My (soon to be) ex wife is filing an emergency child custody order on me. All she has on me is a bunch of texts where I lost it at her for paying some dude to see his dick, a bunch of bank statements that suggest I'm an alcoholic, and hearsay from friends that I did a bunch of heroin and crack when the breakup happened (i did).
Is that enough for her to get the custody order?
Is there any chance that neither of you end up with custody?
Seriously? Heroin, Crack? Spending tons of money on booze when you have a kid to think about?
Why don't you make an effort to become a better person and see if she doesn't decide to let you see your kid then?
You didn't provide any context. This is an advice board, not a tell-you-what-you-want-to-hear board. Going purely off that list, you're not fit to be a father right now and your wife is absolutely right to file for custody. That list might not be a fair representation of you, but it's all you gave us.
Umm ok, I guess i can bore you guys with dribble.
I'm 28, she's 28. I make 13 an hour as a restaurant manager, I worked her through college to be a midwife. She makes like 45k a year. She left me right aftger she got the job.
I raised her son from another man from when he was 6 months old until he was 6. I quit my job so that I could watch our kids so she could do her internship (we had money saved up at that point plus she got 1k a month from "retiring" from the military after being in it for a year. She was released for mental health issues (I dont know what).
I don't think any of this is really that relevant and I'm not sure what you want me to expand upon.
I'm a fully functional 28 year old and I have a 27k a year job, an apartment, etc. I just want to know how far she can go with this. I live in VA if that is relevant.
Whether it's enough or not is only really pertinent to you preparing yourself mentally for what happens. You need to get a lawyer, grab any evidence you have of her infidelity ( the dick thing) and basically whatever you can use for ammunition.
courts are usually pretty reticent to disallow parents to see their children, but drug + alcohol use might just do it if you're a danger.
Other than that, it's impossible to say. Go get a lawyer.
she has some mental issues, including seasonal personality disorder. But I really don't know the real reason she left me, she never really explained it, although I was a lazy shit and didn't do enough around the house. Once she got her new job (that I worked for years to get her) I kind of went into vacation mode. I never did anything to her. But I did lose it and refuse to let go the whole "paid to see a dudes dick" thing.
I can't possibly afford a lawyer. I lost my house, she had all the income once I left my job for her, and I only make 27k a year. I don't even have furniture yet, I can't pay a lawyer 300 bucks an hour right now