Hey /adv/, I have some girl problems here. I've recovered from a break up, but I'm fucking confused now. This girl and I haven't talked since, besides a few arguements and me trying to get her back a few days after she broke up with me. What should I do with her from now on?
The circumstances here aren't normal for our break up. I've posted this story here a lot, but it pretty much goes that she broke up with me 2 days after she talked to her parents about her sexual assault from a cousin, I freak out and think that telling biological mom about what had happened(she had talked to her bio dad and step-mom) might somehow help her (dumbass move, I know), she then started to hate me and then we argued once 2 weeks ago, and then we haven't talked since. I have no idea what to do here with all this shit. I'm just an 18 year old high school senior.
fugg man that's a lot of drama. sucks for her but she probably needs professional therapy that you aren't equipped to give her. sounds callous but i would just block her out and move on. relationships are easy come easy go at that age.
Apparently she's going to group therapy now. But she's hanging out with this beta fag who is too much of a pussy to make a move on her, now. She's stopped hanging out with most of her other friends now, and this beta fag is what makes this hard for me and makes me wonder what I should do. (It doesn't help that she has a history of dating other guys after a break up to make her exs feel jealous) Any advice /adv/?
well as I see it you can either
1. cut contact because you want to be her boyfriend and not a friend
2. go with her wish and be friendzoned
if you're gonna cut contact just explain why,nice and honest
I can't do either of those options really, I've cut off contact from her in electronic form, and avoid her in school ever since she argued with me 2 weeks ago. I'm just trying to figure out what the fuck to do in the future after all of this shit settles down. It doesn't help that my entire family dislikes the girl and her family (they think the ex and her family are total loonies). At least the biological mom still likes me, as far as I know.
>It doesn't help that she has a history of dating other guys after a break up to make her exs feel jealous
You're 18 so you might not be able to see this but the above is immature. Cut contact and move on.
As for what you can do in the mean time. Anything. Study and do well. Meet new girls. Have fun. You'll look back on this and laugh.
Source: I was in your place once and I took the advice of an older cousin who suggested I cut contact, get hobbies and enjoy life.
You don't have to accept her terms of being her friend. Most guys just take their ball and go home once she busts out the friend card. Tell her that you view her more as a romantic partner, that you want to kiss and touch her.
If she still wants you as her gay male girlfriend, reinforce that you want her as a romantic partner and walk away and you never look back. If she does contact you, make a definite date.
If I were you I would cut contact with her. You are still young and do t need this bullshit in your life rn. But do what you think is best I mean she was straight forward with you and you can still be friends . fuck this is confusing since she was raped by her cousin. Do what you think is best.
Tell her you aren't able to be her friend, that you care about her and wish her well, but that it's best if you cut contact.
No matter what you do, you do not have a future with this girl, you can drag out the inevitable, or get a head start on moving on with your life.
Stop with the teenage drama, don't dwell on it, otherwise this is literally you:
It'd honestly be easier if there weren't faggots harassing me at school about it. They heard about how I reached out to some of my ex's friends about her assault (I was trying so hard to get her help), so now they're making fun of me for talking about it with other people. They pretty much say "Hey, my girlfriend was raped!" At me, even if they see me in the hallway. One of them recorded me walking away from him and posted it on Snapchat. They've posted multiple things on Snapchat harassing me. What should I do about that? I'm honestly ready to beat their asses.
What about the harassment issue? I'm tempted to confront her and the harassers about it, and I'm really tempted to kick their asses. They've gone too far and I'm going to lose my shit soon.
You have nothing to gain from violence and everything to lose. You should report them to administration and push for expulsion, if anything.
It is bullshit to live with right now, but once highschool is over you NEVER see anyone. All that matters is you graduated and your grades.