So i am not sure if i will receive advice on this on here but i hope anyone could help.
I am really into being submissive but i can't get myself to bring it to my woman, everytime i mention bdsm or something similar she thinks i am being kinky and want to cuff her or something but i want it the other way around.
I am not shy with it but i don't want to force it.
Any help is greatly appreciated.
Hey Anon, I feel you. It took some time for me to tell my wife I was into the kinky stuff.
I basically presented an exact wishlist as a birthday present to myself. We drank a bunch and I was like 'Okay, here's what I want us to try for my birthday.'
Give it a shot.
i once had a fwb that was really into femdom. we toyed aronud with the idea and slowly increased the "femdom" parts. but then we broke it off for other reasons before we got really serious.
i read up on femdom quet a bit and it really got me going, despite the fact that i always tought i was sub. now i can safely say i'm a switch.
what will help immensely is if you CLEARLY enjoy it when she's taking charge. if you get rock hard or cum way too fast. it will make her feel in charge and powerfull. she'll be amused at your extreme arrousal. my fwb and i started of with roleplaying via texting. then i started to request degrading pics of him. and so on. it was a lot of fun. i really enjoyed it.
Hm, she pretty much knows that i am very kinky for example i got her latex clothes and all the stuff to play with and she liked everything.
I have a birthday coming up so i might just try the same exact thing, thanks for the advice.
Alright that sounds like a plan where she would get a share out of even if she is not a fan of it, the only problem is that i am basically deciding most of decisions because she has a hard time doing it alone, as i would say i got accidentally pulled into the exact opposite position in the daily life.
Did reading about the topic alone made you interested enough to act as a dom or did you get a slight hint from the partner to do it?
That sounds really interesting, i wish i could have that too, for a while i even acted like her slave and she didn't even realize where i was going.
Be careful. Being submissive is a HUGE turn off for most females. At times when I noticed my ex boyfriend seemed a bit submissive I lost all attraction for him until he acted dominant again. We can't help it. That mostly applied to submissive girls though, if she's a switch she might not mind.
This really worries me, since she is a person who really depends on me. Besides that we never really had a submissive or dominant roleplay since she usually likes it pretty vanilla but is easy to enjoy new things.
i couldn't say so, no. i had a slight interest in the topic so i started to read about it. tht was what really got me into femdom.
it also gave me the confidence to pull this off.
you might have to give her some hints when you start out in order for her to know where this is heading. i watched a lot of femdom porn with my fwb for example
Reporting back, not sure how nsfw i can write here but i will just describe it detailed, since this is a sfw board i expect you to skip it if it bothers you.
I kept giving her hints and then she started touching me and busting my balls while jerking me off, when i came she stopped for a few seconds and then went on, i never blew such a big load before.
After that we talked and i believe she likes it.
Let's call it a success, thanks for the replies everyone.
I think if you try to increasingly act as if you are in the position you want to be, he will be eventually see where this is going.
I think a direct approach about it wouldn't hurt either, just give it a try.
We have cuffs, so that's not neccessary but thanks for the tip.
Tie yourself to the bed before she gets home, or while she's freshening up. When she walks in say "your turn."
Proceed to give her encouragement because shes gonna feel awkward and uncertain and want you to take over