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>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
Would your view of your partner change if you found out that, instead of a journal, they write letters to dead people/relatives? A therapist of mine recommended it years ago as a way to deal with stress and depression, but now I feel weird explaining it to someone if they saw and even creepier if I hid it.
Cute probably. The girl to the left is a pretty poor example though.
It's a bit weird but nothing alarming. I mean conceptually, how is this different from when people try to vent to their passed away family at their gravestone? From my perspective they're mostly the same.
What if your therapist said to suck his dick?
DESU it doesn't sound all that weird (compared to a journal), but generally when you feel weird explaining something it is.
Probably wouldn't view you different, assuming I already knew you needed therapy for whatever.
I'd prefer if people would be clear with their intentions.
Then again I'm a slightly autistic guy. Some people would take it as clingy or just don't like it for some other reasons or they like to play games.
Girls, would you find it odd, threatening or in any way offputting to find out a guy you're getting to know lives with a lesbian room mate?
And I guess the other side of that is, lesbians of /adv/ would you find it odd or offputting if a girl you were getting to know had a straight guy as a room mate?
If a guy can make you laugh, does that care a lot of weight on a attractiveness scale? I don't think I'm a physically attractive person. But this girls is always laughing when we talk. And she really seems to like me.
Why would I care?
It doesn't wholly compensate for physical unattractiveness, but it is a good thing. We don't know whether she likes you, so don't try and judge her feelings based on our answers
Guys and grills:
Do agree that expecting your long term significant other to "get over" or "let go" of the fact that you cheated on them (in only a few months since they discovered the cheating) and then getting angry and wanting to break things off with them is stupidly unfair?
do you actually like chugging dicks or do you just do it for our benefit? i mean like, its not like dick in mouth touches any sex parts (like clit, g spot etc.) so you cant get an orgasm from it is what i mean, but is it still pleasurable in some way? psychological maybe? what is the appeal to you?
Yeah, it's hypocritical as fuck. It would be pretty stupid to stay with a person who acts like that especially after they cheated on you.
It goes to show they don't view it as something very significant. Which means it wouldn't be surprising if they cheated again.
Girls, is it a really bad idea to say something about one of your ex-grilfriends to a girl you like ? Even if it's only to make a joke at their expense ?
I don't know how much of a taboo this is.
Never makes jokes about your ex. It makes me question your taste in girls. Just mention them if you have something nice (but not TOO nice) to say about her, or if you want to talk about something cool you did together (a trip, etc)
Do not talk shit of your ex girlfriend, do not say anything about looks or the sex you had together, do not be excessively kind when you talk about her, do not compare her to your current girl, do not talk about her too often/for no reason.
Bigirl here so I'll answer both.
I wouldn't be worried in either direction. She's lesbian, she isn't interested in guys. Even if she was, I trust my partner to not cheat on me. If someone is gonna cheat, they're gonna do it regardless of how many restrictions I make about who they spend time with. If I suspect that there is tension between the roommates, I'd have a conversation with my SO about it.
No, but it surely helps.
I'd rather be with someone less attractive but smart and with a great sense of humour than with someone very attractive but stupid or with no sense of humour.
Of course if you are a 0/10 it's not going to help, but if you're average, then, yes.
>have a lady friend over last night
>have a great dinner, talked for a bit, started to watch a movie
>she falls asleep and her head ends up in my lap
>carefully get off the couch, put a pillow under her head and cover her in a blanket
>go to sleep in my bed
>she's not there in the morning
She's not responding to texts although I only sent one 3 hours ago. Did I fuck up somewhere in here?
Then tell her, there is no point in blowjobs if the man doesn't really enjoy them. Just don't make her feel like she's terrible at them, just say that you don't enjoy them in general.
I'm socially retarded and probably seem like a creep when I talk to strangers, how should I approach women in bars or clubs? I really have no clue, women how would you like to be approached or talked to in that situation?
I have cameras in my apartment as it's on the main floor and I've been burgled once before. I can turn them off (it's just one camera facing the front door and one facing the patio entrance).
If I brought a woman home with me, I fully intend to tell her before she comes in where the cameras are, but will she be uncomfortable anyways? I can turn them off, it's just she might not believe me or think I got one in the toilet or something.
i almost always go on dates with guys if they ask me, because i think the first impression i get from them isn't enough to judge if i like them or not. So first dates are important (in my opinion). A perfect date would be one where no one isn't uncomfortable, you both are having fun and getting to know each other better. Don't go somewhere where you can't properly talk to the girl, or somewhere too formal. Just be relaxed and understand that she's a human too, she's probably just as nervous as you. If you're really anxious, just google 'first date tips' or something. i did that on my first date! :D
just go to her and say she's pretty, you like her, her dress is pretty or something like that. it doesn't really matter that much, if you go talk to a woman you've never met before in a bar, she'll get that you like her. then just start complimenting her or just asking about her in general. have a good posture, be relaxed, smile and try to make her laugh. don't be anxious, talk to her like you know what you're doing.
When you start dating, do you understand that its not going to be ok for you to go over to "Lisas" to watch a movie?
Having female friends is fine, spending time alone with them while having a girlfriend usually does not fly well.
Been talking to this girl. Basically asked her to leave her bf for me. She more or less said no but weve been talking about it for a couple of days. Why would she keep responding to me about it if she wasnt atleast slightly interested?
