So I've been getting on pretty well with this cute girl from school (pic related).
I met her through a group project, and it turns out she likes smash and other nerdy stuff. I got her skype, and ever since then we've been talking late into the night, every night, for the last 2 weeks.
So... things have been getting pretty romantic on both ends.
But I've lost all interest in her since last night. She was talking about her "abusive" ex (do all girls have an abusive ex? jesus) and it turns out she gave her virginity to him.
I've been avoiding her texts all day, and I don't know what to do. How do I let her down easy without too much conflict?
Everyone has a shitty ex, yes. IMO it helps you appreciate your current partner if done right.
Also, people fuck other people. Especially at your age. Who gives a shit if she lost her v-card? It was in the past, and it doesn't concern you. Have fun, get to know her, and don't be so serious. You're not 30 years old. Have fun with this.
Dude there's a difference from being abused and being traumatized. Unless she is a girl that has issues and is unable to trust or love because of her past, then there is nothing wrong with it. Who cares if she isn't a virgin. Teach her her how to love and enjoy sex.
maybe anon places higher value on virginity than you do. ever consider that?
if her not being a virgin is that big of a deal to you then you don't have to continue talking to her. it'll be a long time till you find an attractive virgin qt3.14. if you're willing and patient enough to hunt her down then go for it.
as for letting her down easy? just ghost her. just don't respond. tell her you've been busy if she comes to you in person. don't flirt, don't show interest, don't make an effort. she'll stop trying eventually.
>Why would I take advice from a post-feminism western whore? You're specifically what I'm trying to avoid, if my post wasn't clear enough.
why did i laugh
>as for letting her down easy? just ghost her. just don't respond. tell her you've been busy if she comes to you in person. don't flirt, don't show interest, don't make an effort. she'll stop trying eventually.
Will this really work? We talked for like 5 straight hours yesterday. She'll know somethings up.
Statistically your mates will have had other experiences in their lifetime. They're living their own lives, and well, they've had experiences too. You don't like my advice, fine, just don't get upset because you can't cope that girls who like you haven't saved themselves specifically for you.
And have fun with your v-card "values" when you're older.
I didn't ask for your opinion on the matter. I asked how to let her down easy.
Honestly? Women hate clingy men. She won't chase you, she won't even talk to you. Just text her to the point of smothering. If she doesn't respond after 15 minutes, send her a text saying "pls respond".
Better get your systems checked, friend. I'm a guy. You can have virgin girls if you'd like. This way they can practice on chucklefucks like you so when they inevitably upgrade to guys like me they know what the fuck to do. It works out pretty well.
>OP locks it down with a good-looking dork girl
>"Loses interest" because she, like 90% of women over the age of 18, isn't a virgin
>Wants to know how to puss out of this situation
>Meanwhile I've been alone my whole life
Sounds like your priorities are fucked man. Make sure you know what you've got before you throw it away.
If you really can't deal, then man the fuck up and be frank with her. Don't just ignore her until she gets bored and leaves.
I mean, you CAN do that, if you're completely spineless.
But you shouldn't, is what I'm saying.
From what I read, you want OUT?
>she likes smash
>talking late at night for 2 weeks
>pretty romantic on both ends
That sounds awesome!
>lost all interest last night
Dude, don't you get it?
That doesn't compare at all to the amount of value your relationship has!
Why throw it away?
When this COULD be your love?
>Then throw her away
Everything in this thread is ignoring what "abusive ex" entails. There are so many ways to tell if someone will be an "abusive ex". How does he interact with others? What kind of friends does he have? How does he treat you conditionally; bad days and good days? Has he gave you a black eye?
To ignore all of those, and continue dating someone to the point where you would explicitly label them "abusive," is a huge dealbreaker. Every guy I've ever met who has treated his girlfriend like shit is pretty obviously the type of guy who would treat his girlfriend like shit. It means that they are emotionally immature, and have not moved on. It's such an overused word because it immediately absolves all responsibility away from them and onto the ex. Why even bring it up? Yeah, I'm "victim blaming" or whatever, but regardless it shows an innate lack of judgement.
Honestly though OP, who gives a fuck if she is a virgin/?That's some dumb shit. You'd want her to put out for you in a relationship, right? So why can't other guys expect the same? It's such a double standard. If she has a habit of one night stands, I can understand... but just virgin, that is literally some virgin shit you're going on about OP.
OP is clearly an early look at the mindset if a pedophile. He will eventually take his obsession with virginity to adulthood and molest little girls. Or boys he is a faggot after all.
