Has anyone lost their virginity to a prostitute?
Im 28 and strongly considering it because my lack of experience makes me feel less confident with women and more inclined to shy away from them even when I have a good feeling that they are attracted to me.
it depends on how you view sex.
some people come out of it devastated. they feel dirty and even more pathetic than they did previously. the realization that they actually had to pay for sex comes forward. another contributing factor is that sex, while great, is just sex. this fantasy that having sex will be the end-all solution to all your problems is shattered. it almost feels unfulfilling because you had such high expectations.
or you come out of it smiling. happy that this gigantic weight is off your shoulders and that this milestone in life is finally complete. you have a more realistic perspective on sex and feel less pressure when it comes to romantic/potentially romantic situations.
your interpretation after the act depends on you.
also don't get arrested you faggot.
Go for it, as long as you don't succumb to any misguided feelings of shame or anything, she looks like a fun time!
Yup, did it at 19.
Was a really good experience and helped me get over my insecurities.
Ask me anything you like.
I did, but she misunderstood me at first because I said "this is my first time doing this" so she assumed it was my first time with a prostitute.
After she noticed how nervous and awkward I was as soon as we got on the bed she asked if I've ever done anything with a girl before, I told her no, we had a little laugh about it, she seemed honestly surprised (not sure if she was faking it to make me feel better) and I basically told her I'd like her to show me the ropes which she did very enthusiastically.
Honestly, if it's your first time always make sure to let the escort know.
Also, you're pretty much always expected to tell her what in particular you'd like to do together, so be prepared for that.
1 hour is more than enough for your first time, and that's including foreplay, blowjob, different positions, cuddling etc, even if your refractory period is longer than average.
Why does everyone think that fucking a prostitute will magically solve every problem they have with women? It's just going to make you feel worse, knowing that you can't get sex without paying for it.
But hey, it's your life. Do what you want, just don't come back and whine about it.
>decoy phone number and hotel room.
Jesus Christ, get your shit together America. 3 hours is still way too much.
>I've never done [thing] but let me be an expert on it
Losing their virginity helps a lot of guys out, even if it's with a prostitute.
>It's just going to make you feel worse, knowing that you can't get sex without paying for it.
Maybe for some people, others don't think in those terms and don't give a fuck.
If OP is already 28 he certainly won't be thinking in those terms.
>can't get sex without paying for it
for me this is not an issue. many women have been attracted to me in the past but i end up shying away to the point that they give up on me and move on.
i would love to take it further with them but then i have to reveal my virgin status and see them again.
my main hold back is coming out as a 28 year old virgin to women who have experience where as i have 0 experience.
>I've never done [thing] but let me be an expert on it
I haven't done it, but I've been here for years, and I've heard countless guys talk about how they regret it for a variety of reasons, the biggest being that it didn't change anything. When you lose your virginity, you're still the same person you were before. The realisation that you had to pay for sex and nothing has changed is not a good realisation when you already lack confidence and self esteem.
This. Prostitutes will give you sex.
They will NOT give you the confidence to deal with women. That takes practice talking to women.
It's the difference between proper diet and exercise, and just taking a handful of laxatives. Sure, you'll lose weight either way, but with the laxatives, all you wind up with is a lot of shit.
>They will NOT give you the confidence to deal with women
Yes they will.
Losing your virginity is like lifting a huge weight off a man's shoulders and you also learn that sex isn't that big of a deal.
Of course, you still need to practice with regular women, but losing your virginity with a prostitute definitely helps.
Plus it feels good.
If you've been here for years you'd also hear countless guys saying that they enjoyed it and that it helped them.
>If you've been here for years you'd also hear countless guys saying that they enjoyed it and that it helped them.
Sure, but I hear significantly more guys say it hurt them than helped.
I don't have a personal agenda in this. I have no reason to push one option over the other. I'm just warning OP based on something I've seen in my time here. If he's going to make a decision, he needs to be fully informed of everything that could happen, good or bad, and I'm just helping him make a fully informed decision. I really don't care what he does, as long as he doesn't come back and whine that he's spiralled into depression since or whatever. It doesn't affect me what his decision is.
There are often threads on here with male anons describing how pathetic and low they felt after paying a prostitute to take their virginity. That it didn't help them feel more confident or approach women, it only made them more depressed in the end.
Not saying it can't help some virgin anons, but it could also be a big mistake and something OP could regret later.