What if she leaves her boyfriend for you.
3 months down the line you 2 are watching a movie together, her phone vibrates, she starts smiling and laughing while reading the msg.
You ask who was that from. She says "insert female name here"
Do you trust her? You know she is the kind of person to start a new relationship while in a relationship with someone else.
Who cares? If she wanted to leave thats her decision not mine. Obviously i was doing something that didnt fulfill whatever she wanted otherwise she wouldnt leave me for someone else.
I'm a male, pretty sure two of my cousins like me. It's so obvious that everyone knows, according to people whos close to me. Is there a way I can get anything from that without anyone else knowing? Or should I just ignore the hints they're giving me. They've had a crush on me for years now
10 years seems like a long time, but if this ex screwed them over or broke their heart, they might not be over it. If they seem like they're over it, you can date this person, but you NEED to talk to your friend about it first.
Depends how long the relationships been going on. If it's relatively new say less than 6 months, I don't believe so.
It's not fully indicative though. She could very well want to but hesitant out of nervousness
Personally I don't think so. I don't really like people meeting my parents because they're really judgemental people and my dad is an alcoholic with unpredictable behavior. If you like this girl then why is meeting her family such a big deal? Just be with her and be happy.
I've been with my girlfriend for two years as of yesterday. I have zero complaints about our relationship: I'm so sure of our relationship that I didn't think it'd be a problem paying off my girlfriend's student debt as a gift for our two-year anniversary.
She doesn't have lots of debt, just shy of $7,500. Last year I started my own business and while it isn't tremendously big or profitable, I work very little hours with excellent pay (if you broke it down into an hourly wage, it's in excess of $400/hour, but I only work a handful of hours a month). It's great as companion income to my actual job. I save basically every penny from my business and have accrued about $20k in savings in the 11 months.
So I go to her old university, speak with financial services and am surprised they'll let me pay off her balance despite not being related or anything. I guess they don't care as long as they're getting money. It's all done and done, and I got a transaction receipt to put in an envelope as well as an official letter from the university showing a zero balance.
We go out for dinner last night and as we're getting the bill, I spring this envelope out and give it to her. She's speechless but in a different way than I initially thought. I thought she'd jump out of her chair and hug/kiss me, maybe a little waterworks, but it was more of a dread type of speechless.
It turns out she was hoping I'd propose tonight. Marriage is something both of us want but the problem has always been money: money that I just squandered away. She said she's happy but says I'm reckless with money, that I should have spoken with her about it first. I've done nothing but two things: save her $150/month on loan repayments and potentially postponed our marriage another 4-6 months. She wasn't a happy camper.
Do white girls only marry white men for money mostly or security? They would rather have non white guys for sex though?
Please don't tell me you're going to be one of those couples that spend in excess of 10k on a single day just to make it special. You still have savings and she should have some money to her name also.
So even if you were to propose to her today you should have plenty of money by the time when you're actually getting married.
I'm a male and my 18 year old girlfriend with PMDD, major bipolar disorder, and anxiety is about to start the DEPO shot in a few days.
Ladies, what was your experience with Depo like, if you did it? Or what do you know about ladies that you know that did it?
Males, experiences with girlfriend/fiance/wife on depo? What do I expect?
Tldr, what do you know about the depo shit?
'they' as the whole group dont, if you look up actually states white women are the actually the least likely to racemix (with asian women being the most likely)
you just think otherwise because of porn, which we all know is 100% realistic. try not to be so easily tricked next time lol
I applied to 3 graduate programs.
The first at the end of December, number 2 - Middle of January, and the third maybe a week ago.
All were on time, excluding my reference letters.
I tried calling the first and second schools last week, but no one answered.
I'm getting a little scared. Should I email the professors I applied under?
Males or Females can answer this question. Preferably, graduate students.
Multiple attractive princes whom perform my every whim.
It's not only saying hi.
You have to notice if the lady is interested too and start an conversation that doesn't start with "Sonic the Hedgehog is so cool."
I have talked to multiple people at bars or parties and became facebook friends or gained their numbers. A couple of days later you ask if they want to hang out.
Obviously, it's not just saying hi and hoping she will like/fuck you on the spot. That's disrespectful or improbable.
If it was a friend I would feel weirded out, if it was my boyfriend I would be ok with it.
Time don't matter. Learn about that person - their problems and incompatibles. Open up to them and if they haven't ran away after a while confess your love.
>Time don't matter
I know it's different for every couple. I was just wondering what the "average timespan" is. My bf told me when we were dating for about 1.5 months. But we knew each other already 3 years prior.
I'm sorry. I'm still in college so when I go out I can simply ask about a major, if its hard or not, and what current news I have heard about it.
This is something you have to learn by trial and error. You can talk to people platonically, and learn conversation skills.
Oh, my guess is 3 to 6 months.
Say that its the guy who you are considering dating. Like you guys have met a couple of times and are displaying interest in each other. Possibly gone on a few unofficial dates.
What are you up to? Do you want to tell her you jerk off to her? If not, why would you care? She probably wouldn't care and feel flattered.
I've asked this question before, but only got one response.
Men: how big of a turn-off is it when a woman has obviously uneven areolas? My left is maybe 2" diameter, my right is 2.25". Doesn't sound like a huge difference, but it is when I'm looking at it.
