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>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
Some friends and I were talking about kids and marriage. Opinions seemed to generally be no marriage ever, or go for marriage when your relationship is ready for it.
When I gave my opinion people looked at me like I was weird, because I think the only point of marriage is to help create a stable family dynamic so I'd only get married when we were ready to start having children, and not a day before. Is it really that odd?
How you feel isn't odd just a minority.
I personally think marriage is about the two people getting married loving each other so much to where they want to be with each other forever.
Just because how you feel isn't the same as your friends, it doesn't make it wrong anon.
Hope I helped.
What do I do /adv/? I think I'm truly in love with an amazing girl for the first time in my life. I have a lot of feelings and thoughts that I can't explain. All the songs make sense in a weird way, I saw an old thread where an anon posted that then it just all fell into place and it felt like I became part of an emotional landslide.
>25 year old male spending $1,300 a month on a 2 bedroom apartment
>it's all that was available
>am handling it but its a heavy weight on my shoulders
>girlfriend asks to live with me
>doesn't want to pay rent
Am I being an asshole? If she covered even 1/4rd of it, my life would be so much easier. Am I a bad boyfriend for asking her to chip in?
Also: if it makes a difference and it likely does, my monthly income is $3,200, hers is $2,500. If she gave me $300 a month to live here, it would dramatically change things. She currently lives with her parents (for free).
>wants to live in your apartment
>doesnt want to contribute
Yeah that's fucking bullshit. It would be one thing if she was advocating you guys moved into a cheaper apartment, but she wants to just skip any responsibility.
If it's going to be her home, it's supposed to be her responsibility too.
NO YOU ARE NOT
Anon. If someone decides to live in your home, and you did not spawn them, they contribute.
That pussy isn't helping your bank account, man. And if she will not pay rent then she doesn't really want to live with you for the right reasons.
I can't imagine what she's doing with the rest of her money.
You would want to make that clear early on
It is a little strange, as obviously people marry without ever having kids. But it's an opinion, so...whatever.
Ask her out. Don't fucking tell her the first thing. Just ask her out on a date, to dinner or to go for a long walk or to some fun event or fuckin' something. Don't not ask her.
That seems perfectly reasonable. Or like, she could cover other expenses? If you guys aren't married it seems fair that you'd both contribute.
It depends on the woman. You have to talk with her about it. Don't just have expectation in your head but not inform her. I know a girl who was fine with not having plans for marriage as long as her bf was fine with her sleeping around. I personally treat dating as a test run for marriage.
Bottom line: talk to her about it.
Had a great first date. She told me she's reading s book I mentioned I liked so we could talk about it.
But when should I schedule the next date? How frequent should they be? I'd see her whenever she wants, but that's why I want advice. Left to my own devices I'd overdo it.
Tl;dr: Is one week too short a time for a second date?
>Ask her out. Don't fucking tell her the first thing. Just ask her out on a date, to dinner or to go for a long walk or to some fun event or fuckin' something. Don't not ask her.
She's already my girlfriend, sorry that wasn't mentioned.
about a month and a half. I feel as though we've been dating for a much longer time though. We've already gone through the motions (gone on dates, met each others families, etc.). I'm just young and in love (both of us are 18), something I've never been before.
My girlfriend is amazing, but I can't climax to her giving me oral sex and it kills her. We're abstaining from actual sex at least for now, so oral and such is the only option for now. She's amazing and I want her to be happy, but she blames herself for me not climaxing. I don't "death grip" my dick and I don't wank every day, but I do take 70mg Vyvanse. Could this be what's causing the issue, or could it be something else? Also, are there any ways to make me climax more easily?
Going through a divorce after my wife cheated. Separated for six months and she has my son. Really looking fo female companionship(even if it's just someone to talk to) but I don't want it to be twisted and used against me.
As someone who's paid a gf's rent for years, with two different girls... Don't do it. Thats for married people. You aren't guaranteed to be together forever, if you were, you would already be married with children. You cant demand rent reimbursement after you two break up.
Do girls usually want some sort of friendship before going into a relationship? [spoiler]Also, does being nice helps in anything at all? I'm not one of those "WAH I'M A NICE GUY WHY WOMAN WON'T DATE ME *tips fedora*" but I try to be cool around people and stuff.[/spoiler]
>Do girls usually want some sort of friendship before going into a relationship?
I like it, but it's not a requirement
>Also, does being nice helps in anything at all?