I honestly don't think most women care that much about whether or not the guy is a virgin. They might even find it cute. Just tell them when the times comes, that you're maybe a bit nervous and haven't done it for a long time(or never if you want to be completely honest)
>implying a girlfriend is not exactly the same thing
modern day females have as much experience as prostitutes and drain your wallet just like prostitutes.
I've heard countless women say they don't want to date "a spring chicken". When you're older, women expect a certain level of experience in relationships and sex. So when they hear you've never had a girlfriend nor have had sex... It's not good. Male virginity is not coveted like female virginity is.
Yeah but unlike prostitutes they do other things with you that don't involve having sex, which is why most guys aren't content just fapping or paying a prostitue once a week. They want a girlfriend. .
i think i would regret turning 30 and never having sex more than paying for sex. at my age its just straight up weird not to have any experience which is why i dont feel ready to try and get a girlfriend. women my age have more expectations in terms of experience and whatnot.
this, women are epic whores these days which makes them all the more intimidating.
No, you're mistaken. It's not the virginity that's the problem, it's the reasons why a guy is a virgin that's the problem. Losing your virginity to a prostitute doesn't change those reasons, and it's not going to fix OP's life or the lives of other guys in his shoes.
My advice: if you can, do it without the condom.
I mean, get her checked, get mefical papers from her, etc. You don't want to catch shit, after all.
But if it's safe - go for it without the gum. It's 100x better.
Then again - quality product means big cash.
Girls r more pleased if u loose their virginity to them, making u look like less of a manwhore. If u want to fuck someone who won't give a shit bout u then it sort of lowers ur confidence as well.
>I honestly don't think most women care that much about whether or not the guy is a virgin. They might even find it cute.
Yeah, when you're both 16.
OP is 28, he should get it over and done with already since it's clearly weighing over him.
okay show me women that are still virgins pass the age of 15 and that want to take turns paying for dates.this is the only way I can think of a woman as more then just a prostitute.
If it wasn't for that hole between your legs I totally would. Unfortunately I don't like dicks and seem to be hardwired to love the pussy. Too bad they're attached to retarded as fuck human units.
I did it and it was a positive experience.
It came at the tail end of a lot of self improvement though. I was in a position where I could get girls interested, but I knew that I had a mental block when it came to sexual intimacy, and this was preventing me from entering relationships with women.
I booked an escort, she was 38. She came round to my flat, we had a chat. I think my age took her off guard cause I had to coax her into it. I think it was good to go with an older woman, she was quite understanding.
The journey wasn't over after that, it took me another 7-8 months to actually have my first (proper) kiss, and to have sex with a non-sex worker. It opened a lot of doors for me though. It allowed me to view myself as a sexual being, and to act as a sexual being without second guessing myself.
23 when I lost it. 25 now, just had my first year anniversary with the 3rd girl I ever had sex with (2nd girl I had sex with who wasn'tgetting paid). So much changed for me so fast.
Op isn't talking about escorts. If he had the money for one of those he could get a gf just from the size of his disposable income.
OP clearly stated a prostitute, those things are dirty.
No it isn't.
I'm also from the UK, I have a escort I use monthly because I can afford the £300 one hour session.
I once used a prostitute, £30 for half an hour... never again.
You get what you pay for.
An escort in many countries means a legal 'high level prostitute'. Someone you pay to come to your home. They're usually registered, take regular tests and have their own personal driver.
Yes it is dumbfuck.
Go to Adultwork, every prostitute is an escort, the term is interchangeable.
Your 300 hour session is just a high-class prostitute and a fucking rip-off seeing how you can get amazing girls at 120 an hour.
Its the current year!
Here in England it works like this;
>Escort = someone who does not display her profession to the general public; nor does she usually work in an institution like a brothel, although she may be employed by an escort agency.
>Prostitute = solicits customers from a public place, most commonly a street, while waiting at street corners or walking alongside a street, but also other public places such as parks, benches, etc.
I lost my virginity to a prostitute at 23. The sex was pretty shit, but it was definitely beneficial
1. I realized that sex really wasn't the end-all-be-all. It stopped being this big goal for me, and in turn I became a lot less desperate about it. Girls can sense desperation, and its a huge turnoff
2. I got my awkward first time out of the way. The next time I was with a girl, I managed to avoid all the telltale virgin signs.
Don't listen to the femanons who have no idea what it's like to be a male virgin over the age of 18 or males so whipped that they feel bad about paying for sex despite prostitution being the world's oldest profession and the fact that in many cultures it was the norm for fathers to send their sons to the working girl in order to get the awkward first time over and done with.
You clearly can't understand what's being said and can't make an argument without resorting to ad hominem straight away.