A girl said I'm cool and she'd date me, but also said i'm not important to her. She also followed up with two emojis after saying she'd date me.
my friends tell me she's politely friendzoning me, but it seems like sarcasm to me, and besides relationships start off with low interest so it's normal to not be special to her, right?
I'm going to be visiting with a girl that I really like and care about in a few months. And, I know sex will happen. But that's something I'm really concerned about... I haven't had sex in 4 years. So I'm seriously worried I won't preform well, and I care about this for soooo much that I want to do everything possible to make her the happiest girl in the world. But I'm just worried I'm going to cum in 1 second and not be able to continue.
Part 2 to my problem- so the girl I like I'm not currently in a relationship with. We are just friends and flirt a lot. But we are not dating. Well, anyways. A slut from Facebook that I know from back when I was in high school messaged me and wants to have sex tomorrow. Well I don't want to do it, I don't like her and I'm just not interested because I like the other girl. But the thing is, I don't know if I should take advantage of this so I can practice for my QT I'll see in a few months. I want to blow her mind.
I feel like a fucking autist right now. At the end of the day, my QT is what matters to me. I don't give a shit about the slut. Only reason I'm considering sex with slut is because I don't want to underperform for my QT. me and QT are not in a relationship so it's not cheating, although to me personally it doesn't feel right.
I'd prefer knowing that my guy waited for me and didn't fuck a random slut, even if he was mediocre in bed.
There are many things you can do to perform well with her. The simple fact that you really like and care about her will make sex good. Make out a lot, give her oral, even just cuddles will make everything better. Even if you don't last much, there's always the second round.
Girls and guys
In life we have both "wants" and "needs". I just had a girl tell me that "sex is a natural need".
I get that sex is needed for the human race to continue, but is just sex in general a actual "need"? It seems more like a want to me. And I also discipher that as her saying she just wanted to get fucked by guys a lot. I mean, we "need" food to survive. But nobody has died from not having sex.
It just seems strange to me, and a bit unsettling from what she said, because I like that girl.
Thank you. I think I'll text the slut right now and cancel because she wanted to meet tomorrow.
it just hurts a little because like I said before, me and my QT are just close friends and flirt a lot. But we are not in a relationship. I know that she's probably messing around with others because she told me that I should "go have lots of sex with cute girls". Which hurt a lot because I don't want to. So when we meet again in a few months, it's important that I make the best of absolute everything. It's clear she does care a lot for me. But I think if I close well this will all workout.
Sexy girls for jerking off.
Cute girls for relationships. Besides, it's not hard to do squats and get a good butt.
I don't give a fuck about tits, personally, ass is where it's at.
Im the type of guy that likes to make jokes and be a bit childish at times. I know I have to change but I just can't.
You know those guys that when they talk to women and they would stand and focus all their attention to him? I inspire to be like him, but being a 4chan user isn't helpful.
I don't know, if I have feelings for a guy I do not mess around with others. Be sure you're not investing too much on her.
Are you two on the same page on this? Are you friends till you meet, and then you're probably going to date? Does she like you? Has she ever been upfront about it?
we talk about cuddling and stuff a lot when we flirt. So I asked her one day about a relationship. And I don't remember all that was said, but it hurt my feelings. So she sent me another message which will answer everything you just asked.
It's kind of long, but if you have the time, I'd appreciate your feedback.
I like her a lot, she does lots of sweet things for me, all the time. And she's so cute and just fun to talk to.
I texted with a girl yesterday, until late..
Know her on date site, then we exchanged numbers and moved on Telegram.
So, we sexted a lot, but we talked about other thing.. and the whole conversation was more "sweet" than it should have been. We also told that we should fuck, because we have very similar sexual tastes.
Should I contact her again, tonight? Should I try to sext again?
Well, you know her and you know if she actually has a lot going on in her life.
I have similar thoughts when it comes to relationships, and it'd be hard, for me, to start dating someone if I'm not at my best emotionally. Letting someone in your life when you have to focus on yourself isn't easy, and feels unfair.
I know you like her, but she seems to have her motives to not jump in a relationship right now and you shouldn't invest too much in her emotionally. Liking her is normal, giving this thing a chance is good, but don't give up on potential happiness for her. Do not fuck around, you don't seem the type of guy who does it anyway, but look for someone that would make you happy, maybe closer to you.
Anyway I'm Italian too so it made me laugh a bit.
I respect her thoughts on it. She does have a lot going on in life right now and I understand that. I also understand we may just stay close friends and never develop into a relationship. Maybe it will be better next time we meet since we will have way more quality time together. Like you said, I don't care about fucking around. I'm about to text the slut and tell her I'm not going to meet up with her. But it just hurts sometimes because I know the Italian QT could be hooking up with people, because we are not in a relationship even though we like each other. The thing is I don't like other girls, I literally have no interest in other girls. I don't even want to talk to them. I just like this Italian and can not wait to see her again soon. She is very special to me, and she's so kind to me. I was feeling very sick today, and when I woke up from my sleep I had this message from her. She's just very sweet to me
YO I got a question for other guys I'm having a bit of an issue here. Maybe it's a question for /fit/ but I don't know.
>Dick grew after hitting 21
>Normal condoms worked fine but not so much anymore
>Length still only about 6.5 so normal
>But the girth has increased to about 6inches around
>Normal condoms no longer fit without pain and kill my boner
>Look for condoms online but the only ones I find are about like as inch or half inch above my length
Any guys in a similar situation? What kind of condoms do I get? I'm afraid it will be too baggy if I got one that was a little too long or is having it maybe a half inch too long ok?
