.
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>>16767625

Not really, you just haven't accepted that all people are scum, regardless of genitals, yet.

>>used to pedestal women, didn't understand not getting laid.
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ITT: op asks people with girlfriends for advice, gets it, tells us we're wrong, bemoans his hopeless situation.

I'm calling it DOA at 4:15am. OP is dipshit who can't be helped because he'd rather whine than listen.
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>>16767653
He should just kill himself
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>>16767647

You make a good point bro.

Also OP seems pretty fucked. He must be doing something wrong.
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>>16767653
Pretty much
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>>16767659
No, he should shut the fuck up and listen to people telling him what to do rather than insisting his depressed ass knows better.
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>>16767672
No one has really told me what to do outside be more interesting or lie to get in a girl's pants. Which might work if I wasn't ugly as sin.
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>>16767627

This. Having a gf is really overhyped. I made that mistake in my youth. Now i'm stuck with a dumb cunt who's every word sound like shit only because i don't want her to raise my son by herself.
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>>16767674

Lower your standards to girls who are ugly as sin. Or become better at wageslaving.
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>>16767674
Multiple people told you to talk to women, engage in conversation.

You whined about how you can't or made excuses for why you have nothing to talk about.

Don't ask for advice if all you're going to do is make excuses after you get it.
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>>16767689
That was not what I meant to say, what I meant to get across is that I am already doing that and it isnt working well.
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>>16767679
I feel like you could possibly be me from the future sending myself a message.
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>>16767698

Get out while you can
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>>16767695
No you aren't, as evidenced by your example of how your messages go.

You're bleating for attention (hey want to talk, hi how are you, you seem interesting) without giving any reason for anyone to pay attention to you.

Your messages seem like conversation to you because you're autistic. To everyone else, they say "I'm a special snowflake you should love, I sent this exact same message to multiple other women hoping they and you will see how special I am and do all the work of figuring out why I'm special (because fuck if I know why, I just know)"

Here's a basic guideline for you. If you wouldn't send your icebreaker to a random guy, don't send it to a girl either. You need to have something else to talk about besides "you're a girl on a dating site! I like you for that."
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>>16767715
Yes I understand this so what do I say instead?
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>>16767719
SOMETHING ABOUT WHAT THEY SAID IN THEIR PROFILE!!!

express a goddamn interest specific to them! It's like bait. Doesn't catch all the fish, but it gets the type you're looking for.

They say they like music group x, youtube music group x, watch a video or two, ask questions! They like Book Y google book Y, read a synopsis then tell them you've heard of book Y and want to know more about it.

It's not rocket science here man.
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>>16767742
Ok thats actually pretty good advice thanks Pepe
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>>16767500
>shower, shave, put on deodorant, cologne and nice casual clean clothes
>go to bookstore/grocery store/wherever
>find girl
>engage in small talk due to situation
>make her laugh and have fun
>if all goes well, ask her if she would like to go get lunch or see a movie together
>repeat until you acquire gf

Note that money, a job, a car and your own place aren't required, they help
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>>16767752
>shower, shave, put on deodorant, cologne and nice casual clean clothes
I do this
>go to bookstore/grocery store/wherever
>find girl
>engage in small talk due to situation
>make her laugh and have fun
this is the part I cant do
>Note that money, a job, a car and your own place aren't required, they help
I got these things I'm just autistic and can't talk to women at all. My only gf was a transgirl from /r9k/
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>>16767758

Damn you OP. For making me take time to read and reply to a faggot thread. FUKKEN HERESY
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>>16767763
I dont get it
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>>16767775
>My only gf was a transgirl from /r9k/

>>transgirl
>>gf
>>trans

Everyone who associates with that scum is a fag.
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>>16767778
I'm sorry try >>>/pol/
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>>16767781

I am fortunate enough to be born in a /pol/ country where this kind of HERESY isn't tolerated.

Why do let yourself to be brainwashed by the liberal media ? How stupid must you be to believe that it's normal for a guy to wear a dress and coll HIMself a girl.
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>>16767789
You're more autistic than fucking OP holy shit.
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>>16767791
Nice try, OP.
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>>16767645
Then there's probably something wrong with your profile description or how you approach/message to women. Best way to approach them is the same way you'd approach men who you want to be friends with.

Oh and if you have the "nice guy syndrome" (google what it means and get rid of it). Women find it creepy, insecure and can see through it really fast and ignore you or friend zone you in a heartbeat. Women want men who have opinions of their own and are not afraid to disagree with them.
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>>16767800
Wasnt me sorry
>>16767804
This is good advice, I google that and I think it relates to me a bit, do you have anything specific on dealing with it? I am definitely more sensitive than other guys and along with my other problems that probably hurts me.
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>>16767742
This.

But don't be afraid to disagree and have opinions of your own. If she likes band music genre, movie, book or hobby you don't really care about just say so, just don't be too blunt about it and it might actually spark out a friendly small debate.

Speaking about tastes about music, movies and other forms of entertainment are great for opening up conversations. However conversations about forms of entertainment tend to dry out fairly quickly and you'll eventually run out of things to talk about or you start to feel that it's all you two talk about which is not good.

Then it's good to step it up a notch and pick more controversial topics from news, politics, economy, health and fitness. Hot topics are great for adding a bit of variety to the conversation and if you find a topic you are both very passionate about you'll feel a lot more comfortable talking to her and you can probably go on and on about the topic.

Later on you can just simply ask her out by saying that you enjoy conversations with her and how she seems nice and that you'd like to meet in person.
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>>16767809
I think it's usually enough for people with "nice guy syndrome" to acknowledge it.
It's also what some people mean by saying "don't put women on pedestal" like they where like targets of worship instead of normal people.

Be yourself, grow a backbone and don't be afraid to disagree, argue or voice your actual opinions to people (to even those who you are attracted to or those who you look up to.) Don't seek acceptance through words or deeds, help people when you want to help and do not expect anything in return unless you ask for it beforehand.

There's also book called "No More Mr Nice Guy" which you could check out, there's probably pdf of it somewhere around the Internets.
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>>16767530

this is pretty gud
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Oh wow, can't believe this thread is still alive.
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