You mean is it a good thing to be a good person? Of course it is. I don't want a saint, but I don't want an asshole either. Only girls under 21 and girls with issues want a 'bad boy'
i recently found out about the 'ugly friend' thing and i have to say it is the most psychotic thing i have ever heard. how do you resolve that shit in your heads? are any of you the friend, how do you deal with that?
women will always have one (maybe more depending on size) much uglier girls in their friend circle. this is so that when they go out, the pretty ones look better in comparison to their ugly friend. but its not like they just happened to have this particular friend, ofc in any group someone is going to be the ugliest, but they specifically get this one poor girl just to make them look better. every girl ive spoken to about this substantiates this
no we dont, i have like 6 friends and were all part of the group. no one is kept around just for shitting or to make us look better or whatever
Usually? Sometimes dude. Heres something you need to understand, women are not all the same. Not even close. Figure out one and you've learned next to nothing about the rest.
Sounds like you should fucking ask
>i want to take action without consequences
Deal with it, there is never an easy out.
Give her directions
Try different positions
Immerse yourself in the sounds and feel of her body
I have trouble cumming from oral too, I usually have to be the one thrusting, and even then...
One week, even less is fine. Ask her. Communicate.
>women will always have one (maybe more depending on size) much uglier girls in their friend circle. this is so that when they go out, the pretty ones look better in comparison to their ugly friend. but its not like they just happened to have this particular friend, ofc in any group someone is going to be the ugliest, but they specifically get this one poor girl just to make them look better. every girl ive spoken to about this substantiates this
That only happens with younger girls and 'party girls', and even within the 'prettier' girls, there is other backstabbing going on. Normal girls don't pull that catty shit, and if girls you've asked have agreed it happens, then you keep shit company.
>Met girl in college with similar interests
>Starts talking to her
>She mentions she's a professional X
>Mentions I went to school with a pro X as well
>They are both best friends
>She probably asked her about how I was at school
>Don't know what she could've mentioned about me. Probably how much of a mess I was in Elementary/Middle school
>I could have mentioned one my (female) best friend went with her to school and she would have said I was a really cool guy.
Did I fuck up? Did I do a world record ruining my chance to hang out with the only girl with similar interests than I do at college?
Shitting commenses now
Why are you asking when it doesnt make a difference then? We're here to give advice, not answer your questions that lack all context and information.
You know what
Yeah, she found him attractive.
It doesnt mean she doesnt find you attractive, it also doesn't mean he has a chance
It doesnt mean she wants you to make a move, and it also doesnt mean you do or dont have a chance
I cant narrow down an answer any better than that with what you gave us, abd i wont, because you cant even talk to this girl to make a move
You want to hang out with her, you gotta ask her to hang out. How else do you expect it to happen?
We can't tell you if you fucked up, because you know her better than we do.
>boyfriend and I had been together for 1 year.
>we both share the same mental illness diagnosis.
>schizoaffecive. fun times.
We recently had a huge fight, on account that I cybered with someone. While I did nothing to contribute, it was more so a "get him off - whatever" moment. There was no emotion in it except for "hurry the fuck up man" - does it make me a whore? Probably.
Tonight, I do not know what triggers it, but his memory brings up a moment early in our relationship where he fucked a girl.. but blames his medication was not yet altered in a way that it made him normal... All I wanted was to laugh.. Because for a week he gave me hell about being honest with him and continuously asking if I was fucking anyone.
I found it fuckin' hilarious more than I felt hurt.
Now he's scared that I'll do it right back to him, but I won't, I'm too busy laughing.
> Do I stay with him? I love this man to death, and I know he is my soulmate, but how do I know I can trust him completely again? Is it wrong for me to demand that he cut off ALL ties with this girl? Would it be too much if I demanded to see his messages on Facebook?
as long as she isnt a balloon animal and has a >=6/10 face im in
remember, body and face are evaluated separately, so stop stuffing your face and go for a walk you disgusting farm animal
7/10 most days with minimal effort. Maybe an 8 if I make extra effort. Like I said, I'm not insecure about my looks or anything, I just asked for the sake of asking. I have a boyfriend and everything.
Butterfaces are a wonderful thing. I can get a 7 body and a 3 face for the effort of a 4.
Also, 3/7 is the lowest I'd go. 4/6, and 5/5 are fine, too, but I won't go below a 5 body even with a 10 face.
I feel sad as fuck right now..
"Noo! It was real, really. It was spontaneous. I've always been spontaneous. I can't tell lies...
I'm just not ready for a relationship. We just met once. And ok, we talk a lot. About lots of things. But, I mean. This is not enough to me
And let me be honest. I don't even sure I'll be ready for a relationship if we'll meet more times.
That's why I thought I've made a mistake with you. I knew you like me. And even though I knew that I did not want any relationships, I started talking about cuddles.
Ok, it was real. But I should have not talking about that if I didn't want any other men by my side.
I don't know if you can understand what I want to say.
Huggins, kissing and all those stuff were real to me. But this doesn't mean that I want a relationship. I should have tried to say nothing about. Because you like me. And I don't want to hurt you. You do not deserve that.
So I feel very bad now. And I hope you will forgive me."