But she is affectionate toward me as well. Just the other night she texted me before she went to sleep and said "I wish you were here.. It's cold. I wish I could lay with you. Your arms wrapped around me. I look into your blue eyes and give you a long, slow passionate kiss before I fall asleep against you."
>but I just can't.
I'm not even the kind of person who thinks you should stop being childish, but you're just being lazy and defeatist if you think it's impossible to change yourself.
Think of it like this:
For me, emotional intimacy is a need. I feel emotionally unhealthy when I am isolated from the people I care about.
There are more aspects to health than just physical, and when the other dimensions are out of whack, it often reflects on physical health too.
That's why stress can cause physical illness.
If you stuck someone alone in a dark room but still supplied them with food, water, exercise, etc, they will go mad.
There are more things we need to be well.
Which also differs from person to person. An extrovert has different needs from an introvert. Just because you cannot relate to her needs doesn't make them irrelevant.
Making love is a good way to prove your love, but sex can be used as many different things.
Just reassure her for now and talk to her about it.
I know if my boyfriend isn't inside me I reconsider our love sometimes, maybe she is the opposite?
The emotional part of it is a need.
Obviously, one can go without sex, but not some sort of intimacy. Maybe she needs sex emotionally.
Making love is different for both sexes. I feel, as a woman, making love is an emotional experience as well as sexual. Especially, since it's hard to have an orgasm from vaginal sex.
What defines a need from a want though? Like I'm 26 and have only had sex one time in my life, and never been intimate with anyone before. so it can't be a need if I'm not losing my mind over it right?
If you were told that you would never have sex again would you be deeply troubled by that? If not, its probably not a need for you then. That doesn't mean you won't enjoy it when it does happen, but it's not an important part of your life's happiness.
Probably, or you guys can compromise. She can control herself and you can force yourself.
My guy has a lower libido than mine. It's shitty, but we try. we might break up someday because of it or not, but you can still try. Talk to her about it. Change yourself maybe.
My bf not only has a low libido, but can't fulfil my needs well (read: medical issues)... I need sex for emotional reasons in a relationship.That doesn't mean I want to get fucked by guys a lot -- I'm not going to cheat on him -- but the lack of sex does stress me out a lot.
It's possible she won't want to continue the relationship if there is no chance of bridging that distance, but don't feel like it's over just yet. Have you two met IRL yet? Is there any chance of you two seeing each other occasionally? How far are you apart? Have you considered webcam stuff until you two can be together?
We were long-distance once. It can work out, but it can be difficult.
3,000 miles apart. And she sounds stressed sometimes when talking about sex. We have met once before but it was a short visit and we had not know each other very long so we didn't have sex then.
Yeah we were about 3000 miles apart too. Which countries (or states/provinces/whatever), if you don't mind me asking? Depending on dates and how far ahead you buy it, you can usually get a plane ticket for ~$400 USD. Tues-Thurs are usually the cheapest days to depart.
He and I would split the bill (so about $200 each, saved up over 4-6 months) to see each other. That $30-50 or so each month to save wasn't so bad.
Lack of sex can be stressful, but trying to deal with it in other ways can help a lot. It's easier to hear 'hey, we'll see each other in 3 months... until then maybe we can try things together on a webcam?' than 'yeah, sorry, no sex, not ever. Sucks huh? Maybe we should break up.'
LDRs are really difficult, and they require so much effort, but it can work out. How long have you known each other?
>It's so obvious that everyone knows
>Is there a way I can get anything from that without anyone else knowing?
No. Also posts like these are why I don't take white people seriously.
US and a European country.
We've known each other since this past fall. It's just not realistic to be able to meet very much. It sucks because I really care for her, and she's caused me to have feelings I didn't know existed. But I'm sure at some point this will end, because life is a cruel bitch.
Girls love when you go in for spontaneous kisses, but if, and only if, you ask her if she's been sucking someone else's dick first. It lets them know you're not an insecure baby.
I think you're an actual idiot if you think that every girl you run into has just finished sucking a dick, and I think that if you think that the girl you like is going to be sucking dicks ten minutes before seeing you then your insecurity will tear apart any relationship you ever manage to stumble into. Also if you voice these concerns to her she'll know you're an idiot and find someone who isn't 12 years old and still believes in cooties.
Im not kissing every girl. Id like to know that a girl wouldnt kiss me if shes sucked a dick recently.
Nothing idiotic about that.
>still believes in cooties.
yep, women dont actually see the problem then.
there you are using words you dont understand.
Why would you ever be in a situation where the girl you are interested in has decided to meet up with you but has also sucked someone else's dick recently? Do you not see why you sound insecure worrying about situation that will likely never happen?
Unless you track her down without her knowledge and kiss her (creepy) right after she happened to have been busy sucking someone's dick (unlikely), which she shouldn't be because she's interested in you.
And do you think girl's just store the cum in their cheeks all day? They either swallow and rinse or spit and rinse. If kissing a girl means also touching the dicks they've sucked then where is the cut off point for how recent it has to be?
Like, am I being baited or do you think this is logical thinking? You are insecure.
Male: Personally I don't think jumping into a relationship is a good thing, I'd prefer to spend time with someone and then go from there.
But in terms of being asked out? I think it's pretty clear.
