How do you raise your kids in a manner that will make them dependent on you?
I want my son or daughter to be my best friend an always live at or close to home, how do I accomplish this?
Also would it be okay to force barbie play on my son or truck play on my daughter so that they have an appreciation for the opposite gender's toys?
>force children to play with opposite gender toys because muh liberalism
>not understanding how fucking hypocritical this is
you're fucking retarded. don't have children for everyone else's sake.
I hope this is bait
You need to be their parent, not a BFF
>would it be okay to force barbie play on my son or truck play on my daughter so that they have an appreciation for the opposite gender's toys?
What's wrong with a parent wanting their hild to be their best friend?
Your kids cant be your friends thats a fact
Remember when raising a kid, your a parent before anything and you goal as a parent is to make sure that little brat becomes strong enough for the real world and educate him properly no just in general topics but make sure hes not a fucking kid with autism
He can be you friend when he get older (25+ yrs old and forward) but before that remember that hes not you friend, hes you son and your a parent.
The toy thing i think is stupid let the kids be kids let em play with whatever they wanna play (that is actually made for their age)
>make them dependent on you?
You are playing a dangerous game with their fragile self-confidence. This could affect them for life - at college, in relationships (if they have any), and at work. Help them become confident independent adults.
As for the toys, they will pretty soon express what they like, no matter what you do.
Your job is to protect your child from his/her own stupid decisions. This will often make them quite angry at you, because they don't understand yet that their decisions are stupid. To them, their logic is sound, and you're an unfair oppressor.
But if you don't oppress, your kids will trainwreck their own lives while you stand on the sidelines, smiling at them and saying "aw honey, I'm sorry it didn't work out, they just don't understand you!" That's if they don't accidentally die before they even reach their teens, because you think it's important for them to be "free" and learn things for themselves.
Parenting is a position of leadership, even to the point of total dictatorship and brainwashing. And like any position of leadership, you can never be effective if you're afraid of being disliked. You pretty much have to teach them all the ins and outs of being a human being. People don't know this stuff automatically. You've got a tough job ahead of you. It's not the same as adopting a pet.
If you've done your job really, really well, they will hate you until their mid-twenties, and finally thank you around their fortieth birthday when they realize their life is going much better than their friends from high school.
I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with being close to your kid, but it's not something you can force upon them. I'm very close to my mother, without her having to put much effort into it. We get along, share similar interests, etc. We're just lucky. If she had raised me in the way that OP wants to, I'd probably run like hell.
This is all nonsense. I was very close to my mom when I was 15+, and considered her my best friend, but that doesn't mean she stopped being a parent. She still took care of me and prepared me for the world (I finished school early, got my shit together, and moved out at 18 on my own). We just happened to bond over the same things. And when she was that age, she was close to my grandmother (before she died, we were all close). We'd take the train to NYC on the weekends, hang out in bookstores, spend cold mornings drinking coffee and going on walks with the dogs, watch movies, bake together, etc. Now that I'm older and married, we still hang out once a week, make a ton of awesome food, and marathon movies. When the weather gets better, we'll get back to hiking and doing some outdoor DIY shit.
I swear, people are so used to seeing shitty parents that try to force bonds like this upon their kids that they don't seem to get that families like this can exist in a natural, healthy way.
I would have, if he wasn't a violent sociopath. He's part of the reason why my mother and I are close; he did horrible things to me and my family, and she was the only person that sacrificed everything to take me away from him. His side of the family, if people are having problems, you just sweep it under the rug and look the other way. My mom wouldn't have any of that.
Under different circumstances, if he were a good person capable of remorse or empathy, I think I probably would.
I don't really feel like I need one, especially not a stranger. My mother remarried to a younger guy, my husband's best friend, and we get along well. He always does nice, thoughtful things for us and treats me like an actual daughter. It feels like a complete family now.