An example of what? A guy is either attractive enough, or he's ugly. Very few guys fall into the latter category. If you're worried about your own looks, statistically, you're fine
I don't know, I was really just curious.
About your original question, I've dated guys who were, conventionally speaking, as low as a 4 on a 0/10 scale. But I didn't think they were ugly at all, I was attracted to them.
Believe what you will. I never trust people who say they're horribly ugly to be horribly ugly, maybe you're simply unlucky.
And no, not really. If you were knowledgeable in a subject I'm into, though, then I probably would.
Keep in mind I have mild autism, though, I don't speak for many women.
I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday because I'm in love with a very good friend (we've known each other for more or less 5 months). I've never had so much things in common with someone before, and I know she really likes me too (as a friend or something else, I can't be sure), I feel like we have a good vibe. Problem is she has a boyfriend, but she's in a long distance relationship and she mentioned once that the distance is the only thing keeping them together (she is happy with him though I think). I don't know what to do, I really can't stop thinking about her and it's pissing me off. I want to tell her how I feel but I don't know how to do it, and I'm scared that it might destroy our friendship if she isn't interested (plus it can make things weird in our social circle, as we are both part of a pretty tight group of friends). I thought that the first thing I should do is mention my breakup, see how she reacts...
Hope someone can help me or just answer me with something, even though this message is pretty confused. I'm pretty lost right now.
This nigress here gets it. There's no point in rating people on a scale out of 10. The only thing that matters is would you date/fuck them depending on what your intentions are. If the answer is yes then they're not too ugly.
Who else /boolean/ here?
I can't give you a number. Pretty enough that I won't mind looking at her face for extended periods of time and not fat. Based on what I've heard other people rate girls that I wouldn't mind dating I'd say around 4-5. There isn't some magical point where the girl would be too ugly but depends on a huge amount of variables.
Sexy. Though my opinion may be a bit biased as I have a few otk socks myself...
Depends on why/how she does it. If it's ironically and for fun I wouldn't mind. If she unironically browses and posts in /pol/ I'd lose interest.
Depends on how often you watch anime.
Stop feeling entitled to a girl.
You shouldn't make a move on a girl in a relationship. Even if the relationship is defective in some way. Go ahead and mention your breakup. Don't expect much.
As long as he's not deformed, smelly, or obese, he's probably alright. You're not getting a girl because you're insecure, and these answers really aren't going to help you feel better.
this, make it clear that she needs to contribute
its completely reasonable, she's just feeling the potential loss of disposable income
of course if someone has the choice of not having to spend $300 a month then they'll choose not to, make it clear that if she lives with you there is no choice
I don't understand this "Nice guy" thing.
Do I have to take this thing literally or what exactly is this?
I am a kind person, and I can't be a bad person either, but this subject confuses me entirely and that's why I can't comprehend it.
Not neccesarily, though if I had feelings for a guy I wouldn't say that because it sounds really clingy and weird. I would be more likely to say it to a friend, not caring if they responded negatively
How do I convince my girlfriend to be pro-abortion?
>her family is catholic, but parents aren't that conservative
>she believes in god, but doesn't take religion very seriously
>talking to girlfriend about sex and babies
>mentions she's on the pill (phew, she isn't anti contraception!)
>ask her what she thinks about abortions
>says women should have the right to have it, but would never have one herself
>ask "what if you got pregnant like right now?"
we're turning 19 this year, and we both have big ambitions for our careers
so right now isn't an ideal time for a 18 year baby burden
I would never force/manipulate her into getting an abortion
but it'd be nice to convince her just in case her birth control fails, like it did with me and my half sister
(my dad is not a happy man)
How should I persuade her?
I actually plan on getting vasgel as a birth control because even if I do convince her to have an abortion,
I've heard a lot about girls changing their mind when they get pregnant
how do I get friend zoned? Im strictly nice to women but they often "give me the green light" or flat out ask me out. I just want friends
also my girlfriend wants to peg me and Id like to know the best tool for the job
abortions are harmful to the body
why do you want to convince her to have an abortion anyway? do you have a fetish or something? also
> i would never manipulate her into having an abortion,,,
> how can i convince her to have an abortion?
shoot yourself in the cock you spastic
I said potentially. With any medical procedure, there's a possibility that something can go wrong, and she can be physically worse off for it. Also, it's very common for women to be depressed after having an abortion.