>you are insecure
If you dont see the problem Im pretty sure youre baiting me.
Maybe Im not kissing my gf.
>They either swallow and rinse or spit and rinse
If you think this is enough then its definite bait.
If she's as interested in you as you are in her, she won't be off other people's sucking dicks. If she isn't interested, you shouldn't be doing shit like swooping in for kisses. You insecure child.
Look I can tell English isn't your first language so I'm not berating your for reading comprehension but your question was just answered and you're focusing on the wrong part of the post. I told you why the situation won't happen, and why you were insecure for thinking it would. That's all there is to it.
Would it be wise to get a girlfriend without even having a best friend ?
I don't know what to say. A girl I'm close friends with, who I also flirt with quite a bit (it's mutual) is really upset right now and I don't know how to comfort her. She's a very attractive girl and just a very kind, open person overall. And she gets a lot of attention for guys. 2 different guys have asked her out this past week. I asked her if he wanted a relationship with me just a few weeks ago (which didn't happen).. And she's also had some older individuals hit on her recently. She messaged me very upset saying "I wish I was invisible". I also feel as if I'm a part of the problem and feel terrible, although just earlier today she was being super sweet to me. I don't know what to say. I sent her this message and she hasn't replied back. I'm really sad
"I hope this doesn't sound annoying to you, because I mean this in a comforting way. But I care about you, and I know you care about me because you've told me. I know you are irritated because of the attention you get from men like me. But I just want you to know that I really do care for you, and I'm always here if you need me. And I'm someone you can trust and won't betray you. I just wish you the best. please tell me if there is anything I can do.. Even if that means we stop talking for a while..."
You're fine, it's not like you did anything wrong by asking her out, the problem is if you keep pressuring her after she says no
If I were you I wouldn't send anything else until she replies
All she responded with was "I'll be ok."
So I left her "ok. Unless you need me, I'll leave you alone. I hope to hear from you tomorrow Naomi. I'll be thinking of you. I'm sorry for any stress I have caused. good night"
I only asked her out the one time. But we've been talking a ton and flirting too. She just seemed really upset tonight. Saying how she wishes she was invisible to men because everyone likes her and wants her. Which I feel like that includes me because I'm a guy who likes her. I feel awful, like I've been stressing her. All of the flirting has seemed very mutual. I'm not going to message her again until I hear back.
But girls, what do you do if you get too much attention from guys? Like what can I do to help her.
>But girls, what do you do if you get too much attention from guys?
I wish I knew
>I'll be thinking of you
Might have been a bit much
>But girls, what do you do if you get too much attention from guys? Like what can I do to help her.
Nothing, she said she'll be okay. There are worse problems to have
>get too much attention from guys
This is literally not a problem. She's creating problems because she likes being stressed or likes drama.
You can't help her, you're just being overbearing.
So why don't you both work? And find time to see each other and at the end if its ment to be and if both of you feel the same move together ? Unless you both are under age I see 0 problem
Sounds like a lot of the guys that hit on her are older and/or less than stellar looking. It's like when a decent looking guy gets only fat chicks. Sure personality is important, but you need someone you're attracted to.
If she said she didn't want a relationship, you should definitely let that angle go. Not saying you're ugly or anything, but it doesn't sound like she's interested.
she gets hit on by all type. Some are decent looking cause she showed me. She's just frustrated because she doesn't like all these people asking her on dates. She told me that she just doesn't want to enter the dating scene.
Is there a reason to not go for it?
I know it's what I want. I'm ok with being rejected. It'll suck, but I know it's ok if someone isn't interested in me.
So I should just fucking do it, right? Why the fuck am I such a pansy?
What are some good adjectives to use for a heterosexual online dating profile?
I am so sick of reading people describe themselves as "down-to-earth" or "laid back." I was even guilty of this shit myself when I was younger.
Question for females, especially non-American females, or American females from the north (but really, anyone can answer).
How do you feel about a guy owning guns? If it's something you're not normally used to, but are willing to get used to, how soon would you want to know?
I feel like this is an important question to ask, for many different reasons. Reasons like
>can differing political viewpoints greatly affect a relationship
>how open do you want your partner to be before diving into a committed relationship
>is taking a girl to the range a fun idea for a first date
American female from the north here. I don't want to live in a house with guns. I would like to go to the range and shoot a gun though, and hunting for animals to eat sounds lovely.
I wouldn't take a girl to the range for a first date. Maybe a second or third date, though.
American woman not from the north, but I'll answer anyway. Guns don't bother me at all. If the guy I'm dating happens to own guys oh well. But, just like all hobbies, do not be fucking obsessed. I'd like to learn about guns and shoot them, but if all you talk about is guns it will get annoying real fast.
I'd like to go to the gun range for a date. To me it sounds fun. As for political differences in a relationship, they don't play a role if both people respect the other's opinions. My SO is vastly different to me when it comes to politics, but it doesn't play a role in our relationship.
European girl here.
I don't particularly like guns and I would feel uncomfortable if my boyfriend had guns on him when we're around. I am okay with owning guns in general, but I don't want to make my kids grow up in a house with guns.
I usually talk about politics way before committing, usually at the 5/6 date. If both partners are reasonable and keep calm during arguments, differing political viewpoints aren't a problem.
I wouldn't like to go to the range and shoot a gun on a first date, tho.
