>qt matches me on Tinder
>talk back and forth, lots of stuff in common
>tells me I'm interesting
>ask her when she's free
>"Sunday maybe? I work a lot, I'll let you know!"
>give her my phone number in case my app data cache clears
>"I'll save it :-)"
>not in my matches
>cache has not cleared
Does God hate me? I have her Facebook pulled up. It's been updated as of yesterday, so I can assume she checks it regularly. I can message her, but how long should I wait for her to text me? There's a good chance I'll never see her in real life so I don't really care about it being creepy or whatever. What should I say? What did I do wrong?
Pls /adv/ I'm so lonely.
HEY MAN, but what if I mistyped my number? What if she's already tried to text me? How long should I wait? I know this is just petty online dating shit that I'm taking really seriously but my interaction with people is so limited that if I've been rejected, I want there to be no question. It makes no sense for her to have unmatched me when we got along so well. At what point should I message her?
JOKE'S ON YOU; I don't have her email address.
>tfw made my week when she said yes
lol yeah I prefer the Simpsons imo
I'm gonna wait. She has my number. Perhaps she plans on contacting me.
I'm not too eager to reveal to her that I've doxxed her just because she unmatched me. Trying to not get ahead of myself.
I genuinely mean this in the nicest way, but you have some serious fucking issues that are going to quickly manifest in any relationship you happen to stumble into. This girl has CLEARLY unmatched you, and even if it was a mistake she has your number. There is literally nothing you can do at this point that is not going to make things worse.
Worse than what, no contact? Again, I don't know this person or will we ever meet under unassuming circumstances. There's no consequence to to seeking confirmation in that regard.
I don't have issues, I'm just lonely ~_~
Dude just text her right now and say hey. If she doesn't respond by tomorrow then you can safely assume she's simply not interested. I get that it's confusing, I don't understand why women do this shit either, but bitches gonna be bitches and being straightforward is the only way to get a solid answer out of a woman.
Welcome to the real world. It happens all the time. You are chatting with a girl, you get along great, everything is peachy. And suddenly she disappears on you. You just shrug it off and move on.
I'm gonna wait until Saturday if she plans on texting me. We agreed to meet potentially meet Sunday and that she would update me on her work schedule sometime this weekend. Perhaps I made a typo when I typed out my number? Again, I don't have her number and can't message her without revealing that I've doxxed her. :/
It's online dating! It's the opposite of the real world, man.
Ok yes I have issues but not in a codependency/creeper type way. I'm just confused and lonely. Agreeable?
>implying any girl would want to date any poster on the Cantonese finger puppet forum
I'm a 21 KV and even I can tell you're coming off as extremely desperate and clingy. It's a perfect formula to creep women out especially in online dating. If you can't fucking wait until she texts you, what do you think she'll think of you? She'll think she's been your only match, your only chance and that you do nothing else of your life. And by the way, her unmatching you is quite normal in online dating and you should get used to it. There's a reason I quit online dating, no matter how well you think your conversations go, it doesn't mean anything until you finally meet up IRL. She just has to unmatch or not reply to texts and then boom, you no longer exist. On tinder you either have to look real good or be quite experienced with dating online or IRL. If it's not your case, prepare for a long series of disappointments.
Yeah. I still plan on contacting her but I've deleted my account since. Not healthy for someone like me.:/
Just figured I would leave it up to her whether or not she wanted to text me. It's worked other times in telling girls to "just text me" or whatever and getting phone numbers without being too forward. Mind you, it was one of the more pleasant conversations I've had online dating wise. I didn't have any reason to think she wouldn't.
Granted my self-awareness, however lacking, I really haven't yet. Though I realize I would be if I messaged her prematurely when she planned on texting me between today and tomorrow.
>Ok yes I have issues but not in a codependency/creeper type way.
>looking up her Facebook and messaging her after she unmtached you
Yeah, totally not creepy that you found her Facebook.
Dude, I do the same thing and sometimes look them up on Facebook, but I never go full creeper and fucking message them there if they're not into me.
"But what does being unmtached mean?"
She's clearly not into you.
Actually, dude, go ahead and message her. That way, you can establish yourself as the creepy guy that girls will always avoid and thus allowing the actual decent guys a chance with them. Thanks, OP!
>Actually, dude, go ahead and message her. That way, you can establish yourself as the creepy guy that girls will always avoid and thus allowing the actual decent guys a chance with them. Thanks, OP!
You dropped your hat, anon.
Don't feel bad OP.
I'm too sweet and naive for Tinder myself, though far from a virgin haha. My ego simply can't handle all the beatings it'd take before I got to a decent dude. I'd suggest avoiding it, it's asking for trouble.
Yeah, I can't deal.:/ Deleted my account this morning. I think I'm just shit at the whole online dating thing, which is weird seeing as how most of my friends I'm in daily communication with are just online friends I've never met irl.
>tfw I realize how sad that is
Whatever, I'll just die alone. It's fine.:^)
first season Simpsons animation... hah. Jesus.
Chicks that pull disappearing acts aren't worth your time anyway. Seriously man, you're being too hard on yourself, you're only 19. It'll be fine. While your stock rises, mine is rapidly declining. The playing field will be even soon enough, cut yourself some slack in the meantime.
I mean, I was joking, but I kind of wasn't. I think being in a relationship at all is maybe not for me. I have some great longtime friends, but there's been countless instances in which I've straight up declined girls' advances/interest in me for whatever petty reason I could think of.
