Ok so night before last my boyfriend told me that he is intrested in 12 to 28 year old girls and told me that if an under aged girl said she wanted to do things with him that if the settings were right that he would accept, I really love him and don't want this to destroy our relationship. I'm just so conflicted and confused, what should I do?
uhh, so he wants to have sex with other girls? Why are you insecure about age, does it even matter? He'll proly do that without you anyhow, so either have threesome, dump him or talk it out.
So he's basically telling you outright that if he has the chance to cheat on you he'll do it. No point in talking to him about it, because he already has his mind made up, unless you're to tell him it's ok with you or it's not ok and you break up.
He's willing to have sex with someone underage is definitely something to be worried about. If it were me I'd break up with him.
That's pretty fucked up, but shouldn't be a problem unless he's saying that in a "I want to bang other people" kind of way.
I have no idea why you'd talk about your fantasies with your girlfriend if they don't involve her - he sounds weird as fuck.
Thank you for your input and I really appreciate the fact that he was honest with me about it but my issue comes in as I feel any female under the age of 16 is not fully equipped to make a decision on whether or not they are ready to have sex as they do not fully understand the act it's self or the possible consequences of that choice.
Then that's an issue to you, ma'am, and - sure, that's say some pretty fucked up things about him. This basically boils down to whether or not knowing such thing bothers you enough to end your relationship.
If you haven't dated for long, I'd say that's a pretty big red flag.
When I say fully equipped I mean that they do not have the knowledge of the act itself yes after their first cycle they are semi equipped it doesn't mean that they have they he knowledge of the act or the consequences of it if they are not safe.
If it was a fantasy that stayed a fantasy, no problem in my opinion. No one should be regarded as a criminal for being a pedophile, it's not their fault they're attracted to underage people.
His declaration that he would be willing to act on it under the "right settings" is very worrying, though. He basically stated, sincerely, that he would be interested in raping a child. This is not something normal people do.
You know how on the news you'll see guys arrested for child molestation, and they'll interview their wives who say, "I had no idea."? Do you really want to be that wife one day? Or, perhaps, the wife who says, "Yeah, I knew he wanted to, guess he finally got around to it."?
Get out, get out now.