Britfag here as you asked. I would want to experience shooting a gun in a controlled environment, but gun owning would be red flag for me. Depending on what it's used for, if it was used for hunting, especially the kind of hunting where you don't eat the animal afterwards I wouldn't date that guy. If it was for protection I might be concerned but would date, and if it was for idk target practice like archery kind of thing I'd be supportive of that and want to try it out.
I'm up for having different political ideas to a partner and enjoy debating ideas but hunting an animal for fun deeply upsets me. Though I have less of an abhorrence if the corpse isn't wasted in anyway.
>hunting (for food)
Congratulations, you listed literally every legal use of firearms.
If you're against any other use of firearms, that just means you're a normal person who doesn't make a habit of dating coke dealers and pimps.
depends on so many factors. I've personally never had a bj end faster than 15 minutes, and there are also porn outtakes of guys busting after 10 seconds
pic is a poor representation. also you ask this question in a lot of these threads
not in a positive or negative way i guess
honest and up front is best
breathing or fresh
3 months, science says 1 month is pretty conclusive
i can't say i'd notice something unless it was very pronounced, but you're talking about fractions of an inch
physically, no one will die from a lack of sex: However, there's often an emotional intimacy that comes with sex. emotional support is on Maslow's hierarchy of needs, but it's a fair bit higher up that food or shelter
you could try magnums or other "larger" sized condoms. the size difference is usually in girth rather than width
probably over-rating your gf and underrating yourself
is it wise to buy oranges if you don't own a badminton set? because that's about how much sense your question made
I like it when the girl can pull of both. Also the pic you posted is suboptimal as fuck, the "hot" girl looks disgusting and the "cute" one got a "hot" face.
Given your explanation it doesn't sound too bad, would only get weirded out if she believed that the dead people would get their message/if she believed in life after death.
Male here. Being clear and honest about your intentions it is. Helps both to avoid wasting time.
If it's done in a funny way, why not. If anybody bitches unironically, they should just break the fuck up. Also why the fuck would you even still be together?
Sounds like you did everything right, if the reason for her not responding is you, she's cray and not worth your time.
Improve your social skills then. Preferably in settings where you could be more of a sperglord.
Depends on your delivery of the news and how trustworthy you seem for her. It is definitely better to tell her (don't forget your reason) than letting her discover it herself.
Just the opposite but overall the effect is not worth mentioning.
Only if the girlfriend is some insecure bitch aka. not dating material for sane people.
>Basically asked her to leave her bf for me
Whatever goes from this point will fail.
>Why would she keep responding to me about it if she wasnt atleast slightly interested?
Because everybody loves attention and she probably also loves to have another orbiter.
As cute as it was, she's absolutely right, it's something you should've talked about earlier.
If you're together with her, most like it. If you are a weirdo making creepshots to jerk off too ... most wouldn't like it. If it's your mother ... consider changing a thing or two in your life.
I just don't like them, they make me feel uncomfortable. I guess that's pretty normal, when you are around an instrument built to kill.
My mom has some guns and goes shooting/hunting often, and my dad collects knives so I'm used to the idea of owning weapons for your hobbies, but the whole "defending yourself" idea sounds ridiculous to me. I live in a very safe area, and violent crime rates are extremely low, so there's fucking nothing to defend yourself from. If someone goes around with a weapon, he's paranoid or a drug dealer (and even them go around with knives, not guns). Plus if I'm around a person that I don't know well, and he has a weapon, I don't feel safe.
A smaller one than actually caring enough about this to measure.
Perhaps not need in sense of survival but sexual release is damn important for anybody with balanced hormones. Although masturbation counts too obviously.
Slowly and steady. Preferable with some actions beyond talk.
Because you are an insecure fuck, duh. She's your girlfriend despite your looks, so start working on the former.
If you have to think about it, you're dating the wrong people.
Sorry but you're a fucking idiot.
None. Don't have a fucking dating profile. IF you have to be a completely desperate faggot, at least focus on verbs. What you are doesn't matter, only what you do does.
The protection argument is the most idiotic one. For one it increases your chance to die, for other ... if you live at a place where you need protection, dating should be your least concern.
Probably. It would help if we had more details such as how he asked you to hang out, where he suggested, and if he mentioned anyone else coming.
But with the information you've given it sounds like he has.
I meant shouldn't I have a close friend before I have a closer woman ?
He just asked me if I'd like to hang out sometime. His message (after we talked about a couple of random things on FB the morning after we met):
"I enjoyed taking to you last night. We should hangout sometime."
We talked schedules after I agreed and are meeting Wednesday after I get off work. He hasn't said what we are doing or anything or texted me since...
Guys and Girls
I asked my female friend to lunch and she said it's too much like a date
Am I high or is she
>how was it presented
>hey wanna eat at the pizza buffet I'll spot you
I guess the whole "I want to know you better" might have been the wrong choice of words because I just wanted a closer friend due to how infrequently our regular schedules allow us to see each other
How is the path of feeling ready for a OFFICIAL relationship? I'm 18, dating a girl who is 15(she will be 16 in 2 months)
So we were best friends while she had a bf, they broke up, she had a bad relationship(he even cheated her once but she still went on the make things official) however the dude didn't care about her at all and they just had a bad relationship, they break up in augustu and in october we started dating and its 100% great,we are basically bf and gf, her mother, sister and brother know about me, they love me, every single one of our friends know about it too, we even exchanged gifts on christmas, talk with each other 24/7, there is jealously, we have fights and solve them, we are basically a official couple
However we can't see each other often even living 4 minutes away because her DAD can't know about us because if he does, she has to make things official and she tells me she isn't ready for bringing me to her house and having a really serious relationship.