Get fucked cunt, this thread isn't for you anyway.
>Your naivety is showing, you can find prostitutes on any street in a UK city.
No, you really can't, not up North at least.
Most girls have Adultwork profiles nowadays and everything is kept discrete.
Every escort is a prostitute but not every prostitute can be an escort. All of them vary in quality, even among escorts.
>complains about logical fallacies
>uses them himself
I've always been a bit of an outsider. I've posted on 4chan since I was 15/16, but I always managed to befriend good people, cooler than myself who fell into sex and relationships naturally. I coasted between a couple of groups, and because of that, despite the fact that no one ever saw me kiss a girl, I could maintain some kind of illusion that it was a thing I potentially did. I kept up this charade throughout my early twenties. Luckily I didn't have anyone around me who would push me into admitting I was a kissless virgin.
That awful feeling that comes when people start talking about relationships, or sex, and you feel you have to micromanage your behaviour, "Am I acting nervous? Am I saying too much? Am I saying too little?". That awful feeling that comes when some dumfuck says "I've never seen you with a girl whats that all about?". I am so glad I left that behind. And while I can't say for certain that having a session with an escort was the one thing that helped, I do know that it was part of a process where I pushed myself out of my comfort zone and forced myself to engage with someone sexually - which I had never got close to before, most intimate I'd been was holding hands with some drunk girl when I was 17.
>If I keep calling them cunt maybe they'll be upset!
Either way. I think OP should go for it. He seems to have his mind set.
When you have the ability to seduce anyone, male or female it gets pretty boring, thrill of the hunt and all
Sex in itself is not particularly fantastic either, the overwhelming majority of people have it
I would rather spend 10 minutes jerking off then go back to playing videogames and enjoying my own time laughing at you people
>he doesn't know how to check for samefag
Apply yourself, redditor
if you're gonna do it make sure you pay enough to get it done right, like we're talking maybe a few grand if you can get the cash together
if you get like a $600 trick or something like that all that pent up virginal sexual anxiety is probably going to mean you're gonna either prematurley ejaculate or have trouble getting it up. Which is fine, basically that's how every guy's first time is, but if you didn't pay her that much she's just gonna clean up and leave as soon as you bust and it'll probably mostly suck.
you gotta make sure you paid the girl enough to basically keep going at it until you actually unwind and start enjoying yourself
Alternate femanon perspective - I have twice thrown myself at dorky shy virgin guys after way too many dates, movie hangouts, and makeout sessions with no attempts to take it further. First guy couldn't get it up and the second guy had a weird panic attack when I tried to give him a blow job. Both times I left feeling like an ugly piece of shit.
So (to be fair) there is the possibility that I am an ugly piece of shit, but since when have guys not fucked a girl that they have spent 8 dates spending time & money on.
If you have a moral hang up then it might fuck with your head as previously mentioned but if you don't it might stop you from hurting some girls feeling when she is practically begging you to to fuck her.
P.S NEVER tell a woman you paid for sex, enjoyed fucking ugly girls, or think anyone she knows is hotter than her
Lol, why would you feel insecure when you know exactly what they couldn't get it up, OP is fucking this escort anyway but certainly not in order to avoid hurting some insecure girl feeling, whatever
This is actually what drove me to it.
I was annoyed at a girl for ditching me. we'd had such sweet times together, and I was convinced that we were going to end up together.I got way too attached and I thought things would escalate naturally. Then she cut me off.
I really resented her. Then I thought a little about what was actually in it for her. We were texting, hanging out, she invited me round, I met her friends, I was alone with her in her bedroom. She wanted sex and excitement and I was too hungup on my bullshit intimacy complex and how this girl was going to magically cure me of it that I never considered what she wanted. I mean, I knew what she wanted, but I didn't feel the total weight of it and how it might ultimately push her away from me.
OP I'm 28 also and a KV. I could get ugly/fat chicks with ease because I'm also ugly and fat but don't really want that. So the only way a guy like me is going to get any woman halfway decent is to spend years of pain and suffering to fix my body or to pay for a banging hot prostitute. I feel your pain.
>get fat chicks
You want to know something funny?
There are more fit girls than ever in my area now and all the ugly/fat chicks are taken.
I'm really stuck. I have the personality and looks of a brick in the wall.
I wish I could get a fit girlfriend. They look at men like me with disgust. Rightfully so, of course. Which is why I want a whore so badly so my first time will at least be someone I'm physically attracted to and not someone I had to settle for because they were the best I could do (which isn't very good)