>hasn't made an informed decision
Make sure that she has appropriate resources to make a decision. You do understand that if she does get an abortion and regrets it, she will very likely come to resent you for it. I mean, I get your point is that you first and foremost don't want kids, but I should hope your relationship is also important to you.
don't know if you have fire ants in your dick or if you're just craving a flame war,
>mom and several other people I know had abortions long ago, they're all fine
>ideally she'd never need an abortion
>big dif between convincing and manipulating
well yeah but giving birth can go wrong too, doesn't mean we should stop having kids
like I said above I know numerous people who are doing great physically and mentally after an abortion
she wouldn't regret having an abortion because she's admitted to me that she knows right now is a bad time to have kids,
so it's only a matter of showing her why there's nothing really wrong with having an abortion
the truth is, the most unhappy and physically unwell people I know right now are the ones dealing with having children
>neighbours with 2 kids look exhausted and barely smile
>dad and step mum fight constantly because my half sister came out of nowhere and they get almost no sleep trying to balance career and child
>dad was in great physical condition despite being 50 because great genes and working out constantly, now he has no time and both he and step mum are becoming unfit and tired
>older cousin and wife's health is waning, both are gaining weight and losing sleep despite wanting the baby
Mom on the other hand had an abortion because she wasn't ready at the time,
ended up having me later and is doing pretty well
Seems like an abortion is the healthy alternative
To women from a man:
How big of a turn off would it be for you to find out a guy you were dating was a virgin either directly from him telling you or indirectly from him being bad at kissing/making out...
fine you know best, nothing could go wrong with complex medical procedures involving all manner of invasive chemicals. shit all over your girlfriends morals for your own benefit, she definitely wont be harmed by having her convictions trampled and literally ripped from her body lol. nope, dont worry about accepting her being as herself, 'convince' her to change for you to be antithetical to her rest state, im sure that is A GOOD IDEA
just wear a rubber you psychotic bellend, then you wont have to ruin your girlfriends experience with her femininity lol
>well yeah but giving birth can go wrong too
You don't see what's wrong with this?
>she wouldn't regret having an abortion
You don't know this, take your goddamn head out of your ass. She'll regret if something goes sideways during the abortion, she'll regret if you have problems conceiving down the line, etc. She could even regret because women get attached to the idea of their baby/"baby" when they become pregnant. Don't act like there's no chance that she could change her mind. And her changing her mind is way more likely if you "convince" her.
>never said I knew best, only trying to show her my perspective to allow to her to make an actual informed decision
>anything can go wrong anywhere so saying I shouldn't ask her to have an abortion because of a small likelyhood of something is autistic
>shes told me she hasn't really thought about it and she doesn't have strong beliefs about it
>the rest of that is just drivel so I cbf responding
no I don't see whats wrong with it
show me some evidence that having a child at 18 is a better alternative to an abortion
>show me the evidence of things going wrong during abortions,
>show me the problems with conceiving that apparently arise from abortions
yeah the whole thing about getting attached to a fetus is what I'm trying to talk to her about
>changing her mind is way more likely if you convince her
well no shit because she wouldn't be CHANGING her mind if she was never considering an abortion in the first place
>no I don't see whats wrong with it
The people I know had successful abortions, so everyone does, right?
>show me the evidence of things going wrong during abortions
Literally ANY medical procedure can have negative side effects.
Apparently you have a sack of rocks inside your head in place of brains, so it's a good thing you don't want to reproduce.
is that a BS, standardized answer or is it the truth?
I'd like some more opinions please.
I don't have that many as that guy, but they are concentrated on the right side of my face so it seems like plenty to me. on the left side I have only one over a eyebrow
no shit any medical procedure can have side effects
but the way you're acting, you'd think abortions were the most dangerous medical procedure possible
realistically, abortions are the smartest way to go
going through with giving birth is lose-lose, you either get
>a mentally scarring miscarriage or a physically scarring c-section
>a 18 year physically, mentally and financially exhausting responsibility
going through with an abortion either results in
>an operation mistake (unlikely)
nice ad hominem by the way, great way to fill in the gaps where you have no real argument ;)
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
The answers in the OP come from the general consensus around here. If you want a confidence boost, get your ass to /soc/.
no it's the truth
although, I only have 2 very small beauty marks
>one small dot to the right of my mouth
>another on the top of my nose
I've seen many chubby/average looking guys with hot girls because they didn't give a fuck what people thought about them, no compare that to a small dot on your face
if your face is covered in them it might be a different story, how many do you have?
a photo would be ideal,
Why are you trying to convince me of abortion? I never said I was against it.
Generally people are advised not to get any medical procedure done that is not necessary, and there are definitely delicate places that people would rather not risk. Just because you're not concerned about your own ability to reproduce doesn't mean your gf isn't.
>going through with giving birth is lose-lose
To you. Maybe not to your gf. You should probably have a talk about your future before you waste this poor girl's time.