Over 3 months we fought alot because i wanted to make things really official and she didn't. She tells me sometimes she does feels like she wants to bring me to meet her dad but then some anxiety/bad feelings this go away, she tells me she thinks about this alot everyday and still doesnt know how to do, she sometimes doesnt even thinks this feeling of ''not feeling ready/ not suitable for relationship'' will ever pass
Some girl may give me a insight?
I know for a fact she loves me alot so it isnt a excuse
and also she tells me that i'm perfect for her 1000 times better than her ex but she still doesnt feel ready
>I guess the whole "I want to know you better" might have been the wrong choice of words
Yes, oh yes. Should've focused more on food and leisure time.
So what kind of standards and expectations does she have if she haven't found anybody close enough to right guy in 6 years? (Starting dating at 16 sounds like a reasonable age) Though I am Eurofag and from what I know, location can play a bigger part in US of A.
Well not all girls start dating a 16, and even then not finding the right person in 6 years is really normal when you consider them being busy with school, work, friends, and maybe not being very social. If they have higher standards then even more so. Honestly it seems more than normal.
There's always a risk of mood swings anytime you mess with hormones, but the actual incidence is relatively low. The most important thing is that she's under the care of a mental health professional, regardless of whether or not she gets the shot.
Im afraid I have ED. I had it in the past and havent had sex since my diet/exercise/nofap/medication changed.
What are the chances that my best friend who is female and bro tier will let me have sex with her just to see if I can do it. I dont want to get in front of a girl I like and go soft on her.
Ive made out with her before and groped her but its a rare thing. Only happened like twice a year ago. But she lets me rub her ass a lot
Which is why I listed them I don't agree with gun owning for the first two. The question was would I date people who owned, so makes sense to talk about the most common reasons. Answer was depends on the situation.
Well, as I said, only used my personal experience and all the girls I know were busy with that too. VERY busy (my best friend, close friends and current girlfriend are STEMfags) and all had reasonable high standards, still always managed to find some time for boyfriends. Hell, I even know a chick who was a huge loner, still had a boyfriend and fucked.
Incidentally the only virgin girl I know is quite a weirdo but obviously depends with each case. I'd be surprised out if a 22 year old chick never got laid for sure.
Not a girl but it's usually a plus, unless you get whinny and emotional all the time.
Because its a super awkward question and I dont want to make things weird with her unintentionally. Also dont want to go around saying I had/have ED.
Id like to know what im getting into because I go down that road.
btw adding onto that. I frequent reach into her pants and rub her ass when were watching stuff and shes never said anything about it. She only mentions it when I end up giving her a wedgie.
Whats going through her mind. Im partly afraid if I mention it to her she wont let me do it anymore. like as long as we both stay quiet its fine.
I find it unmanly if they never show emotions. Or at the very least immature.
My boyfriend had a tendency to do this for a long time. I think it was more of an insecurity built by his own male peers, not by women's standards.
The amount of shit a guy is given when he cries. Its not even pressure. Its straight up not worth being emasculated by both genders like that. Women treat sensitive guys like pets and guys see them as less of a man. Literally not worth it.
Well, I've never treated a guy who cries like that. I've seen my dad cry, brother cry, boyfriends cry, grandpa cry. I've listened and comforted and accepted their emotional outlet. It's a human reaction. If a girl is treating a man experiencing emotions like a pet, she's probably fucked up too.
i've been dating my best friend for 4 months now, she broke up with her bf 6 months ago he even cheated on her(way before they breaking up though) we are basically in a very serious relationship but not offical because her dad doesnt knows(her mom sister and brother does, and every single of our friends too)
We are very serious but just not official
She tells me she isnt ready because of her past relationship
however she thinks about this every day and doesnt know why she doesnt feel ready because i'm perfect for her and stuff
she is 15, going to be 16
what the fuck is going on?
No. For me it's not a gender thing. I hate whiny people in general. I think it's fucking beautiful if you open up to me about things that get you emotional. But if you whine about how you are always the victim i will loose all respect and feel disgusted by you. And this goes for guys AND girls. I don't need such whimps in my live. If you can't get your shit together there's the door. You can cry over everything (that's worth it) once. But if you don't make an effort to change what's bothering you but instead keep playong victim - absolutely disgusting
If I were going to cry in front of anyone itd be a family member. No one else. And like someone probably died and its more manly tears than bitch tears.
Crying is a sign of lacking emotional fortitude. Sure we all have are weak moments, but its expected that guys tough through them.
Dude, what do you expect, she is a literal child.
The relationship will be a rollercoaster of her being "not sure" of everything. That is what you get when you date a child. I don't give a fuck how mature you think she is.
I'm a 25 year old woman with her own place, a long term relationship, and a career and I can think back less than 2 years ago and give a whole list of the immature shit I've done.
You sound like quite a faggot, sir.
>Crying is a sign of lacking emotional fortitude.
Lack of it is a sign of emotional development. It's all about the balance.
>cant distinguish between bitch tears and manly tears
Youre either a faggot or a woman.
>Lack of it is a sign of emotional development
No crying is a response to being overwhelmed by some emotion. Usually sadness.
