Basically one of my friends is really in love with her bf (both each others firsts), they've been together for about 7 months and they both plan to go to college in socal. Is it a good idea to go to the same college and stay together? I've told her its a bad idea and that they should go their seperate ways, but she's conflicted. Do you guys think they could/should go to the same school?
They shouldn't go to the same school primarily because of the relationship. However if they are both studying what they want with the best cost, convenience, prestige, etc. at that school, that's a happy coincidence.
She's obviously not interested in advice or she'd be here herself. She's a young kid who thinks she is in love who is about to go to college and just begin to scratch the surface of what it means to be an adult, OF COURSE she's not going to make the smart decision.
She thinks she's in love with someone she's been with for 7 months for fuck's sake,(not mentioning the fact that "being with" someone in high school has none of the aspects of an actual adult relationship and mainly consists of texting, holding hands and dry humping in someone's mom's basement. You don't expect people whoa aren't adults to make adult decisions, it just isn't practical.
They're going to go to college, grow up a little, grow apart and then break up like every couple coming out of high school does. Who cares, let her figure it out on her own.
You've already involved yourself enough, and made your opinion known. Stop, seriously, just leave them be.
I promise you, your friend will be fine no matter what happens. Thousands follow their SO to college every year, transfer, etc... It will work out.
As such, leave it alone.
>I've been with my HSSH for 15 years. We've never broken up. Fuck you naysayers.
Ok, but you do understand that for example, you personally winning the lottery is not a logical basis for telling everyone you meet to dump their money into powerball tickets right?
The failure rates for young relationships are astronomical, so your anecdotal "HEY, I DID SOMETHING UNLIKELY ONE TIME SO FUCK YOU" statement is worth about a handful of shit in this situation.
Not once did anyone say staying with someone out of high school was impossible, but I kind of depended on everyone to use their basic reading and comprehension skills to draw logical conclusions for themselves.
You, obviously, didn't do so well in that department.
>They're going to go to college, grow up a little, grow apart and then break up like every couple coming out of high school does. Who cares, let her figure it out on her own.
OP let her do her life and leave her alone.
Choosing a college is not buying a powerball ticket, you fuck. It's not like choosing NOT to go to college to stay with someone, that's retarded, but making a big deal out of going to college together is pretty pointless. The most important thing is that they get their education, and whether they stay together or not, looks like they both will.
So quit naysaying, you negative Nancy.
College is such a giant place that even if they attended the same college, its not even like they'd see each other all that often. Especially if they broke up.
I've attended college with my boyfriend for the past three years, and we are going on 5 years together over all. We're both part time students and work. We take classes together when they fit. And it's really helpful. We split the cost of one book and share it. Help each other study. It works really well.
It's not like college is some festering breeding ground for fucking/cheating/drama. I've been at my college for years and still haven't made a single friend, generally because everyone is caught up in their own lives and not entirely approachable. My boyfriend hasn't made any college friends either. The work is too demanding to make friends and dick around in class. Or even outside of class.
A girl once approached him in a class we shared on the first day because we had to sit apart from each other, but once we went on break together, she realized he was taken by me. That was like, the highlight of "drama" we've encountered.