>nice ad hominem by the way
Coming from the guy that doesn't understand why anecdotal evidence doesn't prove anything. Try to sound smart again, why don't you?
of course, ideally she'd never have to have an abortion
I'm not trying to convince her to have an abortion
I just want to know that on the off chance that her birth control fails, she's not going to force me into 18 years of premature hell
>condoms break regularly
>she could forget to take her pill or the effect of the pill could be nullified by being sick
right now in our lives, we've both admitted having a kid is a bad idea,
so the only reason she's anti abortion is because of some religious bullshit her parents have instilled in her from birth
you seem very concerned with insulting me by the way, which indicates insecurity
>I just want to know that on the off chance that her birth control fails, she's not going to force me into 18 years of premature hell
You literally can't know this. There are plenty of women that say they would abort if they got pregnant, and then kept it anyway.
You're better off convincing her to use a different birth control, since the pill is pretty unreliable. An IUD would make it practically impossible to get pregnant, and on the off chance it happens, it's not possible for a fetus to live in there.
There are lots of additional things you can do to prevent pregnancy other than condom/pill.
You don't sound any smarter yet. ;)
>plenty of women who say they would abort but kept it anyway
said this before m8 do u read
>worst contraception ever
a retard is telling me I don't sound smarter yet what am I doing responding to this shit
Do people get into relationships/married to split cost of living expenses?
Im finishing my degree in information technology and Im learning that I wont be making that much money and will find it hard to support myself and the idea of random roommates is off putting. Im also feeling my degree is worthless because the pay will be so low.
>Im also feeling my degree is worthless because the pay will be so low.
Feels wasted IMHO, unless if you like doing that stuff that is.
>Inb4 some retarded jamal gets the job instead because he doesn't have the brains to get a raise or go higher in the field
>girl I like works next door to the post office
>I'm at the post office every day for work and sometimes run into her
>was going to go to the guitar store after so I brought my guitar
>she saw and asked me to play her something
>don't want to take it out in public and make a nuisance by playing, so tell her I can't, not in public
>she's very turned off by this
Did I screw up? What if a guy came into your work and suddenly started playing guitar? Even if it's very well played, wouldn't it be annoying? I don't feel like I missed an opportunity but did I?
Slept with one guy whilst being in a relationship with him for years. I know a lot of people judge people on their sex lives and then decide if they would be in a relationship or not. Would you be turned off by this?
For me personally, I don't mind a woman's sexual history provided she was in a relationship. Maybe it's wrong of me to think this, but I think men and women who sleep around outside of a relationship are a little sleazy.
>information technology degree
Nigga what have you been smoking? In tech your starting pay is going to be low, outside of SV, but once you can prove you know your shit the amount of money goes up.
It's expected to have sex in a relationship. Tbh I'd be more worried to learn you've been in a long term relationship and haven't had sex.
Do women care how long you last in bed as long as they're satisfied?
I love eating a girl out. Nothing gets me rock harder. Combine it with facesitting, and I can cum without anything touching my cock. Let me go to town for 30min, I'm game and won't complain.
Girls I'm with always orgasm at least once, then we fuck, and I'm spent in <5 minutes. Nothing I can do lets me last longer. Tried edging, numbing cream, etc and nothing. I think the most I ever lasted was 15 minutes and this was our second go, first time was 2 minutes.
As long as you're satisfied, do you really care if I cum immediately? Is it seen as unmanly?
I'd be okay with that. Honestly penetration is the most boring part of sex to me, if it lasts longer than 10 minutes I start to lose interest. I can only speak for myself, obviously.
>As long as you're satisfied, do you really care if I cum immediately?
Nope. Although, after a while if you cum constantly under 2-3 minutes I may start to get bored. Never been in this position before so I can't say for certain.
Is it seen as unmanly?
I would suggest fucking, then eating her out when you're near, then fucking again when you're good to go.
If I really like the girl, one or two guys isn't going to be a problem so long as she is completely over them and it's not going to become an issue.
Any more than that and I'm a little concerned.
No, my friends are not party girls at all, and they would never agree with me about the DUFF thing, they are all size 2 blonde normies, with their lives together, so I guess that's why I think like that.
I'm seeing this girl, we've been on two dates. To try and steer things a little more intimate, I asked her what kind of sexual things she likes and doesn't like. She told me she doesn't like to be eaten out and flat out refuses to do it.
I don't think I want to call her again, based on that alone. Am I an asshole?
I'm assuming the person is near me in age, so 19, give or take three years or so. Two sexual partners at 19 would concern me in that it could potentially mean we don't share a similar value system. If the person was older I might be ok with up to four sexual partners, but then I might get jealous and put unnecessary strain on the relationship that I would rather avoid.
In theory, the woman could have had a hundred sexual partners, and if she's moved past her sleeping around phase and is compatible with me, I wouldn't care. I think it's just safe to assume that the more sexual partners an individual has, the less compatible we are going to be, and that ~2 partners is the end of the range on a safe estimate.
Femanons, what's the deal with all of you saying that you want a man who will be kind to you and treat you with respect and then blowing him off and riding chad's cock and blowing random starngers in club stalls?
