/adv/, is it normal for guys (including fwbs) to always express that they want to impregnate me?
I'm 19 and have been with 3 guys in the past, including my boyfriend who I've been seeing for a little over a year and am deeply in love with. We're also discussing marriage.
Before I met my bf, I had a fwb type relationship centered around sex with on real emotional attachment. However, he would often try to slip the condom off without me noticing and make little comments about how much he wanted to "make me a mommy." I noped out of this pretty fast.
I also had a one night stand in the past tell me that our babies would be adorable.
My boyfriend often makes not-serious-but-serious jokes about wanting to get me pregnant as well. He talks about possible baby names at least once a day. To remind you, I am only 19, although he is older with a steady job, and am in college, nowhere near the point of wanting to have kids. (He's 26).
Is this normal? I do not want a bun in my oven.
In your boyfriends case, a solid maybe. Some guys are more likely than others, and he's at the age where it kind of makes sense for some guys to be thinking about to a degree (unless he's pushing too hard).
In every other case: No.
The common denominator is you here. Sounds like you might be attracted to a certain type or else do something to attract them to you.
I can understand jerking off to it in porn and hentai, because it's a fantasy and at the end of the day there are no consequences, but the guy slipping off the condom is fucked up. What, does he WANT to have to pay child support? That's just retarded. I'm glad you noped out of that one, OP.
But as for OP's boyfriend, I think he's acting well within normal limits; he's just thinking about the future. OP just discuss it with him. Figure out what your goals are.
Yeah the slipping off the condom is fucked up, but sometimes dirty talk about your fetish slips out.
It's one of our core biological imperatives. I wouldn't even call it a fetish.
>Is anyone who has this fetish willing to explain? I'm curious.
It is the entire reason people have sex. It is literally the only form of sex that could NOT be considered a "fetish." Holy fucking shit, the Christians really were right about mainstream birth control. One generation in, and we've literally completely forgotten why we have sex
If a guy expresses a desire to have babies with you he's either bullshitting because he thinks that's what women want to hear (willingness to commit) or he genuinely wants to start a family.
Either way you're way too young and I don't recommend it, but you should have a serious conversation with your boyfriend about this if he keeps bringing it up.
Yeah, pretty fucked up. I don't even understand because he was also seeing other girls and had a really shitty job. (Not being mean, the place was shitty and got robbed at gunpoint. Also minimum wage).
I definitely want to have babies with my boyfriend at some point. I admittedly talk about baby names a lot, too. He is my sunshine and we're talking about marriage. Just no baby now pls.
>/adv/, is it normal for guys (including fwbs) to always express that they want to impregnate me?
Not really, no.
I think that guys who try to impregnate women without the woman's knowledge are either doing it for a personal sense of power/potency, or because they're trying to ensure that the woman is locked into a relationship with them. There are a lot of women who deliberately try to get pregnant for that second reason.
And you've told him this yes? If you haven't it'd be good to make sure he knows that envision a future with kids with him, but that you absolutely don't want a kid before you finish school.
I have an impregnation fetish and I'm not into kids. Its about power.
OP make sure you're on redundant birth control - your bf sounds like a bastard. Like hasn't he heard of the concept of consent?
My bf isn't the one who tried to sneakily slip the condom off! This was with a fwb I had before I met my boyfriend. But yeah, having sex with him more than once was not my smartest move.
But the power thing definitely makes sense. And since I'm corny, having sex because you love each other and want to make the babies would be super romantic as well.
We've definitely have talked about it before and agree that kids wouldn't be a good idea right now. But we also made a plan of sorts just in case my birth control decides to fail us. Since I have Nexplanon, which is the kind implanted in the arm, I'm pretty sure we're fine for now (I hope).
It's actually not as uncommon as you think. I've been with a few guys who told me they wanted to knock me up. My current bf (2 years together) has actually purposefully timed our sex and when he comes inside me around my cycle just to get me pregnant. It didn't work, but it's a pretty common thing for a lot of guys to want to impregnate a girl, especially if you're in a long term relationship.
If I were a girl with good genes and wanted brats, I'd get knocked up at 25 max.