So let's say you're waiting for the class to start with your classmates, but you don't know anyone, because you're new to this university. Everyone is talking to each other, and you're standing nearby, looking at the floor/wall/ceiling.
Is it inappropriate to do so? How does a normal human being behave when they're in a situation like this? Others have told me that I should look at my classmates, but wouldn't that come off as staring, and therefore be considered rude?
I am same so will follow. I honestly don't give a fuck and hate small talk. People are boring and full of themselves and I don't have the energy to fuel that. It does make me feel lonely in the long term, though.
just go to your fucking class who the fuck cares if you don't talk to anyone?
in my experience, paradoxically, this kind of attitude maximizes the chance of a spontaneous conversation about whatever.
have to second this. Don't excuse yourself by blaming others for being "boring and full of themselves". It makes you sound boring and full of yourself.
I have three courses this semester with people are really tight and who'm I never connected with because I'm also working on an ATPL.
Just focus on being super prepared for each session. If you get paired in groups you want them to know you're better than them so they spread the news.
also "normal" people...we're ghosts driving a meat covered skeleton on a rock floating through space leeching energy of a huge floating fusion reactor.
I mean if you don't consider yourself to be weird by now you haven't been paying attention.
Everyone's scared, no one knows what's going on and "normal" is always relative. I've been considered weird myself for years and you kind of get used to it, and after that you get to enjoy whatever weird stuff you like to do without giving a shit about what other people think. I think in the end "normal" people miss out on a lot of that open-minded creativity. Just trying stuff and really, genuinely being passionate about something.
If people really think you're weird remember that's just a projection of their own fears, shames and worries. But even then, you'd be surprised to know...most of the time no one really gives a crap about you. I sometimes consider people who are afraid of being weird or paranoid people as kind of arrogant. Like everyone is watching you all the time. You're not that interesting. No offense, meant in a positive manner. 90% of the time it's just in your head. It's not what they think, it's what YOU think they are thinking. The shame/embarrasment is self generated.
Hope this helps