>I cybered another guy, but BF cheated on me. Should I stay?
You guys need to either agree to do everything you can to restore trust in one another, or else write this relationship off. Whoever started all this shit is irreverent, you BOTH fucked up and you BOTH need to work at this, TOGETHER. If you can't do that, it's time to go.
>Is it weird that I don't know how many kids I want?
It's not really weird, but does that also mean you would be equally OK with 0 kids? Because if your'e ok with 0 kids and 10 kids, like other anon said, that's a little strange...
A Nice Guy™ is someone who does "nice" things for women, to the degree that they will put themselves behind others. They usually operate off a hidden motive of insecurity and do nice things in an effort to ingratiate themselves and in the hope that they will some day be "rewarded" (usually with sex or a girlfriend) for their efforts. They consider being "nice" their main characteristic.
This is different from a nice person, who is someone who does nice things for BOTH genders, but also is their own, complete person apart of that, has self-respect, and don't feel like they're compelled to be ingratiate themselves with others.
>Guys, what are your minimum standards of attractiveness for a woman? How low would you go?
Probably depends on the guy. In my own head I'm like a 7/10 maybe. Attractive enough I get looks and apparently my gf gets proverbial high 5's when she goes to the bathroom (which... do girls really do this? What?), but not the hottest guy in the room. I could probably be comfortable with a 5/10, but at the same time I've had girl a jump from a 4/10 to 8/10 to me after talking to them. Personality is kind of a massive thing to me. It's all subjective.
Do you really do the above (>>16737570
)? Compliment/insult each other for each other's boyfriends/dates in the bathroom?
I remember one particular morning my GF once came back slightly bemused because we were having bottomless mimosas at brunch and she ran in to one of the girls at the large table in front of us at the bathroom, and the girl told, "You boyfriends pretty cute. That nerdy look must really be working for you". (it was sunday morning so she was wearing a random t-shirt from her favorite bookstore vs them all decked out for a ladies day out)
What the fuck? Is that common?
>if it lasts longer than 10 minutes
Your orgasm or the PiV sex?
Or is a 10 minute orgasm even possible in humans?
Multiple orgasms is possible of course, which is something I'd want to try and give one day.
Can i guy take things too slowly, for instance me and this girl have been out a couple of times but i haven't really made a sexual move. She brings up sexual questions but i haven't lead up on them. Am i good or am i going to fuck things up
>This is different from a nice person, who is someone who does nice things for BOTH genders, but also is their own, complete person apart of that, has self-respect, and don't feel like they're compelled to be ingratiate themselves with others.
Alright, It's very likely I won't show symptoms of being a "nice guy", nor am I interested ing being manipulated like a slave.
If interested in BDSM and "Slave & Master" play then its a different story.
Just keep living your life and keep putting yourself out there.
Eventually that pain will fade away, and before you know it, you'll found yourself having moved on, and looking forward at the future, rather than back at the past.
To any femanons ITT: if you found out a guy you're seeing leaked nudes of an ex, how would that make you feel? Is this something that would be relationship ending, or if the guy regrets it deeply, is it forgivable. Would it put your trust in him in jeopardy?
>Am I a bad boyfriend for asking her to chip in?
Somewhat more positive.
It's sarcasm. Some pretty shitty people describe themselves as "nice guys." It was so common it became a cliche (similar to "friendzone" for getting the "let's just be friends" cliche). Don't worry about it, just be who you are. If someone is paranoid enough to think you're just pretending when you're just acting normal, take it as a compliment. You'd never be happy with that kind of person anyway.
Well, I'm done with girls. I quit. This was the first girl I've ever had feelings for. Feelings I didn't know I could have. She opened me up emotionally. and now it all just went to shit. And I feel sad as fuck.
I never want this again.
What he did speaks to his character, and people's character doesn't change easily. Age is no excuse - if you're old enough to be receiving nudes, then you're old enough to know that leaking them when she trusted you is wrong. He's untrustworthy, end of story. I'm not saying he doesn't deserve to be in a relationship, but I'm saying I wouldn't date him.
I kind of doubt that. I mean I'm 25 and this was the first girl I've ever taken out on a date. From puberty up til I met her I didn't care for a girlfriend or anything. I've never been or felt desperate. So it was pretty easy to go all of those years with nothing.
Okay, let's flip this around a bit. Say that happened to you, would you ever like to hear an apology from said shitbag person, or would you prefer that they were basically dead to you.
> Be me, exchange student
> eye contact at tutorial teacher
> girl (Also exchange student) in front of me keeps looking back at me
> Next day different tutorial
> See her with another guy from same country
> Guy looks at me
At this moment I feel that I can't stop thinking of her. What do I do?