Its not a double standard. Demanding that someone never has sex in a relationship and then demanding that they have sex with you would be. But just not being interested due to that fact is different from trying to force it on others as some sort of unwritten law.
He would have to be claiming that people should act one way for one person and one way for another. He made no such claim. He never said that there was anything wrong with her having sex with the guy nor did he endorse it. He just personally wants a virgin, he found out that she doesn't apply for that, so he is moving on.
Whats the problem with her having had sex already? You think its old and dried up, or worn out or something? Are you intimidated by her last partner? Are you a virginity fetishist?
Also fyi, pretty much everyone has an abusive ex regardless if their gender.
do you like herpes or something?do you enjoy the fact that she has intimate memories of a different man? do you enjoy kissing dicks? just imagine how many dicks she had in her mouth?
>had sex, must have herpes
That's why people get checked fgt
>enjoy her having known others
Nah, but so have I, and the past is irrelevant to the now. She isn't with them, she chose you, though I don't know why.
>she gives oral sex
I'm glad someone else got her past the painful and awkward stages of sexual experience, that shit is ungodly annoying. Virgins aren't fun, they're not tighter, they're not full of energy and zest, they're not pure, and they aren't interested in being fetishized.
Good to know you're a virgin who doesn't know how to please a woman.
>That's why people get checked fgt
No the doctor does not tell you if you have herpes. Look it up.
> the past is irrelevant to the now
No its not.
>'m glad someone else got her past the painful and awkward stages of sexual experience, that shit is ungodly annoying
My and my gf were both virgins and this was the best part about sex. Getting better at it together.
Id feel disgusting think that a girl learned to have sex on other guys. I dont want her to do what pleases them.
Not even the anon you were talking to. Virgins are fun for hooking up. Youre just a degenerate who wants immediate satisfaction. Virgins are for the long haul.
Yeah supposed to be arent fun for hooking up.
If you dont think virgins are for the long haul youre just part of the reason women are such whores.
Also glad to see you ignored the points of the post
>part of the reason women are such whores
Lol, you're a bundle of laughs. I have no control over their sexuality, they do what they want. Which is, well, me.
Ten have wrapped their sweet lips around my cock. Does that make you angry? I was also each of their biggest. Show me your face when you'll never please a woman like I can.
I already found my virgin waifu. I have no need to be jealous of the whores youre with. And I doubt youre larger than me lol. If you were you wouldnt be bragging. Im at the size where Id trade down.
Youre just another degenerate living a degenerate life.
So is it the kind of thing where when you finally experience it you realize that it isn't so great?
I've had sex with 6 different girls, they were all at least semi-experienced from a few major sluts to a girl who cheated on me with her long term bf who took her virginity. Still I have a desire to see what it is like to be with a girl who hasn't been sexually active with another man, and feel like it would make me enjoy it that much more. I just feel like it would feel awesome to know that only I've gotten the experience, kind of like being the first one to discover Galapados island. Is the main thing to draw from this that you won't see any giant turtles, just shitty regular sized frogs like on every other island ?
Oh my god youre a weeb too, this is amazing, you're so ripe with flaws to troll.
How does it feel knowing I've destroyed three girls' precious virginity?
How does it feel knowing your no longer a virgin, cock hungry whore gf is going to break up with you someday and blow a bunch of dudes with the same mouth she whispers sweet lies to you with? You're so cute and precious, I just want to frame your statements and hang them on my wall while I engage in hedonistic pleasure.
I fucked three women in three days at an animr convention two years ago, was yours one of them weeb?
Yeah, its overrated. Its like getting to galapagos island and realizing they dont even have portapotties and in order to live there you have to sculpt the entire island to be habitable. 10/10 would choose Hawaii instead.
If you read my original post you'd know
This is actually so pathetic I'm not going to bother with this level of projection. Too late to entertain. Enjoy being a degenerate and living a worthless life.
>Bashing a dude for pursuing his ideal woman
He's not pathetic at all, infact he has higher standards than most men.
[spoiler]He should just fuck her so he could lose her virginity though, he doesn't have to marry her.
Jesus, man. She's cute as all hell, and apparently cool enough to talk to til the wee hours of the morning. You're throwing that away because she had sex with a whopping one guy? Who she was in a committed relationship with at the time?
Not even, like, an obnoxious ex who keeps trying to push his way back into her life. Somebody she probably hates and never wants to see again, who's absolutely no threat to you. That's a deal breaker for you.
Whatever, man. Your call. You'd better be the suavest, handsomest, most interesting man on the fucking planet if you're going to be that picky, though.