Lonely

you sound kind of needy for some reason. you don't need anyone but yourself to be happy.

maybe you're stressed, maybe you need more rest, whatever it is it's probably not a big deal as you think. you're just human and it's normal to feel lonely or want to vent.

Yeah, I get that you don't need anyone to be happy. And even if I got what I thought I was looking for I might not even appreciate it. But maybe you're right. Maybe I come off as needy. I am an attention starved musician after all.

Maybe you should start a new hobby and see if you can meet a nice lady by doing so?

A partner will make you feel less lonely, but won't quell the roaring emptiness inside you. There's no formula for feeling less empty, but it helps to feel as though what you do is meaningful. Perhaps there is something for meaningful you can devote your time to beyond amusing yourself in so many ways.

It's also valuable to examine your thoughts during those times you feel empty. Are they rational? Do they really reflect reality?

>>16727545
Do what you want to do. If you want romance reach for it. I don't know how. But you WILL know. Just listen to your heart. No, seriously.

>>16727545
What job do you have that allows you flexible hours?

Stop pretending that you live that life because me and you know you don't. You're just fishing to try to get some 4chan sadgirl to befriend you. I suggest weed bro. Check her out

Be lucky you're doing anything musically, OP. I wanted to be a musician all my life and I can't create anything.

>>16728599
Whats stopping you bro?

>>16728631
Lack of any worth.

>>16728636
Worth of what? Your life? Your music? You know you are going to regret later for dropping music, deep down you will always feel unfulfilled

>>16728645
Well I mean yeah. Life is a series of compromises that leave you unfulfilled and unhappy unless you're a special person.

>>16727608
>you don't need anyone but yourself to be happy.

I have no idea how but this is probably one of the greatest line I have heard (before I have heard it before)

you don't need others to live a happy life, sure it is a luxury but not a necessity.

more people need to realise this

>>16728647
No shit anon, you have to compromise. I left my love life a barren waste and work as a bartender not some cushy 9-5 job so I can pursue my passion for music. I may not succeed but at least I stayed true to myself

Off topic q, but what instrument do you play?

I sing and play guitar. Yeah, I guess in a big way, I've really stayed true to my dreams, which is amazing, and a lot of my friends are having kids, and they tell me that they envy me. Weird thing is, I envy them. I really want to have a kid. In fact I have a huge swelling fear that I wont have a kid before I die. Music is extremely fulfilling, but I can tell you from personal experience, it can be really fucking lonely.
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>>16728597
Haha, I admit, this is the last place I should come to for advice. But I needed to stay anonymous, and I used to come here when I was a nerdy lonely pimply teenager, who probably was looking for some lonely 4 chan chick. I guess I just came back cause I didn't know where else to turn. I do live that life, but as they say, I guess the grass is always greener. Getting what you want, or what seems to be the dream, can be a curse.

You tour with not one "successful touring band" but three? While getting laid plenty by some pretty attractive women who are crazy about you while you just don't care. Right.

Sure you do.

>>16729001
Ha, believe what you want.

>>16727545
As long as you need someone else to feel fulfilled, the relationship isn't going to work out. It's normal to crave a SO and and a family down the line but until you feel content as a stand-alone person you're going to make a mess of things. Imagine committing to someone and that feeling slowly crawling back or being dependent on that person for feeling satisfied and being miserable whenever you're apart (which is I assume often, in your case), that person getting tired of your clingy-ness.

Maybe you're just experiencing some common fears and self-doubt. If you notice a decrease in appetite, have trouble sleeping and always feel tired you might have a mild form of depression. It can occur for no good reason.

Try a dating site. The girls there are looking for commitment and just dating someone for a while might put things in perspective and make you feel more at ease. Anyway, you're 26 and have a lot of time for settling down, don't worry too much about it.

>>16727608
I disagree.
Love can be a necessity for happiness. Depends on the person.

>>16727545
>In general I live a pretty incredible life.

Up yours. You remind me of similar people who complain about their brilliant lives to me and expect me to sympathise with them.

>>16730162
I don't expect sympathy at all. Which is why I said I really have no right to complain. I just wanted to vent. Regardless of how blessed things seem, having all of the things doesn't exactly equal happiness. I mean, look at people like Robin Williams. You ever wonder if he vented anonymously on a blog before he decided to off himself?

>>16730162
You remind me of the type of person that would tell someone with 6 types of cancer to fuck off because there are people with 7 types of cancer in the world and that they should be happy they only have 6.

>>16728834
Fem anon here. I'd say talk to someone that catches your eye. Find an interest you both like, and go with it.

Same bro. Same.

Wish I could help you, If I had what you had I know I'd be temporarily stated but yeah, it'd come right back around and I'd want to an hero.

Struggling really hard with it today. I just had to force myself from suicidal depression to deep hatred and anger towards life and myself, the sad thing is it actually does feel a little better but I know that either way I'm gonna kill myself.

>>16731001
I agree with you. I've achieved all I ever desired in life, I have a degree and am making a lot of money. I no longer desire a relationship. I have the time to indulge in all of my hobbies, in anything I want to do really. But I'm not happy.

People think that they're unhappy because of their money problems or some other seemingly perpetual problem they're facing. I used to feel that way. I thought that, if only I could get out of debt, then I'd be truly happy. If only I had the time to do things, then I'd be truly happy.

That's just not true. People are unhappy because happiness as they expect it doesn't actually exist. Or rather, perpetual happiness does not exist. Happiness is a state of being, one that is fleeting. We can't be happy all the time. And, at least for me, the moments where I'm happy are becoming less and less. I don't have an answer for you OP but if you find an answer, post back here. Millions of people will thank you.

>>16727545
lel you sound like a fucking woman who thinks she actually has problems. that is nothing try being a 24 year old kissless virgin who is a neet you have it good bro don't throw your life away for nothing.