Probably not. To me, anyway. Other girls might be more forgiving, but when I trust someone, I want to be able to fully trust them. If someone turns out to be a shit person, I don't want anything to do with them
Is it unattractive for a guy to have a lot of female friends and attention? I have a bunch of female friends of varying degrees of closeness, some like sisters and confidantes and some just randoms that come by to hang out. They tag me in pictures with them on social media and comment and like my posts. Girl I dont really know but think is cute and wanna ask out recently started following me on Instagram. Is she gonna think I'm a manwhoer?
Not unattractive. I'll only care by the way you act with them, so since they're just you're friends there shouldn't be a problem since you won't flirt with them.
However, this IG girl might take it the wrong way if she notices lots of girls interacting with you online.
For me, if I noticed a guy online and he has lots of girls responding to him it wouldn't bother me as whatever they say is on their end.
>Or is a 10 minute orgasm even possible in humans?
I once had a 15 second rolling orgasm, and part way through I thought, "Holy shit, is this still happening?" It was amazing but afterwards I was absolutely exhausted.
I want you to sit and just count out 15 seconds. That's a long time to be orgasming.
Ten minutes? I think around the two minute mark I'd think I was dying. An amazing death.
You're fine. You two just have different values. I'd be understanding and happy that you were being considerate of my coworkers. Or if you were just nervous about playing in public in front of strangers, I'd think that was valid too.
Honestly, I'd say that it's a bit of a question to her character if she was so bothered by this.
Has any of you ever had a crush on an asexual person? How did you deal with it? I'm in this situation and i pretty much don't know what to do. She claims to be completly asexual and aromantic, and i know her long enough to know it's true.
I would try to avoid turning it into an interview but I try to find out what they're passionate about. It's cliche and overdone to ask "what are you into/do in your free time" but when their eyes light up talking about something they love, it doesn't really matter.
I kind of want to ask this girl out. Not romantically, mind you. She has a boyfriend of a few years, and she told me she's getting bored with him. She likes him and enjoys her time with him, but she's bored.
This girl and I go way back as good friends, though we only reconnected somewhat recently. Before her current guy got in the picture, we used to meet up somewhat regularly and hang out as friends. I had feelings for her back then and she reciprocated, but it didn't work out and we went back to friends pretty quick. I have no such feelings now, and yesterday she shot me down for not being her type when I didn't even bring it up.
We're still good friends though, and I'm kind of bored too. The idea of meeting up again and doing activities together like we used to seems like fun to me and she'd probably like it too, but I don't know if I should.
Is this a bad idea? Could I damage their relationship by going through with this, or won't it be a big deal since we're just friends who go way back? Should I worry that this could make me a boyfriend supplement to them or whatever? I don't really know what to call it or even if I should call it. What should I do?
This is what I did when my ex of almost a decade left me for her coworker
>rely on friends heavily for support
>went to therapy
>played an open mic
>immersed myself in my hobbies
>rediscovered and found new interests
It's been a hell of a ride but I've never felt better. Ive made new connections and strengthened existing ones. Dated some awesome girls and some terrible girls. Fell in and out of love again. I'm actually thankful the relationship ended.
It's gonna be okay lil nigga you can do it.
All my friends are girls I once had feelings for and got "let's just be friends"'d with. My feelings faded, but the friendships only grew.
Is this a big deal to girls (or just you) if you found this out about a guy, or even just if he seems to be completely surrounded by women most of the time?
I think it works both ways tbqh. I was surrounded by guys most of my life, simply because i couldn't really get along with girls. There were like five of us, and there was not a single romantic episode in our pack. Guess i wouldn't make it a big deal.
Girls, what makes a guy desireable in more than a "good friend" kind of way?
I'm a social guy. I take care of myself, I know how to bring out the fun side in people, and both guys and girls seem to be very comfortable around me. I go out of my way to help others where I can, there's plenty that I'm interested in myself and I tend to keep an eye out for upcoming events I can take someone to.
Not that I'm looking for anything, but I've noticed that with all the people I meet and get close with, there's still nobody who actually takes me seriously beyond friendly gestures. I wonder why.
I guess it depends on one's personality. But when it comes to me i want a guy who knows what he's doing. I avoid deprressive nerds who spend half of their life either complaining about how they failed, or being insecure about the future, and it's pretty common thing around my age group. I think girls mostly want to feel secure when they are with a guy. But that's just from my experience.
Is it true when a girl is telling you she just got out of the bath/shower and how nice and relaxing it was she wants you to picture her naked?
Depends on where you are in life. If you are 18 you can dress like a fuccboi and attract basics. If you are mid 20s and up you can dress fitted business casual and suits and attract all kinds of girls from teen basics to business women.
I bought 12 eggs. In our house we share bread, milk, and eggs. Everything else has to be asked for.
So I bought some eggs this week and maybe ate 4 of them. My roommates (excluding 1 because they bought their own eggs) ate most of them.
