Hello /adv/ I need your help. I'm a 22 years old bisexual male and have been diagnosed with hiv two months ago. I've done all the tests I've been requested and now I'm waiting for the results before starting treatment.
The problem is I don't know if I should tell my parents. I'm in college and live with my older brother in a city 400km far from them. They don't even know I'm bi. The only reason I woud tell them is because of hiv but I don't know if I should. I can get the medication on my own so I think is not necessary to tell them.
I welcome all kind of questions, opinions and advice.
HIV is invisible and very treatable nowadays. Obviously not curable, but considering how hard it'd be for your parents to know, and how much it won't affect their lives at all... I'd say don't tell them. You're just putting misery into their lives without any real need for it.
Tell your future partners, of course, but not your parents. What logical advantage would there be to telling them? It's not like you're going to fuck one or both of them.
I think they can but it won't be easy. The only reason I can think to tell them is because they are me parents. I was thinking to start treatment before telling them. I'm in no hurry.
Ok, listen up OP. Don't tell your parents. Seriously. There's nothing worse than seeing their son die from a terminal disease, and knowing that they can't stop it. Don't tell anybody at all, except maybe for a few friends - it's the kind of disease that people have strong prejudices about (they will try to avoid you and think that you could infect them by coughing on them or some shit - people are retards for the most part).
Comply with your treatment, and don't have unprotected sex just because you have HIV - coming into further contact with HIV will just make your disease worse, and you could get other diseases which could kill you even faster and/or make you suffer a lot.
Now there's this idiot tripfag:
Any anons who have a sense of dignity, please report him. He keeps shitposting and intentionally giving misleading advice all the time. This is against this board's rules.
DO NOT TELL THEM!
When my mother learned that I had schizophrenia, for example, she tried to kill herself. And she doesn't have a mental illness of any kind (the doctors told me). This is how parents react when they learn that their children have some debilitating/terminal disease.
Think of the impact it could have on your parents. What if they attempt suicide because of that? And for sure, they will suffer a lot for a long while.
What's better: them suffering for long years while you're dying, and suffering even more after your death, or them suffering just after your death?
You should tell your parents.
It's going to be hard for them, but if you don't tell them they won't understand your reactions, your life and it will put distance between you and them.
As someone with a chronic disease, I can promise you that your life is going to be a mess for the next few months. You'll probably get depressed, or at least you'll have a hard time accepting your illness. Your love life will be very complicated, finding a partner who loves you despite of it is going to be hard, some friends will judge you, leave you, whatever.
You'll need someone to love you and be by your side no matter what. Your parents are a good option, especially if they're not asses.
Unlikely since I live on the beach
Of course you should tell them you fucking moron.
This is a major life change. They absolutely deserve to know. How fucking selfish are you?
"I don't want to hurt them" is a bullshit excuse. You don't want to see their reaction because it will hurt you.
Thanks for the advice, I've a lot to consider yet.
I don't think I'm being selfish. If I don't tell them is because I see no good in it. Actually it's being very difficult to me not telling them.