Your own thinking is keeping you in this place. My reasoning with people who cry is: "If I were in their position, how would I want to be treated?" And go accordingly to that. If I were crying from stress, a death, etc. and someone told me "Shut up and get on with life." I'd hate that. Who wants to hear that?
It's not a sign of weakness, it's an outlet. That's all it is. A human outlet. If it were unnatural, we wouldn't be biologically equipped with the capability to do so. Society's expectations put you in this paranoid thought process. It is okay to fucking cry.
Fuck the way you think people will generally react to a man crying. It's not about what they think. Associate yourself with people who would give a damn if you cried in front of them. Dissociate with those who don't.
>The relationship will be a rollercoaster of her being "not sure" of everything.
You literally described 60% of my relationship with her however she helped me dealing with addiction and believed in me at the lowest point in my life but i suffer alot with her indecessivines, sometimes i do really think she is the one but other times i think she is too childilsh
Should i wait for her to mature then even if i suffer in the process?
>No crying is a response to being overwhelmed by some emotion
Aka. not being development enough to react like a normal human would because trying to live up to cliches like "men don't cry" and similar stupid ass shit like that.
Speaking from experience on the "no crying" side by the way.
>"Shut up and get on with life."
Id love that. I literally hate to be consoled and am more likely to lash out at people who do. I try really hard not to because I understand they only want to help, but fuck being consoled is annoying as hell.
>it's an outlet
There are many forms of outlets. But letting emotions get the better of you is just a lot of emotional fortitude. Same thing for guys who go into fits of rage and hit walls. Also and outlet. But youre expected to have control over your emotions at all times.
>Fuck the way you think people will generally react to a man crying
its not how I think, its also obvious from watching people. When a guy cries it spreads. Guess what I get to hear about guys who cry. Nothing positive. Either hes a pet or he isnt a man.
>Fuck the way you think people will generally react to a man crying
I expect my friends to force me to move on when Im down because thats how I treat them and thats how I want to be treated. The thought of wallowing in pity disgust me.
Girls: How would you feel if your man didn't want to move in with you? What if he wanted to live separately from you?
A little background: I live in Canada, and here we have this fucked up law where couples who live together for more than 2 years are given similar treatment as married couples. And I mean just straight up dating; boyfriend & girlfriend couples that cohabit with each other. I'm not talking about engaged couples or even common law; common law is a separate thing on its own.
I want to date, but I don't ever want to share a house because of our country's fucked up laws. After just two years, she would be entitled to half my shit.
why even ask the question if you're just going to be like this about it?
I don't give a shit if a guy cries. You do more than I do, so then just stick to your ways then? It clearly doesn't matter to you what anyone else thinks about it.
For either gender:
Would you date a person of an ethnicity/national origin that has been in a history of conflicts with your own?
If you were Indian, would you date a Pakistani?
If you were Japanese, would you date a Korean or Chinese?
If you were French, would you date an English?
Black guy here. Would prefer not to date a white girl.
But I could see it.
And the conflicts you mentioned are extreme cases that involve one side oppressing the other.
Japan vs China was almost even since china did a good job fighting back. Korea was fucked over though. Most of east asia hates japan.
I am Indian, and I probably wouldn't date a Pakistani. My parents lived through some of the main conflicts and I just think it'd be easier not to than to deal with them having trouble accepting my partner. I feel like there'd be something similar on the other person's end too.
She gave it to you for a reason, just go for it.
Start the conversation by pretending to be Regis Philbin. Ask her some inane trivia question with four possible answers, and give her three lifelines. Bitches love this shit.
I mean I was just going to strike up a conversation about the caucus. We talked about politics for like an hour.
Not to get ahead of myself, but does anyone have any experience with long-distance relationships or at least pen-pals?
Can't speak for LDRs, but every penpal I've had has fallen out of contact after a while. My friend was in an LDR for a while, but he lived a couple of hours away and they could meet every few weekends, and he eventually moved down here, so I don't know if that's helpful
I wouldn't date a white girl because when she inevitably slips up and says nigga like every other white person in Australia I'll lose respect for her and start to resent her for it.
Is it weird that I still look at okc profiles even though I'm in a relationship? I don't message anyone, I basically just search for people I'd think are a match and save them in case my current relationship ends.
I was just talking to a girl I haven't talked to in years. Somehow the topic of sex came up and she asked me when the last time I had sex was. She laughed and looked shocked when I said "4.5 years ago". She kept saying "omg you're so innocent!" "How could you go that long?!?" "This is soo crazy!!" "You're joking right????"
What did I do wrong? Like she was shocked. I don't see why this is a big deal.
I moved too fast with this guy and I think I scared him away, I don't know what to do now. (I'm the girl from this thread >>16754103, I think I fucked up everything by sending him that. Can't delete the other thread I posted, sorry)
To make matters worse, I hung out with him and his friends yesterday. What do
Why not use actual statistics?
26% of 18-year-old women are virgins
9% of 22-year-old women are virgins
>based on answers from more than 13,000 Americans in the General Social Survey, 2006 - 2014.
brush your damn teeth
the time that you're spending creating all these "escape plans" could be spent making your current relationship better
stop being an autist
>say something nice to my gf
>she says 'aww that's sweet' or 'aww that's really lovely :)'
Don't know if I'm being a bit imposing. I actually really, really like showering my gf with compliments.