Should I ask my roommates if eggs could not be a stable? I don't want to cause drama, but I don't know if I can eat all 12 eggs in a week.
I fucking hope so. I'm a little angry.
We share bread, milk, and eggs among 4 people. People are supposed to ask before they eat someone else food. Even usually roommates ask if they can eat another's stable supply.
I would feel even steven if they pay for some of it, but I paid for probably for 4 breakfasts. Four breakfasts that could have kept me sated until lunch.
I think I will ask them. I probably won't buy any this week though.
Probably switch to flax seed, but that would be super beta.
>I would feel even steven if they pay for some of it, but I paid for probably for 4 breakfasts. Four breakfasts that could have kept me sated until lunch.
But... they're shared. Doesn't that come with the implication that someone else will buy the next dozen?
>Doesn't that come with the implication that someone else will buy the next dozen?
I hope so. I guess I am angry because I ate a few breakfasts and then stop eating eggs for a few days and looked in the fridge, and now they are gone.
Time is slipping away and the tragedy of the commons is real.
>compliments me all the time, like the way I smell or my music taste
>we add each other on facebook
>Talk every other day
>Mostly just mutual bitching about our job or politics, but occasionally opening up about other stuff
>She's putting in her two weeks soon, may be my last chance
Should I ask her out? I've never asked anyone out before and I feel like I'm about to have an anxiety attack
Shit man, the city that I live in, I'm not even sure she's straight. It doesn't say she is on her facebook page, so is that a go? I'm kinda terrified to know people because I don't think they really know what they're getting into when they show interest in me.
I had a really great first date with one snag.
I mentioned something kind of nerdy and she sort of brushed it off.
We don't have to share hobbies. She doesn't even have to like it. But what if she actively hates it?
Tl;dr: have you ever hated something your SO enjoys, or vice-versa? How did you deal with it?
Girl I dated was into kpop and yaoi. I just kinda didn't care. We spend all day together, she can have hours of her own shit. I'm also into surfing and I guess she didn't like me getting super tan and hanging around bikini girls but I'm loyal af so it didn't matter.
Say you're dating a church girl... Like, maybe she's had two men in her life and possibly sex. If the question ever should come up, should I lie about the number of women I've been with? (There's an age gap and it's something around 40.)
if she's not paying rent she better be covering groceries or something or keeping the place spotless
you feel defeated by situation you have no control over so break up
"I've found jesus"
people don't want to be "with the enemy". plus you'll be morally opposed on a lot of issues if you two aren't in similar political parties
y'all are a mess, flip a coin
lowest i'd go is a 5/10
>casual dating/non-serious relationship
probably a 6/10
taste is suggestive
neutral, bordering on sexy
i don't browse /pol/, so probably racist
that wasn't a question
that shouldn't be the sole-determining factor
"nice guy" trope is men who thing being nice to women awards them sex like how a vending machine responds to money
make your intentions clear from the get go, act detached from any situation that gets to "romantic"
frequent sex in a monogamous relationship is better than frequent sex with multiple partners
interactive amounts of tongue, lip biting. also with mutual masturbation
find yourself, then find another girl. also scotch
yes, unless you're black
erroneous, i don't date tumblrkin
"what do you do for a living"
I mean, I figured that much. But I am planning a trip to my home country to visit, and go to a video game tournament.
It isn't the main reason I'm going, but I would be lying if I said it wasn't a factor.
See, that seems reasonable.
Either wants to chill with you or steal shit after you leave.
Nothing. Go with the flow and just follow her lead. Kissing isn't a procedural thing, it's more instinctual and intuitive. The more you overthink it, the more awkward you will be.
Do however avoid trying to ram your tongue down her throat, avoid slobbering all over her face, avoid trying to suck her lips off, and have clean breath.
i've been talking to/had a thing with this girl since last last year. she told me last week that she needs 2 weeks to figure stuff out but "definitely wants to hang out more and get to know each other better". i asked her if it changes anything between us right now and all she said was she needed more time. i let her know that i understood.
we don't talk as much as we do ever since that convo (2 tuesdays ago) and i feel like im already losing her and this is the closest i've ever been to a girl i actually like. i last talked to her today to wish her a happy bday. what should i do?
is there anyway i can fix this, if this turns out to be the case?
I am a relatively good looking 21 y.o. guy, but i am a neet and i never worked before. I live with my mother and her boyfriend. I dont have any friends and i almost never go out.
Is there any chance i will find a girl that likes me in my current state or do i have to get a job and move out? I will have to do that anyway soon, but still.
I'm a dude, but having a job is overall important. Before you even worry about girls. Having a job in itself should be a priority. By havin a job, you'll be gaining life skills, making money, paying taxes like a productive member of society. Those are important. Do that first then look for a girlfriend.