How do you know if you're gay or not?

>>16763151
shove a dick in your mouth and see

>>16763164
I'm not ok with oral either way.

Do you find men sexually attractive? Do you find the idea of doing sexual things with men sexually attractive? Can you get off to gay porn or erotica?
And, most importantly, do you like doing sexual things with men?

I literally didn't realize I was bi until I met this guy who I really clicked with, then realized that the gay porn should have been a bit of a hint in the first place.

I was bicurious for a while but this really drove the point home that my same-sex attraction was real and not going away.

>>16763186
How is sexual attraction supposed to feel?

>>16763151
see >>16763186

Watch some gay porn. If you can't stay hard and you're not into it then you're likely not gay. If you're hard and want to cum in/on the men in the videos then you're likely gay or bi. It's not magic, friend.

>>16763205
What if I'm a girl?

>>16763198
getting bonner

>>16763263
What if I'm a girl?

>>16763265
People have been saying that you have to get off to gay porn, but don't listen to them OP, most lesbians/bi women don't actually like "lesbian porn" because it's actually made for straight men.
https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=video&cd=1&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0ahUKEwiuirmr9trKAhXLbD4KHSdZACIQtwIIHDAA&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3Dog5ZVD6hgcE&usg=AFQjCNHQ-JBuIjy3pEgCvxQl9gFQStTPlw&bvm=bv.113034660,d.cWw

>>16763286
I don't watch porn at all. What now?

>>16763294
This is a very thorough online source for helping you to determine your sexuality. Mind OP, it is not perfect, but it can help.

http://www.yoursexualorientation.info/Home_Page.php

>>16763306
It goes over what orintation, identity, and sexual oritation myths vs. truths are, plus it has a lot of questions for you to evaluate and resources for you to check out afterwards.

>>16763306
Okay, thank you.

>>16763318
So it's possible to be romantically attracted to men but not be sexually attracted to them?

What do I do now?

>>16763341
I'd say that if you happen to be romantically attracted to a guy and, presumably, want to stay in a relationship with him, tell him that you can love him romantically, but not sexually.
If he understands and is okay with that, then you can stay together. It's sorta the same with asexual people. Some can have romantic feelings, but never want to have sex with their partners.

But if you really find yourself both romantically (you'd like to have a relationship with) and sexually attracted to women more than men, maybe try pursuing a relationship with women instead.

Just remember not to pressure yourself though, finding a definitive answer to your romantic & sexual attraction can take time. Test how you feel about certain people compared to others. Heck, maybe you're pansexual (not attracted to gender, but to the person themself)!

>>16763341
look into muscle relaxants. Doing them before sex makes it relatively painless.

>>16763381
I don't know. I've never had a crush on a girl, I just can't tell what sexual attraction is supposed to feel like.

>>16763387
You don't have to have sex to explore your "sexuality", though that is an option (if you're old enough/want to).

>>16763393
Have you never had a crush on anyone? Maybe you are aromantic and/or asexual.

>>16763400
I've had crushes on guys. Just never wanted the sex.

>>16763423
Maybe you're asexual then . Asexuality is defined as the experience of not being sexually attracted to others. Less commonly, it is defined as not valuing sex or sexual attraction enough to pursue it.
Lately I've been reading: The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality. You should give it a read. It's on Amazon, or you can find it in your library in the nonfiction section under 306.76 if your library uses the dewy decimal system.

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>>16763450

>>16763450
So I will hate it forever?

>>16763460
You mean hate sex? It's more like you don't need sex in your life to feel complete. Unless you've had sex before, I can't say whether you will hate it or not. Some asexuals find it completely unpleasant, while some don't mind doing it for their partners. You might end up having to experiment, but that is a decision you should make on your own. Just remember to do what you want with your body, don't let people force you to do anything.

>>16763460
Let your boner do the deciding

>>16763478
I have had sex. I wish there were other ways to make a man stay.

>>16763478
Also note that it is only a possibility, you may not be asexual. So read what you can online and/or in books on the subject, take tests, etc.

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i dont like gaiz but was raped so idk i get a sick feeling from just anything erotic but grills r just best

>>16763488
OP, don't worry. There are some men willing to not have sex. And there are also other asexuals out there as well! You might find an asexual like yourself someday, so don't loose hope!

>>16763495
Where do I find one?

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>>16763504
In the book I'm reading, there's some resources in the back. I'm going to scan the pages (with an app), so hold on, I'll get back to you ASAP, okay?

>>16763512
okay thanks.

>>16763512
I had to go grab a charger for my phone because it's dying, but I'm going to start scanning them now.

>>16763151

Do you masturbate to gay porn frequently? - Definitely gay.

When you were a kid, did you like cars, guns, legos, ninjas, stars, volcanos, computers, tools, football, baseball, basketball? - Probably not gay.

When you were a kid did you like dolls, high-heels, barbie, fairies, dancing, ice skating, ballet, gymnastics? - You're gay.

If you had any friends, were they mostly gossipy women? - Gay.

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>>16763516
I've got the first 5 pages of resources so far. They should be readable when you zoom in on the image, but let me know if you need me to scan any of them again.

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>>16763561
Okay, not sure what happened to pg 2, but I'll rescan that soon. For now, here's pg 3.

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>>16763561
Pg. 4

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>>16763570
Pg. 5
Going to re-scan pg 2. and then scan the other resources pages.

>>16763561
Thank you so much.

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>>16763587
You're welcome, I'm glad that I could help you.
Here's pg. 2/12

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>>16763618
6/12

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>>16763618
7/12
Btw, I hope that these are okay, some of them are darker than others. Just let me know if you have any problems reading any of the pages.

Op you sound fat. Can you confirm? Usually fatties give up and become gays

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>>16763623
8/12

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>>16763626
9/12

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>>16763630
10/12

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>>16763633
11/12

>>16763624
I was about 58 kilos the last time I checked. As far as I know that's a reasonable weight for 167 cm, being decently fit.

>>16763255
Watch lez porn and see if it gets your juices flowing. No touching though.

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>>16763638
12/12
I hope you find these useful and informative. And I also hope that if you are asexual, that these resources are comforting in letting you know that you are not alone, you are perfectly normal, and your orientation is valid.
I'm not sure if I'll ever talk to you again, OP, but I pray you have a safe, happy, and possibly asexual life!

>>16763644
Lesbian porn is made for straight men.