Now I have no close friends and I'm seeking validation in the form of a relationship, I guess. I'm not depressed and I find fulfillment in plenty other things, I'd just like someone, ya know? Not even in a romantic/sexual way necessarily. Just some relief from intrinsic solitude.
I just need to be alone, maybe. Thanks for your kind words.
Me, cause it does. I have a rooted S5 running a boeffla 3.0 beta kernel and an unofficial Cyanogenmod 13.0 build. Updates and wipes of cache and dalvik cache are are pretty much weekly.
I mean she's probably going to block me anyways, right? Does it make much of a difference?
>waking up alone
>to get ready for work
>it's my birthday
Thanks for your words, anon.
m8 it's awful. This girl is like an 8-9/10 and we talked for two hours and agreed on a time for a date and then she just disappears on me.
>How did it go OP?
It hasn't. She hasn't read it I think because she hasn't responded and I'm still not blocked.
When you give a woman your number you are pretty much saying you're free all the time and don't have a schedule, this is a huge turn off for women because it means you're not using your full potential to make them bucks.
Live and learn, get her number next time. Move on Asap.
This message was so beta and pathetic, I can't believe what I'm reading. It's no wonder you're single and lonely - you really need to rethink your approach from here on out if you think that's anywhere near not creepy.
You do realize there's a "filtered" folder where most of your Facebook messages from people that aren't your friends go, right? Seriously, check it out. Go to that message icon at the top right, click "see all," and then when you're in the message area, go to the "More" dropdown menu. You'll see the filtered messages.
The one positive fact here is that most people don't know about this section, so she may never see your cringeworthy message.
You really shouldn't have said anything at all, dude. The fact that she disappeared on you was a bad sign in the first place, and a sign that she wasn't interested. You were grasping at straws here already.
The biggest part of dating is learning when to cut your losses, and not taking rejection too hard. I know that's hard to swallow when you're just 19 and don't have any experience, but if you treat women as your one source of self-esteem, you're gonna have a bad time.
Yeah, but we're not talking about real life here, man. I'm a virgin, I'm not dateless; I'm not completely clueless. I don't know this person. I know she's seven miles away, works at an Adidas outlet, and is working towards an associates of forensic science at the same school I'm at. Of 53,000 people. We're literally never going to see each other, and if we did we would never recognize each other.
The risk/reward here is the highly off chance of her having mistakenly unmatched me/texted the wrong number or striking out with a girl and exacerbating my own embarrassment. And quite honestly, the latter, more likely possibility doesn't mean that much to me anyways, because she doesn't mean that much to me. Does that make sense? I don't even know why I typed this out.
BOTTOM LINE; I'M LONELY AND WANT TO DIE
What? We ARE talking about real life. Maybe not my real life, but yours.
I went to a school of 58,000 as a freshman, and you know how fucking frequent it was for me to run into people I simply saw on Facebook all the time, much less something like Tinder? (Tinder didn't exist when I was in school but it would have been nuts, given that I see Tinder matches in Las Fucking Vegas on a frequent basis.)
You might run into this girl at a party, you might run into her and her friends, and she's going to drop the "this dude is a fuckin' weirdo" line to her friends and you'll be in bad shape. Even if you DON'T, it's just bad fucking practice to do something that's already awkward as fuck, and not understand why it's weird.
You're lonely and getting ALL of your validation from some girl she's saying she's going to go on a date with you? That's why women back out. The expectations are too huge. Plus, you have no clue why she unmatched you and disappeared, and now you're acting like it's the end of the world.
You need to work on finding some things in your life that make you feel fulfilled that aren't women.
Yeah but idc.
lol m8 I don't even give a shit. I'm transferring after this semester anyways. I don't go to parties, I don't talk to anyone outside work, I'm a fulltime student and I'm done with class everyday by nine in the morning. Do you understand what that's like? I have nothing to lose in embarrassing myself.
I'm not gonna feel bad over some bullshit that I don't know anything about anyways. My life is not real life.
Alright, so here's my plan. There's four Adidas outlets within a reasonable distance that she could be working, two within her direct vicinity. I call them tomorrow and say that I'm looking for a particular associate that I discussed online pricing with for some shoes. I mention her name and they either tell me there's no one by that name that works here or that she's not working right now. If the former, call the next store. Latter, ask when she'll be on the clock. Thought?
uh, loneliness. It's just hypothetical. I'm not going to so it, I'm just interested to know if I could pull it off desu. Rom com shit.
What other response would I even have lmfao.
you've been talking about it for two days, stop being a pussy and being a creep and just message her, be direct. and then move on. you will always be a virgin if you have that attitude and if you make no effort to make yourself appealing, don't blame everyone else but yourself
m8 I know that wtf. At what point in the thread did I blame anyone but myself? I already messaged her >>16748977 and probably got caught in the message filter. p sure adding her would be taking it too far.
Obvi. I'm not good looking enough for it to be perceived any other way, mind you. It's just an interesting idea to entertain.
>I'm not good looking enough for it to be perceived any other way, mind you.
no one who has ever lived is good looking enough for that. you're a stupid, stupid bastard
>It's just an interesting idea to entertain.
and a creep.
hey look at this meme pic
nigga wtf makes you think I'm not a beta?
Friend request pending. Nothing to report. Still lonely.
UPDATE: I believe the request was denied, though I'm not blocked and can still see her page. The "Add Friend" button is gone, so I'm gonna assume that this is a new spam filter feature or she updated her account settings. idk